THE POWER OF A STORY

Once upon a time there was..... And against all odds they did it ..... So can you .

HOPE

Sometimes that's all you really need. Hope. The belief that you to can overcome each hurdle to get to whatever it is you desire . From that job to that home , to that life ,to that car ,to that award, to whatever it is that is for you.

Now this occured to me in a series of events. As a writer and a story teller I tell my stories and the stories of those that I encounter. Now what happens when you need a story that gives you as the writer that hope you need? It's one thing to help people find hope but it's another when you have to find hope for yourself.

We always look up when we need an answer , we always look within and outside of us.

However, most times . We want to see a person , who has been through something similar. Overcome something , we are going through .To show us that there is hope after all. Life is a series of paths like a maze  some paths lead to dead ends.

Some that's take you further away from where you want to go .

Some paths take longer and others get you there faster .

What I believe is you are your own story. You write your story every day. The steps you take . Get you to where you are going. Don't be the passenger in your own life. Don't be the bystander . Take every step with confidence even when you fuck up.

But don't forget to see very clearly where you want to end up because that is how you get there.

Find inspiration in your own story (your past) and see how you overcame something and be your own flame of hope .

Use your own inner flame and nurture it so that it keeps you warm and strong . The days you don't feel so strong . Find your sunshine .Find the story that gives you a push to let your greatness flow.

THIS GIRL

See the thing is, I know this girl,

See I know this girl, beauty and brains this girl.

Heart of gold this girl, with some spots of ice .

This girl lights up a room but can still shut off the lights . Damn this girl!

See this girls been through 

Not to much this girl but just enough to want to stop it all.

The thing is this girls got a flower that's that brightens up her days.

See I know this girl tough on the outside girl.

Like pieces of a puzzle.

Only get to see the picture when you fit the pieces kind of girl.

Wants it all this girl, curves out a way this girl .

Gives it her all this girl but stops and pauses to carve out a new path when it seems to get further away from having it all.

See I know this girl tough as a nail this girl 

But soft as a petal .

See I met this girl now a woman this girl but what she said is don't forget you are still a girl .

YOU KNOW YOUR PATH DONT DOUBT IT .

Sometimes the journey to becoming who we are meant to be can be draining and we doubt the process because it seems harder than we feel we can handle.

I love saying this affirmation when that happens.

I release all my pain, hurt and fears from my past.

I allow myself to change ,grow and step into my light.

I am safe . I am strong . I am worthy 

I am powerful beyond measure.

Today all my troubles are behind me.

Today all the loneliness I feel has disappeared.

God is within me and  around me  

His love encases me and  I am bound for success.

We are born to add value to those around us. We have a unique assignment that no one else can complete.

 We are an important part of nature. 

Deep within us we can see the place we want to end up and we make decisions that lead us to our final destination. 

If you keep your eyes fully focused on what you have to do (tunnel vision) .Not taking your eyes of the prize and not allowing negativity to creap in and try to sway us off the path we will get there.

Spend time allowing yourself to be successful . Allow yourself to win .Give yourself permission. Because you do deserve it .

It's not luck. It's not by chance .

It's the path you where set to be on.

So allow yourself to attract all that the universe is trying to give you.

WONDERING SOULS .

If we where both two perfect beings would it be easier to accept eachother. Or does our past make it easier to hold on . Or is it the picture perfect future we could have.

If this was the hardest it was going to be should they face it alone or should they be there to hold eachother up .

Imagine the stories they would share on that swing facing the mountains.

Two souls far and close seem so much further than closer most days .Yet when they lock eyes its more than words can express. Peace, perfection . Home.

Would it be easier to pull the rope in the same direction rather than tug in different directions out of fear. To find it all and to loose it all or to gain it all.

If our existence was long and hard just for us to survive  to take care of those we love . Doesn't that mean at one point we would have to stop to  find our new selves and rediscover who we are now and start to take care of ourselves by taking care of eachother.

The tree that caught fire said let go. The fragile angel said hold on . The bleeding roses said i wasn't the cause . Yet the heart of the compass continued to point to its true north.

Time will tell. Time has told and time continues to say many things but are you listening.

A LETTER TO WOMAN part 1

THE CREATION OF WOMAN
A letter to all women part 1
Book to read the kings daughters by Diana hagee

When I created the heavens and the earth,I spoke things into being.
When I created man,I formed him and breathed life into his nostrils.
But you,woman,I fashioned after I breathed the breath of life into your man because your nostrils were too delicate.
I allowed a deep sleep to come over him so I could patiently and perfectly fashion you.
Man was put to sleep so he could not interfere with the creativity.
From one bone I fashioned you.
 I chose the bone that protects man's life.
 I chose the bone that protects man's life.
I chose the rib,which protects the heart and lungs and supports him,as are meant to do .
Around this one bone I shaped you.
I moulded you.
I created you perfectly and beautifully.
Your characteristics are as the rib-strong yet delicate and fragile.
You provide protection for the most delicate organ in man;his heart.
His heart is the center of his being; his lungs hold the breath of life.
The rib cage will allow itself to be broken,before it will allow damage to the heart.
Support man as the rib cage supports the body.
You were not taken from his foot to be under him, nor were you taken from his head to be above him.
You were taken from his side, to stand beside him and be held close to his side to stand by his side
You are my perfect angel.
You are my beautiful girl.
You have grown to be a splendid woman of excellence,and my Eyes fill when I see the virtue. In your heart.
Your eyes- don't change them.
Your lips how lovely when they part in prayer.
Your nose, so perfect in form.
Your hands so gentle to touch.ive caressed your face in your deepest sleep.
I've held your heart close to mine.

Of all that lives and breaths you are the most like me.
Adam walked with me in the cool of day,and yet he was lonely.
He could not see me or touch me. He could only feel me.
so everything I wanted Adam to share and experience with me.
 I fashioned in you; my holiness,my strength my purity,my love,my protection and support.
You are an extension of me.
Man represents my image.
Woman,my emotions together you represent the. Totality of God

EMOTIONAL HEALING

Emotional healing is the process of acknowledging, allowing, accepting, integrating, and processing painful life experiences and strong emotions. It may involve empathy, self-regulation, self-compassion, self-acceptance, mindfulness, and integration.

Many people have a tendency to want to control the process of emotional healing by minimizing the pain and controlling their emotions, but this can actually inhibit the process of emotional healing.

On my own journey of emotional healing I have tried and failed, thought I had learnt ,had to unlearn ,thought I was making progress but only hiding behind a busy schedule.Being afraid to be alone and sit in silence and even been afraid to look in the mirror because I didn't want to see the pain I was carrying.

What I failed to realize at the time is that when we try to resist feeling something painful, we often protract the very pain we’re trying to avoid. Doing so is a prescription for continued suffering. There’s also something about the action of searching that blocks us from what we seek. The constant looking outside of ourselves can keep us from knowing when we hit the target. Something valuable can be going on inside us, but if we’re not tuning in, we can miss it. “What aren’t you willing to see?"

I eventually learned that it was less about what I could or couldn’t see and more about the way I saw things.

I read a quote that said,"The goal of this madness was to intimately come to know the madness of the mind by observing it. I learned how my mind continually taunted me with worst case-scenario thinking and the lie that if I just worried hard enough, I could insulate myself from what I feared most.

However ,just like my previous post I have learnt that I truly can do what I set myself to doing and with that as my frame of mind I changed alot over the years . It is evident through every post on this blog. I have shared my thoughts and my emotions . I have shared my experiences through each post and helped many of you along the way in different ways. 

 The most important areas to work on I have found to be.

Acceptance of the state I am in.

Finding the roots of the problem.

Letting go and accepting forgiveness of self and giving forgiveness

Physical representation of letting go of areas that need to be let go of.

Setting goals.

Starting over when I felt I hadn't let go 

Releasing yourself.

Finding who you are now .

TRYING SOMETHING NEW

TO LEARN SOMETHING NEW YOU HAVE TO DO SOMETHING NEW AND NOT BE AFRAID OF FAILING

For the longest time I've always wanted to go Bunge jumping and as the picture shows o finally did it. I'm actually terrified of heights and wanted to see what it would feel like to push myself passed a point I know was going to be harder than usual.

It wasn't easy every step up the 60m crane was excruciating . I stopped and looked down every so often to remind myself how far I had come, but kept looking up at how much further I had to go . Which felt like looking back at my life and looking back up to the future. So many times I could have given up but I didn't and that's my hope for you.

So I woke up one morning and decided to do it after about 10 years of procrastination 🤣 .what I learnt in those 10 min after waiting so long was. I really can do anything I set my mind to. So waiting so long to do it only denied me that satisfaction.

So what I would like to share with you all this year is if you are going to do something. Just do it and do it as soon as you can . Don't deny yourself that simple satisfaction.