A TIME TO BE STILL

Self-discovery is a lifelong journey of growth, reflection, and transformation. It's about peeling back the layers of our being, unraveling our true essence and purpose in life. 

It's an expedition of introspection, exploration, and growth that leads to profound understanding and acceptance of oneself. Exploring the depths of our thoughts, emotions, beliefs, and experiences. It's about questioning our assumptions, challenging our limitations, and embracing our vulnerabilities.

Breaking free of conditioning and societal expectations to uncover the essence of who we truly are

In our daily lives, finding moments of tranquility can seem like an elusive dream. However, amidst the chaos, there lies a profound opportunity to find inner peace. 

True peace isn't merely the absence of turmoil; it's a state of harmony and contentment that originates from within. Here's a guide to embarking on the journey to find peace within yourself:

The path to inner peace begins with self-acceptance. Embrace yourself fully, flaws and all. Recognize that imperfection is part of the human experience, and it doesn't diminish your worth. Practice self-compassion and let go of harsh self-judgment. Embracing who you are opens the door to inner peace.

Then there is mindfulness. The art of being fully present in the moment without judgment.Which truly  sometimes feel impossible to do. 

It requires you to pay attention to your thoughts, feelings, and sensations with curiosity and kindness. You can try  meditation, deep breathing, or simply being aware of your surroundings, you can anchor yourself in the present moment and find peace amidst the chaos around you.

Release.Holding onto resentment and grudges only weighs you down and disrupts your peace of mind. 

Which is another tough one.

Let go of past grievances and practice forgiveness, not necessarily for others' sake but for your own well-being. Forgiveness doesn't mean condoning the actions of others; it means freeing yourself from the burden of anger and resentment.

Gratitude is another  powerful tool for finding inner peace. Take time each day to reflect on the things you're grateful for, no matter how small. Whether it's a beautiful sunset, a kind gesture from a friend, or the simple pleasure of a warm cup of tea, cultivating gratitude shifts your focus from what's lacking to what's abundant in your life.

Another way is by going into Nature. What is natural. 

Nature has a remarkable ability to soothe the soul and restore inner peace. Spend time outdoors . Connecting with the natural world can help quiet the mind, reduce stress, and foster a sense of inner calm.

Nurture Your Spirituality as well by  connecting with something greater than yourself, nurturing your spirituality can give you a sense of purpose and meaning that transcends the challenges of daily life.

Taking care of yourself is essential for maintaining inner peace. Make self-care a priority by nourishing your body with healthy food, laughter,getting regular exercise, prioritizing sleep, and engaging in activities that bring you joy and relaxation.Self-care isn't selfish—it's necessary for your overall well-being.

In a world filled with noise and distractions, finding peace within yourself is worth it. Remember, true peace comes from within .it's a state of being that you carry with you wherever you go.

Self-discovery is not about attaining perfection but rather about embracing our imperfections with compassion and understanding. It's about recognizing that our flaws and mistakes are integral parts of our journey, offering valuable lessons and opportunities for growth. By cultivating self-compassion and self-forgiveness, we learn to celebrate our uniqueness and accept ourselves unconditionally.

Be aware of your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, as well as the world around us. Mindfulness practices enable us to observe ourselves without judgment, fostering a deeper understanding of our inner landscape. As we become more attuned to our authentic desires and values, we gain clarity about the path that aligns with our true purpose.

Also accept that Along the way we change. People change.Embracing change requires us to step out of our comfort zones, confront our fears, and take bold leaps into the unknown. By embracing uncertainty and embracing change, we open ourselves up to new possibilities and experiences that enrich our lives.

While self-discovery is a personal journey, it's also about forging meaningful connections with others. Through authentic relationships, we learn more about ourselves, mirror our strengths and weaknesses, and receive support and guidance along the way. By nurturing healthy connections with like-minded individuals, mentors, or communities, we expand our perspective.

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TWINKLE LIKE THE STAR YOU ARE.

YOUR DESTINY IS WITHIN YOU BUT IT BENEFITS MORE THAN JUST YOU. YOU IMPACTS THE LIVES OF OTHERS

At some point i woke up and said I was done with the nairobi feminist because I was naive to believe it had reached its end.

So many people asked me why. And to be honest I don't think I had a valid answer. Part of me felt I've done enough. I've said enough . I've helped enough . I've had enough. I'm not enough!

Truly selfish reasons if you ask me. But the thing about being a creative. You can only create art when you are inspired and I lacked that for a while. I lost the plot as someone once told me. That was the truth I was lost. I had strayed far away from why I do what I do and why it's so important to me.  Mostly because I had so much going on.

Funny thing is in all of that I forgot I was going against the grain. I was forcing my body,soul and mind to do things it didn't want to do. And it forced me to stop and listen to the voice within.

I must say what I heard made me feel very apologetic. I heard the words," who said you can just stop! The gift wasn't given to you . To use as you please but to serve . To help . To inspire . To teach . To comfort. It doesn't belong to you it belongs to those you help . Your just the vessel and if you stop what is your worth!

And I tell you I was shocked and humble and humiliated at the same time . I had forgotten we are not placed on this earth to just exist for ourselves . But to be a light to others and in that you have to die of self . Loose all selfishness . Realize that you are only as important as the impact you have on others. Create a little heaven on this dark Earth so that others can begin to want to see the real thing .

Live , learn, laugh , love and never stop dreaming .If you dream it it can happen. If you put in the work from the lessons learnt 

RECOGNIZING THE PAIN BODY WITHIN YOURSELF

SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO LOOK WITHIN AND REALISE YOU ARE THE PROBLEM

In our lives we all have moments where we want to be at peace within ourselves. However, it seems impossible. It feels like we are stuck and unable to cross that barrier to heal and find peace. I've been at that point of stickiness severally. However what I have learn in those moments is something I repeat regularly on here.  When you go against the grain. When you go against the very fibre of your body, mind and soul.Your  body will not allow you to proceed until you rectify the course of your direction.

We all have a destination we are heading to. To get there we have to realise the reason for our existence, let go of all that holds us back. That is remember you came into this earth with nothing. You will leave with nothing. So absolutely nobody  and nothing is more important than the soul that lives within you.Dont sell yourself short.

Don't allow yourself to be fooled into thinking your past, your present , your future is of key value. Think in this moment what am I doing that gives me peace and shows love and kindness to those around me . Especially  to the strangers you meet, the orphans and the widows.

To find peace you have to look back at all the moments that you have pain / sharp knives in your back allow them to speak . Don't silence them say those things outloud and release the power they have had over you by saying. I will not let you ruin another moment of my life any more.

NEVER REGRET AND NEVER LOOK BACK !

A REASON FOR EVERY SEASON

If I could choose a place to start. It would be at the point where the end is in sight. The point where all the moments of sheer heartbreak, tears ,frustration, fatigue no longer feel like that. Where those moments feel worth it. Where those last few steps get you to the finish line and you get a good cry because it was all worth it and you wouldn't change anything. 

Completion. The feeling of being complete.

When I started this blog. I knew I wanted to share what I have learnt and what I was learning with other people. Now between thinking about it and actually starting it took me months. Mostly because of the amount of vulnerability involved in sharing your story with the world. 

A mom at 21! Terrified!!!

Looking back I see my strength.

I see the pain , I see the joy.

Most importantly I see that what was meant to break me. Gave me purpose , gave me strength. Gave me hope.

I wouldn't change a thing looking back 10 years later I am truly grateful for every moment. Every experience . Every high and every low.

My brother told me .it's always better to have a tough start and a happy ending than the reverse of that. I have held on to that and seen it unravel.

I have shared my story with all . Hundreds of thousands of people. Across the globe I see countries reading my words on my stats that I dream of visiting. I get emails and messages and I am grateful that I had to learn something inorder to share it because, my lessons travel the world and open doors for me to get there in person.

So what I would like to say is . Don't give up. Don't regret, Learn your lesson and trust that Jesus has a plan for it all .

Thankyou every person who has been on this. Journey with me.

SOMETIMES IT IS NOT YOUR BUSINESS TO TELL!

Have you ever been mad because you, wanted to stop someone from making a mistake. However, they still make the mistake and then on top of that . They get mad at you for pointing it out and make you the Villain!

What if it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.

You volunteered information when they where not ready to deal with it .Instead of them dealing with it .They walk themselves straight into what you where trying to do.

The question is what was your intention when you where telling them. 

Two, how do you think they will react to the information.

Three, do they need to know.

Four, are you going to be ok with what they choose to do with the information.

The most important lesson I've learnt is always ask before you give your opinion or information. Consent is key.

Sometimes the people who don't know all the details are the loudest to speak but what comes out of their mouth is out of the abundance/ lack of within.

Also learn to mind your own business and stay out of other people's business because it has a way of coming back to bite you in the ass.

Deal with you and only you.

You can only control what you do and how you react and for those reason always choose to be better.

DONT TRY FIX IT OR CHANGE IT JUST LISTEN

LISTENING IS AN ART THAT REQUIRES ATTENTION OVER TALENT , SPIRIT OVER EGO .OTHERS INSTEAD OF SELF

I can be very opinionated and during a therapy session I was challenged to listen. Not just listen be there, be attentive . Be silent  and don't listen to respond but to truly hear what the other person is saying.

To be understood and to understand where a person is coming from  is one of the most amazing gifts you can give.

Communication is key. The lack their of causes a distance that can only be filled with understanding.

The human in us sometimes want to try fix, to save , to improve , to rescue.

However, some people need to hit rock bottom for them to truly want to be helped .

Sometimes we have to learn the lesson .

Sometimes we have to let them learn without us interfering in their process. 

I was once asked, " Who told you that you where created to specifically be their savior. You are only hindering their learning process ."

Word I can only now share with you and hope that you understand sometimes all you need to do is be quiet . Be present . Be there to just listen and do nothing else 

THE POWER OF A STORY

Once upon a time there was..... And against all odds they did it ..... So can you .

HOPE

Sometimes that's all you really need. Hope. The belief that you to can overcome each hurdle to get to whatever it is you desire . From that job to that home , to that life ,to that car ,to that award, to whatever it is that is for you.

Now this occured to me in a series of events. As a writer and a story teller I tell my stories and the stories of those that I encounter. Now what happens when you need a story that gives you as the writer that hope you need? It's one thing to help people find hope but it's another when you have to find hope for yourself.

We always look up when we need an answer , we always look within and outside of us.

However, most times . We want to see a person , who has been through something similar. Overcome something , we are going through .To show us that there is hope after all. Life is a series of paths like a maze  some paths lead to dead ends.

Some that's take you further away from where you want to go .

Some paths take longer and others get you there faster .

What I believe is you are your own story. You write your story every day. The steps you take . Get you to where you are going. Don't be the passenger in your own life. Don't be the bystander . Take every step with confidence even when you fuck up.

But don't forget to see very clearly where you want to end up because that is how you get there.

Find inspiration in your own story (your past) and see how you overcame something and be your own flame of hope .

Use your own inner flame and nurture it so that it keeps you warm and strong . The days you don't feel so strong . Find your sunshine .Find the story that gives you a push to let your greatness flow.

THIS GIRL

See the thing is, I know this girl,

See I know this girl, beauty and brains this girl.

Heart of gold this girl, with some spots of ice .

This girl lights up a room but can still shut off the lights . Damn this girl!

See this girls been through 

Not to much this girl but just enough to want to stop it all.

The thing is this girls got a flower that's that brightens up her days.

See I know this girl tough on the outside girl.

Like pieces of a puzzle.

Only get to see the picture when you fit the pieces kind of girl.

Wants it all this girl, curves out a way this girl .

Gives it her all this girl but stops and pauses to carve out a new path when it seems to get further away from having it all.

See I know this girl tough as a nail this girl 

But soft as a petal .

See I met this girl now a woman this girl but what she said is don't forget you are still a girl .

EMOTIONAL HEALING

Emotional healing is the process of acknowledging, allowing, accepting, integrating, and processing painful life experiences and strong emotions. It may involve empathy, self-regulation, self-compassion, self-acceptance, mindfulness, and integration.

Many people have a tendency to want to control the process of emotional healing by minimizing the pain and controlling their emotions, but this can actually inhibit the process of emotional healing.

On my own journey of emotional healing I have tried and failed, thought I had learnt ,had to unlearn ,thought I was making progress but only hiding behind a busy schedule.Being afraid to be alone and sit in silence and even been afraid to look in the mirror because I didn't want to see the pain I was carrying.

What I failed to realize at the time is that when we try to resist feeling something painful, we often protract the very pain we’re trying to avoid. Doing so is a prescription for continued suffering. There’s also something about the action of searching that blocks us from what we seek. The constant looking outside of ourselves can keep us from knowing when we hit the target. Something valuable can be going on inside us, but if we’re not tuning in, we can miss it. “What aren’t you willing to see?"

I eventually learned that it was less about what I could or couldn’t see and more about the way I saw things.

I read a quote that said,"The goal of this madness was to intimately come to know the madness of the mind by observing it. I learned how my mind continually taunted me with worst case-scenario thinking and the lie that if I just worried hard enough, I could insulate myself from what I feared most.

However ,just like my previous post I have learnt that I truly can do what I set myself to doing and with that as my frame of mind I changed alot over the years . It is evident through every post on this blog. I have shared my thoughts and my emotions . I have shared my experiences through each post and helped many of you along the way in different ways. 

 The most important areas to work on I have found to be.

Acceptance of the state I am in.

Finding the roots of the problem.

Letting go and accepting forgiveness of self and giving forgiveness

Physical representation of letting go of areas that need to be let go of.

Setting goals.

Starting over when I felt I hadn't let go 

Releasing yourself.

Finding who you are now .

HOW TO STOP DEPRESSION

In life we sometimes get mad at the people who are in our life for staying that we push them away and hate them for leaving.

Pain ,trauma, physical reminders and emotional scars have a way of being etched so deep in our mind that we go on an instinctual defensive mode.

We raise our walls and without knowing the very thing we where trying to avoid is what happens .

How do we avoid this ? The simple but hard solution is to simply to deal with the root cause of our triggers. Whatever causes you to need to protect yourself even when you don't need to protect yourself needs to be regulated.

How you ask? By simply saying this made me heart because it reminded me of this. However you then have to realize that this is a completely different situation and or person and or thing. And judging it based on a past experience unrelated is making a poor decision an unfair decision.

We need to learn how to heal our emotions by feeding them on a healthy emotional diet.  Feeling yourself with love, acceptance,and kindness . Knowing that someone else's decisions and opinions are their own and they should have little to no effect on how you see yourself.

You are the most important person in your life .Fill yourself with positivity and reassurance and most importantly self love.

Let your guard down. Set aside your pride and disconnect all the parts of your life that only bring you pain even if it also brings you joy. Choose you . Choose to heal .

Cry through the lows ,laugh through the highs but don't ever agree to feel that you don't deserve to be here Abit longer to try achieve the happiness you deserve.

FINDING YOUR WAY BACK TO YOU

YOU ARE NOT LOST YOU ARE EXACTLY WHERE YOU NEED TO BE.

The hardest battle you will ever have to fight is the battle that occurs within yourself. It can't be seen. It can't be touched ,it can only be felt.

You find yourself asking yourself is this normal? am I normal? how do I  make it stop? why is it this happening to me?

What I have discovered in moments where I had to sit still with my self is .sometimes life floods you with so much sometimes just so you can sit down and accept that you don't have the control you thought you did.

Life has a way of putting you exactly where you are supposed to be. At the exact moment you are supposed to be there inorder for you to grow.

Change is hard and we are often reluctant to go through it . But what life is to me is a series of seasons of change . You aren't supposed to stay the same . You are supposed to grow. You are supposed to fall.You are supposed to crawl and then once you have done all of that you will be able to fly 

My philosophy is accept what you can't change . Change what you can and learn where you need to grow. Life is intense but if you can't stop and find peace .it also has away of ensuring you slow down.

Love the season you are in because it only happens once .

Live,love,learn,laugh and never stop dreaming because anything is possible.

 

KNOWING YOUR TRIGGERS AND HEALING FROM YOUR TRAUMA

YOUR TRAUMA IS NOT YOUR FAULT BUT HEALING IT IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY

Let me start by defining what trauma is.

Trauma is an emotional response to a terrible event like an accident, rape or natural disaster. Immediately after the event, shock and denial are typical. 

Longer term reactions include unpredictable emotions, flashbacks, strained relationships and even physical symptoms like headaches or nausea exhaustion, confusion, sadness, anxiety, agitation, numbness, dissociation, confusion, physical arousal, and blunted affect. 

There are three main types of trauma

Acute.

Chronic.

Complex.

Acute trauma results from a single incident.

Chronic trauma is repeated and prolonged such as domestic violence or abuse.

Complex trauma is exposure to varied and multiple traumatic events, often of an invasive, interpersonal nature.

Alot of the time when we experience certain traumas and haven't dealt with those feelings or have not gone to seek help inorder to begin to heal from trauma and we end up trauma bonding .

Trauma bonding is the attachment an abused person feels for their abuser, specifically in a relationship with a cyclical pattern of abuse. The bond is created due to a cycle of abuse and positive reinforcement in most cases acts of kindness or one seeks forgiveness and says they don't know what came over them or are truly sorry.

Most trauma bonds occur in relationships.which basically is a deep emotional attachment that develops in a relationship characterized by abuse that's emotional, physical, or both. ... "Exploitive relationships create trauma bonds. These occur when a victim bonds with someone who is destructive to them and choose to stay for various reasons.

All in all trauma not identified will always cause destruction of your own life and those around you.

We don't deserve to go through pain and trauma . However it is a part of life and it is important that we choose to want better for ourselves . To improve our lives and enable ourselves to live in our truth. 

To do that it is important that we face our demons no matter how much it hurts . Some scars last a lifetime however inorder for us to live this lifetime we have got to accept the things we can't change and change the things that we are able to.

Believe in you. You deserve the best and don't doubt that and then work towards getting the grass green . Live, Learn,Laugh,Love and never stop dreaming . 

If you need help feel free to reach out to me and I will ensure you get help.   Http://linktr.ee/nairobifeminist

I GIVE UP

THE POWER LIES  IN KNOWING WHEN TO GIVE UP AND KNOWING WHEN TO STAY.

I give up.

Not because I am giving in , but because I'm giving away.

Giving away what doesn't serve me. What doesn't bring me joy.

Giving away what has caused me so much pain.

Giving up on an image I clung onto because at one point I thought it was all I needed.

Giving up on something that constricts me, something that suffocates me.

Giving up on striving for perfection.

Giving up on you.

Giving you away so I can be free .

Giving it away because i don't need it anymore.

Letting it all go and Freeing myself .have all

So that I can be more of me and less like you.

We all get to a point in life where holding on causes us more pain than joy. However I am sure if you look back in your life and see  the points where you let go . You can now see how that moment improved your quality of life. There is power in giving up.There is strength. There is courage . 

Give your best. Give it your all and when the time comes know that it is ok to also let go so that you can be happier.

20 REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD BE SINGLE.

Being single used to mean that nobody wanted you. Now it just means you are patiently deciding how you want your life to be & who you want to spend it with.

 You have just left a relationship.

Some believe that the best way to get over someone is to get under another...if we are being honest nothing rushed ever yielded good results.

Take time to heal, debrief and rediscover yourself.

You are afraid of commitment.

Deal with why you are afraid more often than not you will discover that it's past traumas still haunting you that you need to let go of.

You are still in love with an ex.

If you want to get back with your ex or still have feelings for your ex. You will just be wasting the other person's time.whuch isn't fair

You are afraid of being alone / don't like being alone.

Find out why you don't like being alone. Find out why you need a distraction or validation from someone else and more often than not you will find out you are dealing with past trauma

Your desperate.

What is meant to be yours will be yours. Do not force yourself into someone's life or settle for someone because you feel time is running out Or because of whatever reason you have been told or tell yourself. It's better to be happy and alone than miserable . Also know that you do deserve true love and happiness.

You expect every date to turn into a relationship.

Sometimes you have to kiss a couple of frogs to find prince charming or sometimes your looking at him and you don't know. Also know that heartbreak isnt permanent you really do have to get your feet in the mud .

You are busy.

Nobody likes to feel alone, neglected or feel like they come second. Find time for those you love and show them you care and adore them.

You have trust issues.

For starters I am sorry that in some way or form someone broke your heart or made you feel that you can't trust anyone. However if you really want to be in a relationship you have to heal first and then take the risk over and over again until you get it right. Don't let fear cripple you.

You are going though a life change .

Simply put, what happens when the way your feeling goes away? You can't make a person go away.....

You don't know what you want.

Figure out what you want first .know what you like and then go after it not the other way around.

There's a voice in your head telling you NO.

If there's a light in your head or a voice telling you this is not for you or this is wrong or you need to leave please do trust your instincts.It might save you time and pain

You have a to do list for things to do before you settle into one.

It just means that your not going to give it your all because what happens when the person gets tired of waiting?

If you are settling for someone.

Know your worth, know you deserve the best and even though it sucks waiting .imagine how much more it will suck if your in an unhappy relationship.

You enjoy your freedom.

Dont waste anyone's time if you don't want to commit.Dont break anyone's heart because yours is undecided or wild and free. Be honest about it from the get go.

For security.

What happens when the thing or reason to feel secure goes away. If it's finances you need to be able to stand on your own before you can allow someone else to carry your weight.

You have baggage.

The biggest reason relationships fail is because of past experiences,traumas or memories.in life you either become exactly what you see,better or worse how you heal from the past determines what kind of future you will have 

You want someone to save you.

The only person that saves is Jesus and even he lets us find our own path to him and he expects us to follow his word!

You want to fill a void.

Fill the hole that you have don't expect someone else to do it for you.  What happens when they become unable to keep filling the void?

PRAY

PRAYING IS RELEASING YOUR SPIRIT TO COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR CREATOR SO DON'T BE AFRAID TO SPEAK OUT LOUD

The holy month of Ramadan on the Muslim calender is here and i remember as a kid how amazing and hard I thought it was but the determination the dedication and the passion I watched  growing up from both family and friends made it even more beautiful. To fast and pray the whole day and then break your fast with your loved ones with good food laughter brings up many memories for me.

You know we then grow up see what life is. Have our own arguments with God as to why some prayers aren't answered or for some people who go through turmoil in life and try praying and become convinced that God doesn't listen or love them and even decide to switch religions or drop religion and God all together.

One thing I've come to understand about faith as I grow older is .sometimes you will not get what you want . Sometimes you will want to give up , sometimes you question everything. However the thing is the person who created you and put you on this earth irregardless of religion or how much you feel neglected by him . He doesn't change he remains and will remain long after you are gone. He even knew at one point you would feel as you do. 

Whether or not you believe it or not you where created and everyone is here for a purpose just as the eco system balances out with every species in it and if one stops existing the balance is lost.

Someone once told me everyone's existence /destiny is intertwined with someone else's and even though your existence may feel insignificant doesn't mean the space you occupy doesn't hold value to someone else So it all boils down to the kind of relationship you have with with your creator whether or not it feels like he is listening to you or not.

Take sometime close your eyes and just speak to him like a friend that just wants to hear from you . Eventually he will show you he heard you. 

If not what harm does it do to speak to your creator atleast he won't tell anyone your secrets.

Live ,laugh,love,learn and never stop praying because you could be one prayer away from your miracle . He said seek and you will find . Knock and the door will be opened . Maybe not at your timing but know he doesn't break his promises.

THE HARDEST LESSON YOU WILL EVER LEARN IN THIS LIFE IS THAT YOU ARE ALONE

LONELINESS DOESNT COME FROM HAVING NOBODY AROUND. IT COMES FROM NOT BEING ABLE TO COMMUNICATE THE THINGS THAT REALLY MATTER

You know one of those days where every thing that could go wrong just goes wrong.

That by the time it gets to the end of the day you just get into bed and feel completely drained. You wonder what's the point of life! Endless torture!  a game where you loose more than you win...

As you go through the waves and the voice in your head just keeps pounding you with even more negatively. You cry out for help but nobody can truly understand what your going through.

You want to scream that your drowning but you can't. Or even when you choose to ask for help you realise there's only so much anyone can do for you because everyone is fighting their own battles.

Or even when you are constantly there for people but no body resceprocates it back to you or in some cases people see you as a place of release .where they dump their pain all on you find peace and leave the weight on your shoulders.

It becomes clear that although we have friends who care ,family who love us and even careers that satisfy our needs and wants. You still can't help but still alone!

In those moments you wonder what life really is supposed to be about because everything you thought it was supposed to be really isn't what it's playing out to be and you wonder how can you deal with it.

I read a quote that said ,"The quicker you accept things as they are the sooner you will discover peace."

It resonates with me because I finally understood what it meant. Denial means resistance and just as the word suggest you are fighting /resisting what is occuring naturally. You got to exactly where you are based on the choices you have made. Both willingly and unwillingly.  

Your situation will not change because you don't agree with it . It will only change when you make the changes necessary . 

Before you can do that you have to sit in silence with yourself Listen to all the thoughts racing in your stillness and then silence the voices that bring you sadness, the voices that cause the resistance. Remove the fear and do what is natural without resistance.

That's why after a good cry you find peace because you have released and are no longer in resistance . You have accepted.

Live, love, laugh ,learn and never stop dreaming because dreams do come true. Ask anyone that refused to give up

KEEP IT SHORT AND SWEET

You ever just sit down and ask yourself if we got this life thing all mixed up. There are days we feel like we are on track achieving goals ,making money, working hard,staying out of trouble. And then there are days we think to ourselves is this all life is supposed to be.

I remember a story I was told about death . 

A man dies and goes up to find neither heaven nor hell. Just a place with souls walking around with no freedom. 

When he looked back down on earth he finally understood that he was given a chance to be free to be who he wanted to be,to explore ,to love ,to live and to learn and all he did was do what was expected like a slave of the system. He had wasted his one shot.

It resonated with me deeply so I thought I would share and ask you. What aspects of your current life do you feel you would regret of you where looking down on yourself and why aren't you doing anything to ensure you don't waste this one shot at life.. . . . . 

LIFE IS THE DANCER AND YOU ARE THE DANCE

Growing older has made me alot calmer because I've learnt that life has a way of reminding you that some things are out of your own control. 

You can't fight it.

 You just have to find a way of allowing life to do what it needs to do . Because what doesn't kill you makes you stronger and wiser.

The same way when you are sitting still in meditation taking a deep breath in and out aware of your surroundings present in the moment and just taking in everything in and releasing everything that causes you stress,discomfort, unhappiness,tension is the same way you have to take on life .

Whatever was destined to happen will happen . The best you can do is give yourself a fighting chance by learning from your failures and those that have come before you. By being patient. By learning and being open to new possibilities and by dreaming because without our dreams . We would have no motivation to keep going or get things done.

So when you get to a point where you feel as though you don't want to keep going or feel overwhelmed and drained or just unhappy take a moment. Pause take a deep breath in feel life flow through you. All around you and realise that whatever it is going on there is more to life and it is just a small fraction of it

Live ,Love,Learn,Laugh, Breaty and never stop dreaming.

CREATE ONE INCREDIBLE MEMORY FOR YOURSELF AND OR SOMEBODY ELSE

A MOMENT LASTS FOR A SECOND, BUT THE MEMORY LIVES ON FOREVER

Life brings tears, smiles, and memories. All of which we carry with us for eternity.
Sometimes it even feels like a figment of imagination .

However the only thing that makes it magical.Is when you share a special moment with someone else and that memory becomes something you both share for eternity.

During these tough times across the world. It is important to show compassion to those we know and to those we encounter along the way. 

It doesn't have to be a grand gesture it can be as simple as a smile. 

All you have to do is show them you see them /see their struggle and show them that you care for them.

Live, Laugh ,Love ,Learn and Lend a  helping hand to someone who needs it the most.

Happy New Month.....

RUNNING AWAY FROM YOUR PROBLEMS IS A RACE YOU CAN NEVER WIN.

YOU CAN NOT RUN AWAY FROM YOUR OWN THOUGHTS

 As humans we are automatically inclined to want to fix things that we consider broken in our lives, and in the lives of those around us. 

We are conditioned to be free so when we get to a point where we feel broken or hurt it consumes us until we deal with the issue at hand.

Sometimes we try to numb the pain or hide the parts of us that are broken and the truth is that only works for a short period of time. Surpressing and avoidance is never the solution because,you can't run away from yourself. You can't silence your thoughts .You can't run away from your own thoughts.

This life is proving to be difficult for alot of us .We are all battling various demons of this life and sometimes we feel stuck in situations because ,we do not know or see how it is possible to overcome the situation. we feel stuck in .

But that is where faith comes in .

Look back in your life to the times you felt stuck but through the grace of God he opened the door and sent someone to help you in a way you didn't think possible or gave you peace and restored your belief in him.

I want you to know that although it feels like your alone . Know that you are not alone .Your creator knows what you are going through. 

He has his perfect timing He knows the beginning and the end and he doesn't intend you to stay as you are forever. 

He is preparing you to come out of this situation better than you where. Turn your burdens to him ask him to give you peace and rest and he will. 

Don't allow the world to make you feel trapped,because there is more to you and your purpose will reveal itself during your hard times.

 Just trust in him and he will give you rest.Dont try to run away just be present in the moment and see that nothing is permanent.

Live , love ,laugh ,learn and never forget that. It's better to have a rough beginning so you can have a happy ending.