I CANT BREATH !!!

BLACK POWER IS GIVING THE POWER BACK TO PEOPLE WHO HAVE NOT HAD POWER OVER THEIR OWN LIVES .

We have all been guilty at one point or the other of , ignoring or silencing that voice in our head that said, "speak up" or "help that person "or that voice that said, "that is not right stop it from happening".

Maybe it was out of fear ,maybe we where too preoccupied with our own problems or in other cases , maybe we chose to mind our own business.

Well now more than ever we are all aware of it. We have seen what keeping quiet ,doing nothing, avoiding confrontation results in . 

It is a hard pill to swallow when you actually see how people with African decent / people of colour are treated.

Even here in our own country and continent . We see how the government and our own police forces treat us. Like the case of one Samuel Maina who was brutally  beaten by police and when he went to report the matter at the police station nothing was done. If we as Africans truly knew the greatness we come from we would not treat eachother the way we do. 

It is even harder to believe that so many people have been conditioned to think that black people are the problem.

That black people are not human.

To think that it is a norm that so many peoples lives suffer because of the colour of their skin is heart breaking and gut wrenching.

I have always believed that you should always treat people the way you want to be treated or even better. However at a time where our compliance has been taken for granted our silence has been taken for weakness it's just too much to bare.

My heart aches for the memory of George Floyd and all the countless number of people who have suffered because, they where taught that human rights where not written for anyone with African descent but only those of pale/ lighter skin.

I see the pain in all our eyes. The pain in all those protesters who are asking,

"How long will this go on?"

"Why do they hate us so much?"

The frustration as of not getting justice. The frustration that so many black lives get ruined because of racism but nothing is being done.

Do you really blame them for saying enough is enough!

The spirit within us is strong and over the years whatever they have done to us hasn't broken us. Right from the beginning of slavery, colonialism where theys stole our land , abused us , sold us tortured us, locked us up and dehumanized us .

They think we are inhuman because we can survive and have survived and continue to survive despite all they put us through and that is what threatens them. The fact that we continue fighting . The fact that we continue to rise .
They see the power within us and they know that's something they will never have.
#blackpower
#blacklivesmatter
#blackexcellence
#african

WHY DO WE SEE SOMEONES BEAUTY AFTER THEY PASS AWAY

LIVE WITH LOVE AND COMPASSION

 Life is precious and the people we meet as we go through life are just as important . Everyone has a role to play in life.
So why is it that we never appreciate those we care about or those we know and have encountered on this path life has set us on.
Why is it we only tend to see the beauty of a person soul only when they are no longer.
Are we that busy hurrying through life that we have gotten ahead of ourselves saying,'' i m not dying and neither are you .''that we think tomorrow is promised to everyone.
Each breath we inhale and each breath we exhale brings us closer to our last
Nobody knows when  where or how they will go.
The beauty of life means we have time to get to know people.
We get to experience life with them . We get to know what they are about and get involved in ways that help build eachother up that is what the human spirit is it is bigger than anyone of us. That is what separetes us from animals .
Yet when you turn on the news all you see is how animals seem to behave better towards each other than we do to each other.
The biggest regrets at funerals are always'' i wish i knew'' and '' i wish i did''. Why cant we live life and sensitive toward each others needs.
Valuing and treasuring each other while we have the chance,because the hardest part is going to the funeral of someone you once cared for and  what you perceived in your head and the reality is totally opposite of them is totally different lets save those alive and living  so that when they pass away we know we did all we could..

DEALING WITH LOSS

We were created to live for eternity that's why death shakes us to the core

From my own experience of loss and from being there for those I care about or even those I've seen hurting. I've come to understand that In our hearts, we all know that death is a part of life. It gives meaning to our existence because it reminds us how precious life is as were only here for a short period of time.

The loss of a loved one is shattering and can cause a major emotional crisis. You experience bereavement, which literally means "to be deprived by death."

You then begin to experience a wide range of emotions, even when the death is expected. Some people feel numbness after first learning of a death, or go into denial,disbelief,confusion,shock Sadness,yearning,anger,humiliation,despair,guilt,worry. Feelings that are a natural response. nobody is ever prepared for the intensity and duration of these emotions or how swiftly your moods may change. Sometimes you may even begin to doubt your own sanity But be assured that these feelings are healthy and appropriate and will help you come to terms with your loss. As It takes time to fully absorb the impact of a major loss. You never stop missing your loved one,tears will still flow.just as the memories live on but the pain eases after time and allows you to go on but that doesn't mean it will go away completely.
Nothing is ever easy you will mourn and grieve which is natural and you do so to accept the loss. friends and family to share your loss and will support you as best as they can although some people become nervous around you doesn't mean they don't care just means they don't know how to be there.

We express loss physically, emotionally, and psychologically. For instance, crying is a physical expression, while depression is a psychological expression. It is very important to allow yourself to express these feelings. Often, death is a subject that is avoided, ignored or denied. At first it may seem helpful to separate yourself from the pain, but you cannot avoid grieving forever. You can hide the truth but just as the sun is sure to rise so is the truth bound to come out.Someday those feelings will need to be resolved or they may cause physical or emotional illness. Such as stomach pain, loss of appetite, intestinal upsets, sleep disturbances and loss of energy the loss of a loved one can seriously test your natural defence systems. Existing illnesses may worsen or new conditions may develop. Like anxiety attacks, chronic fatigue, depression and thoughts of suicide.

What I've come to learn when dealing with a Loss of a loved one is always difficult. Your reactions are influenced by the circumstances of a death, particularly when it is sudden or accidental. Your reactions are also influenced by your relationship with the person who died.

A child's death arouses a sense of injustice for lost potential, unfulfilled dreams and senseless suffering. Parents may feel responsible for the child's death, no matter how irrational that may seem they may also feel that they have lost a vital part of their own identity.

A spouse's death is very traumatic. In addition to the severe emotional shock, the death may cause a potential financial crisis The death may necessitate major social adjustments requiring the surviving spouse to parent alone, adjust to single life and maybe even return to work.

Children who experience a major loss may grieve differently than adults. A parent's death can be particularly difficult for small children, affecting their sense of security or survival. Often, they are confused about the changes they see taking place around them, particularly if well-meaning adults try to protect them from the truth or from their surviving parent's display of grief.

Limited understanding and an inability to express feelings puts very young children at a special disadvantage. Young children may revert to earlier behaviors (such as bed-wetting), ask questions about the deceased that seem insensitive, invent games about dying or pretend that the death never happened.

Coping with a child's grief puts added strain on a bereaved parent. However, angry outbursts or criticism only deepen a child's anxiety and delays recovery. Instead, talk honestly with children, in terms they can understand. Take extra time to talk with them about death and the person who has died. Help them work through their feelings and remember that they are looking to adults for suitable behavior.

Elderly people may be especially vulnerable when they lose a spouse because it means losing a lifetime of shared experiences. At this time, feelings of loneliness may be compounded by the death of close friends.
A loss due to suicide can be among the most difficult losses to bear. Those left may feel a tremendous burden of guilt, anger and shame. Survivors may even feel responsible for the death.Coping with death is vital to your mental health. Seek out caring people. Find relatives and friends who can understand your feelings of loss. Join support groups with others who are experiencing similar losses.
 Express your feelings. Tell others how you are feeling; it will help you to work through the grieving process.
Take care of your health. Maintain regular contact with your family
Accept that life is for the living. It takes effort to begin to live again in the present and not dwell on the past.
Try to hold off on making any major changes, give yourself time to adjust to your loss.Be patient. It can take months or even years to absorb a major loss and accept your changed life.

If someone you care about has lost a loved one, you can help them by being there for them
Share the sorrow. Allow them — even encourage them — to talk about their feelings of loss and share memories of the deceased.
 Don't offer false comfort. It doesn't help the grieving person when you say "it was for the best" or "you'll get over it in time." Instead, offer a simple expression of sorrow and take time to listen.
Be patient. Remember that it can take a long time to recover from a major loss. Make yourself available to talk.Look forward to the future.this too shall pass and Some day the pain will lessen, leaving you with cherished memories of your loved one.