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Untold lives of woman, is a woman's journey on the path life has set her on.
A blog about factors that affect the lives of women and where you can find inspiration.
The Un edited side of "life ".Where there is beauty in imperfection and knowing that through the support and wisdom we share with each other .We will help improve not only our own lives but the lives of generations to come.

Thursday, October 25, 2018

DISCOVERING MY SEXUALITY (part 2 nonbinary/transgender)

Brief intro................
The term “nonbinary” can mean different things to different people.It’s used to describe someone whose gender identity isn’t exclusively male or female.

If someone tells you they’re nonbinary,  ask what being nonbinary means to them. Some people who are nonbinary experience their gender as both male and female, and others experience their gender as neither male nor female.
Nonbinary can also be used as an umbrella term, encompassing many gender identities that don’t fit into the male-female binary.

Although nonbinary is often regarded as a new idea, the identifier has been around for as long as civilization has. In fact, nonbinary gender has been recorded as far back as 400 B.C. to 200 A.D., when Hijras — people in India who identified as beyond male or female — were referenced in ancient Hindu texts.

Once upon a time .
i was exactly what everyone thought i was supposed to be.
 I was what you considered normal.
You treated me as a friend.
No stares , No silent whispers.
I was one of you.

As i began to express my own sense of style.
You. Said it was un acceptable .It was taboo.
You made me ashamed of being who i wanted to be.

Once upon a time.
 I was told to dream big. "The sky is the limit."
You encouraged me to dare to be different .
You told me i should live my best life.
And when i did 
You said ,"im too much for you ."
I should be less like me and more like you.
You want me to please you ,and deny myself.
You want me to live a lie so you can live your truth.

My gender is your struggle.
How i look! how i dress, how i choose to express myself.
What is it to you ,who i choose to be? 
what makes you think that i am an anomaly . 
And one day my brain will snap back to your binary systems?

Is it my fault,
You only see in black and white and i can see a scope of colours,
where i am free and aware .
You are closed off 
And in a world of infinate possibilities.
You want me to deny the possibility that actually matter's
and entertain the thought of alians yet a human like you shouldn't get a chance to be free to be who they are.
Your ignorance is your prison.
You are imprisoned by your programming ,
where you work for it and it  uses you.

I was born and you defined what i was .
I now choose to be what i want to be.
I intend on living this life as both male and female.
And i can also choose to be neither .
I am that cool.

Embrace me dont reject me .
Because i accept you as you are and all i ask is for you to do the same for me.

Thursday, October 18, 2018


This post comes  at a time where, the use of smartphones to access social media has increased and more people are turning to social media platforms to find friendship/love/money/happiness. 
It is estimated that more women use social media platforms than men.
(Bare with me as i explain )

As a digital marketing strategist/analyst
I help clients figure out how to best use the internet to achieve their international growth objectives i audit  the client’s digital assets as well as those of their competitors. From there i works closely with marketing and brand strategists to develop an international web presence and online marketing strategy. 

This provides a clear roadmap that orchestrates all relevant digital channels and tactics (i.e. websites, content marketing, networking on social media, e-commerce, search and social advertising, SEO, marketing automation, apps, media/blogger outreach, etc.) into one actionable plan. 

This is achieved by using all public information gathered from social media platforms as well as searches inputed by different users. (most people dont pay attention to privacy settings and there information is made public and is used in some of these online analytical tools.)

In short all this data that is posted online is available and can be used against you especially  to target individuals and lure them into what the preditor intends to use them for.

Young girls draw inspiration from socialites as well as reality stars and they dont know any better they expose themselves to dangerous situations trying to live the lavish life that comes with it

What I would like to say to every woman struggling to make themselves relevant/ an image to behold is,"The real you is much beautiful . Live life beyond what you want people to think of you and just be you .Things that seem easy always come with a hefty price 5 to 30 years down the line the consequences of these decisions will be evident if not immediately depression death illnesses kidnapping prostitution rinks are real . Stop putting yourself in a situation you might regret and then you wish you would have just stayed home in bed . "

You are a unique individual and you flavour life with your difference . Accept you. Love you and do you. That is when you will attract the right kind of people.Respect and love you and everyone else will.

In all things, live , learn be patient and never stop dreaming your time will come.


Friday, October 12, 2018


See my posts under the labels, self confidence ,abuse and inspiration. 

She stayed because, he was her first.

She stayed because, he said he was sorry.

She stayed because, she could see the man he could be.
She stayed because, she was affraid.

She stayed because, she believed it was all her fault.

She stayed because, she had no one else ,and had no where else to go.

She stayed because, she didn't want her kids to grow up without a father.

She stayed because she was affraid of what people would think of her.

The truth is the real reason She stayed. Was out  fear.
She made an excuse each time because she was too afraid to allow herself to see the truth.
She compartmentalised and made each time part of a nightmare she was never ready to face. She allowed herself to ive in a bubble. Of false reality.

Dear,lovely ,beautiful ,intelligent ,kind ,sweet woman.
You chose to stay but the time has come for you to accept that staying has taken too much out of you.
You are hurting, You feel alone, You have lost who you once where.

I want to tell you that your job isnt to break yourself with perseverance . Loose yourself in pain and hopelessness .

Your job isnt to mould him into what he might not be. Or what you think he should or can be.

Your job is to mould yourself into the person you can be, The person you want to be. 

Your job is to improve on you and to make you a woman of substance and not a broken shell thats been used, abused, and refused.

We come into this world alone .we leave alone .we all have a purpose a reason and a season to get it all done.  Thats why God gave us a brain and free will.

Dont excuse his inability to use his brain as God intended.
Choose you . Choose hope and choose a future full of smiles even if it doesnt seem like there is one. Speak it into existance and act towards getting there.

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