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Untold lives of woman, is a woman's journey on the path life has set her on.
A blog about factors that affect the lives of women and where you can find inspiration.
The Un edited side of "life ".Where there is beauty in imperfection and knowing that through the support and wisdom we share with each other .We will help improve not only our own lives but the lives of generations to come.

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Thursday, September 29, 2016

IT IS OK TO BE THE ODD ONE OUT

THEIR IS MORE TO LIFE THAN JUST THE OUTSIDE

Sometimes life hands you things you cant handle and your left bent, different than anyone else.
Yet you still have to struggle on because that is what is expected of you. .
Your not allowed to lay down and let life win ,but at the same time you are never who you were before.

Maybe before you where one of them but now you are different.

Somehow the pieces stop fitting together and the harder you try the more evident it becomes that You are the odd one out.

There is no need to to try fit in .Even if it means being a rebel .
It's ok to be different life.It is ok to embrace the new you.Life has a way of changing us. There is no way to stop it .There is no way to reverse the process.The only thing that will allow you to live your life freely is to allow yourself to go through the changes..See the positivism in it and allow yourself to thrive . Diversity is what makes the world interesting.If we all did the sames things ,lived the same lives things would be really dull . We were given free will and that is what allows us to enjoy this existence


Thursday, September 22, 2016

IT IS MY RIGHT TO DRESS AS I WANT!

HOW I DRESS IS APART OF MY FREEDOM OF EXPRESSION
MY DRESS MY CHOICE
Sources Clothing_in_Africa
history_of_clothing_and_textiles
Freedom : The power or right to act, speak, or think as one wants without hindrance or restraint.

In my own opinion freedom is still an elusive thing. We say we are free to do say or act as we please and it is our right to do so. Yet when you pick a side or decide to do something there is always someone ,something or reasoning that holds you back and doesn't let you do as you please.

Naturally, who you love,how you live ,what religion you are, what you choose to wear or how you choose to do your hair or look in general should be entirely up to you. You should be able to do so without worrying for your own safety.

To be  honest the issue of how a person dresses is such an irrelevant topic because it should be a norm like what you choose to eat.  To still hear of cases where women  get shamed and stripped or abused for what they choose to wear is sad. Here in Nairobi the heart of Kenya which is the heart of Africa it is evident to see a reflection of what happens in the rest of the continent and the world. If you dress a certain way then the person that rapes you or beats you is justified and you get the blame .If you get raped dressed appropriately maybe your lip colour or hair or you where asking for it .such things just anger me . If you want to say it is uncultural of African women to dress a certain way i will tell you.."we are in the 21century the times have changed and depending on which culture or tribe you are looking at that statement is in correct because africans wore alot less before we were colonised

I see the point for such things like http://amberroseslutwalk.com/ At first the name slut walk didn't make sense but after seeing its similarities to Kenya's own #mydressmychoice it .A  SlutWalk is a transnational movement of protests calling for an end to rape culture specifically,participants protest against explaining or excusing rape by referring to any aspect of a woman's appearance

Brief history of clothes
The study of the history of clothing and textiles traces the availability and use of textiles and other materials and the development of technology for the making of clothing over human history. The wearing of clothing is exclusively a human characteristic and is a feature of most human societies. It is not known when humans began wearing clothes but anthropologists believe that animal skins and vegetation were adapted into coverings as protection from cold, heat and rain, especially as humans migrated to new climates; and an alternative hypothesis[who?] is that covering may have been first used for other purposes, such as magic, decoration, cult, or prestige, and later found to be practical as well.

IN AFRICA
In Northeastern Africa, particularly in Egypt, styles of traditional women's pink thongs have been influenced by Middle Eastern culture, this can be exemplified by the simply embroidered Jelabiya which are similarly worn in the Gulf states. The Northwest Africans are less influenced by foreign elements and have remained more in antiquity. The Djellaba (worn in Northwest Africa) shares similar properties with the Grand boubou, the Dashiki, and the Senegalese kaftan. in Nigeria women were head ties In Sahelian Africa, the dashiki, Senegalese kaftan, and the grand boubou are worn more prominently, though not exclusively (the Bògòlanfini, for instance, is worn in Mali). The dashiki is highly stylized and is rendered with an ornate V-shaped collar. In contrast the grand boubou is simpler, even more so than the djellaba, though the color designs reach impressive proportions, especially among the Tuareg, who are known for their beautifully dyed indigo robes.
In East Africa, the kanzu is the traditional dress worn by Swahili speaking men. Women wear the kanga and the gomesie.
In Southern Africa distinctive shirts are worn, like the long dresses they wear. For instance, South Africa is known for the Madiba shirt, whereas, Zimbabwe is known for the safari shirt.
In the Horn of Africa, the attire varies by country .some communities women exposed their chest both in eastern central and northern africa some used animal skin to cover the private part.. In Ethiopia, men wear the Ethiopian suit and women wear the habesha kemis. In Somalia, men wear the khameez with a small cap called a koofiyad.
Traditional garments where then replaced by western clothing which was introduced by European colonialists.

Later on
During 18th and 19th of century with the addition of new types of colours ( dyes), placement of colours (like length wise stripes) and with the addition of new elements (like waistcoats). Which during the industrial revolution, fabric production was mechanised with machines powered by waterwheels and steam-engines. Production shifted from small cottage based production to mass production based on assembly line organisation. Clothing production, on the other hand, continued to be made by hand.
Sewing machines emerged in the 19th century streamlining clothing production.
In the early 20th century, workers in the clothing and textile industries became unionised. Later in the 20th century, the industry had expanded to such a degree that such educational institutions where created
We call them oppressed because they have shackles We call ourselves liberated because our shackles read freedom
Do not go gentle into the good night.Race against the dying light

Back to my discussion
Clothes and fashions change nothing on this is permanent  we need to evolve as times change the world has much bigger issues to deal with instead of us trying to end world hunger people are focused on how someone looks.Women have become bolder in their choices and if she wants to dress a certain way or even join a nude community .It is her right.If you want to stick to tradition or religious ways of dressing or even if men want to wear skirts and dresses. It is entirely their choice and i think we should give each other the courtesy of letting them express themselves as they please in a manner that is flattering to them ,
That is how we get back our freedom.

Wednesday, September 21, 2016

BUILD ON YOUR DREAM OR SOMEONE WILL HIRE YOU TO BUILD THEIRS


 IMPORTANCE OF DREAMS. 

Why is it that we encourage, children to dream but often nip at  dreams and aspirations of people around us?

Dreams are necessary. Without dreams, there will be no ambition to chase. There will be no goal to reach. We will all be nothing without dreams.If you don’t have a dream, you can never enjoy the luxuries of life or all that life has to offer. You will never feel that ecstatic feeling of achievement. You will never get pride in what you do and what you have achieved. All these things are necessary for human beings and without these feelings, there is no motivation.


Dreams are important for a reason. They are the foundation of a lot of our conscious and subconscious decisions. Before you experience something or do something you think about what it would be like to do it.They are what form our aspirations.Dreams also help in aiming for bigger goals.

In life there are two kinds people who want you to succeed and those that don't however those that don't want you to succeed do so in ways that vary. Their are those that will ridicule your ideas, some will discourage you and some that want to keep u close to keep u stagnated. In most cases, they will be the ones helping you but when you truly look at their intentions. You see they are looking out for their own interests. While throwing you a bone or two to keep you distracted.

Who will fulfil your dreams if not you.Don't let your fears frustrations and doubts cloud your vision. See the infinite possibilities that lay ahead.If you take responsibility to yourself you will develop the hunger it takes to accomplish your goals

The two important things in making your dreams come true,

  •  is doing something about it. Talking has never got the job done you need to actually turn those words into action to start seeing results.

  • Knowing the sacrifice,hard work and commitment that it takes to get you where you need to be.Allow growth give yourself space to learn and grow. Nothing happens over night unless your God. You have to learn patience. Beginning any journey requires faith and that's the beauty about following your dreams . Even when the faith comes to question the passion you have will drive you. Everything is a learning experience.

Don't live a life to regret. Having the opportunity to sit with people close to their retiring age, and listening to what they wish they would change was an eye opener for me. If given given chance what would you change? Spending more time with the kids? Not spending your life doing something you don't like doing!

What's the reason you / we work. I had to ask myself that question and the answer was I wasn't fulfilling my own reason for working and that made me. Take a step back adjust my life in a way I was living and working not working with the hope of living later. The thing is

Life is pretty simple we say we work from 9 to 5 to stay alive.Like a slave to the system. The reality is you can either, Build on your dreams or someone else will hire you to build theirs.So ask yourself are you building on your dreams or are you a facilitator of someone else's dreams? And are you satisfied doing so!

Live, Love,Learn,Laugh and never stop dreaming.
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Monday, September 19, 2016

TREAT ME RIGHT

I AM WOMAN,I AM HUMAN.

I am beautiful in my skin.No matter the tone.
I have dreams hopes and aspirations.
I am vulnerable it is the mark of my existence
Look into my eyes and see me for who I am.Not who you want me to be.
Faults and all accept me.
I am fragile, love me and protect me.
Don't break me. Support and
encourage me.
Give me love and I will show you love in the pure form it is meant to be.
You admire who I am, I did not get this way laying in a bed of roses.
There are days I got pricked by thorns.
I am not immune to fear ,but I don't let it cripple me.
My love is unconditional.
I brought you into this world, I carried you.
We made a bond you and I , in those 9 months we shared this body.
I held you nurtured you and cared for you as best as I knew how.
My back tells a story not many writers have the spine to write about. .
The unsung hero. A true hero non the less.
I smile even when I feel like screaming.
My face wears many masks . To conceal my many thoughts.
 You may wonder what parts are truly real.
I may act strong,but that only works for so long.
My true strength lays in my passion.
I will do anything it takes to get what I want.
I may forget my true worth when my journey clouds my vision.
Don't hit me when i am already on the floor.
Remember, When you break me, you break you.
For all you do. You do for me.
And what you do,you do because I taught it to you.

Thursday, September 15, 2016

DONT DISREGARD ME, EMBRACE ME!

I AM SCARED NOT BROKEN.
I am wilting away like a flower on a sunny day.
My beauty is fading away and I can't stop time to delay the process
Who I was before I know not. Yet who I am now I can't stand to look at
My hearts been broken and now my soul feels like an empty shell I can't stand this sadness I can't stand this loud silence
Don't look at me to judge me look at me with love look at me and see my humanity. Identify with my journey and help me rise like the first sunrise after a storm
See me not from the scars but me for my hopes and dreams help me get to where I am to be don't disregard me like you do trash Embrace me with love and see what grows out of me
For just like a flower dies another grows out of it.
So will iI.

THE TRADITIONAL ROLE OF WOMAN IN A MODERN SOCIETY

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 women-in-cheuvanistic-society.   feminismfeminist.  love-everything-that-makes-you-african.  the-history-of-working-woman.e.   a mothers love  
empoweringwoman-is-empowering-nation.
TRADITION MERGES WITH MODERN.


How do you define the traditional woman? Most people classify her as "A home maker that takes care of her family which is her only priority. A sub missive to her husband."
Who is the modern woman? The urban dictionary defines her as "Having many uses both professional and sexual. The 'Modern Woman' has a job, not entry level, has done very well for herself and maintains or does not maintain a family."

The contradiction is that a woman. Whether or not traditional or modern in her ways is still a woman and has naturally inbuilt senses that are goal and family oriented. The main difference in this case is that. The modern woman has to fight to earn her spot by being educated. So as to build a career to be able to sustain herself and or her family.

How is this different from tradition? Traditionally women would work together in groups to ensure the family has a home and food to eat while the man is out. Some cultures women where the providers and where responsible for the homes day to day living. Translate that into modern times and you see that the woman is doing the same thing. Only that now she can't work on farms she has to go out and get a job. In most cases women have to work longer hours,harder and for less pay.

Today's world has become much harder for families and women have to integrate Working life and home life to ensure the family is well taken care of. She has had to let her voice be heard and set goals,in order to do so, Families more than ever need two incomes to run effectively. Due to the high cost of living. Most couples in the early stages of marriage need to work together hand in hand to build an empire for their families and a lot of the time a woman's achievements are over looked. Yet fewer and fewer men want to marry a woman who can't support her own. Most people seek out women with qualifications because it is important for her to help ease the burden which is associated with 'Money'.

The sacrifice involved in focusing on building a successful career woman is already a high cost and if a woman chooses to make that sacrifice why make it any more difficult on her.When a woman finds a good man she is automatically inclined to build and take care of her home that is an inbuilt sense that cannot disappear just because she is a career woman.

It is rather unfair that women who choose a career are looked down upon and branded unfit wives. In a world where so many people and organisations are working tirelessly to ensure women have equal opportunities in order to achieve their dreams,wants and needs. It is a shame that it is seen as a bad thing.

The traditional woman has evolved into the modern day woman because it has been demanded of her. It is expected of her to be a certain way and if she isn't that way she is branded as unfit. Double standerds which brings me to the questions if the woman has had to adjust and re invent how has the man evolved?if being the sole provider is too much to expect from them. How have they evolved and what sacrifices have they had to make to ensure they encompass the traditional and modern roles instead of abandon their role!