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Untold lives of woman, is a woman's journey on the path life has set her on.
A blog about factors that affect the lives of women and where you can find inspiration.
The Un edited side of "life ".Where there is beauty in imperfection and knowing that through the support and wisdom we share with each other .We will help improve not only our own lives but the lives of generations to come.

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Wednesday, December 30, 2015

NEW JOURNEYS

WHAT NEXT!

When starting a new journey learn from the past and strive for the future you never know what s waiting for you at the finish line

There lessons to be learnt in life that just have to be experienced the hard way there is no two ways about it and those lessons are the ones that carry us the furthest,and make us wiser than we were before.The beauty of it all is seen when you smile at the end of it all when the realization of the lesson occurs and you never stop smiling because you are ready to face the next task wiser than you once where.

The lovely thing about being alive is with each breath you still have a chance to write a new chapter in your life,you have the chance to correct a wrong,the chance to be better and not for anyone else but just for yourself,for YOU because for you to be a light to the rest of the world, the light from within you has to begin to shine on the form that is you.


Don't cry that it's over smile that it happened

Over the past year I've pushed myself to limits I never thought I could and I've done things I never thought I could do and all of that because of the risks I was willing to take to achieve my dreams and although there were a few tears shed I can tell you now the sense of fulfillment and sheer joy I feel tells me each tear was worth persevering through because the laws of nature don't change

It doesn't matter how hard the rain pours,the rainbow is sure to appear.



Friday, December 4, 2015

APPRECIATING THE NOW


HAPPINESS ISNT ABOUT GETTING WHAT YOU WANT ITS ABOUT APPRECIATING WHAT YOU HAVE


A lot of the time we go through life's medleys and ,we start to take our eyes off what we envisioned for our life .the things we hope to achieve .the things we have achieved. the customs and traditions we hold dear to ourselves and would like to see them being carried on in future generations.
The one thing I have realized is the more you do things like clock work.out of obligation,like a chore /daily routine you loose passion for it you don't appreciate the mere fact that you have the ability to do it, you forget the joy certain things brought in the pursuit of bigger and better,and  you take it for granted and eventually end up looking for other ways to make you fill that emptyness that has been created as a result
I love change and I do agree that it has to occur however at what cost are you willing to risk it all for something that your not sure about
Sometimes the things we search for the most are the things that are right infront of us the things we have ignored or taken for granted And they say you never truly know the value of something until you loose it
It doesn't cost a thing to take a pause in your own life and appreciate what you have love what you have who you are and stay true to yourself sometimes all it really takes is for you to really open your eyes and see the many blessings in disguise right around you

Saturday, November 21, 2015

EXTRACT THERES NO BETTER PLACE THAN HOME



After a terrible rainstorm  
In the sky, I saw a rainbow.
All the bright, beautiful colors made me feel so warm
As they dipped down so low.

I thought back to that legend of old
Sitting on my grandfather's knee.
"At the end of the rainbow is a pot of gold,"
He would say to me.

Every time I would see a rainbow
In that big, beautiful sky so bold
I would cross my fingers and make a vow,
"I would be the one to find that pot of gold."

So one day I bid my family and friends good-bye
As I started on my journey, following that rainbow.
I walked away quickly, knowing if I lingered I would cry.
I left to find that pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.

But as I traveled so far and so long,
I could not find the end of that elusive rainbow.
Feeling very sad, I began to hear a song;
A song from my childhood so sweet and low.

By the song I was sold.
No more did I need to roam.
In all that time I was searching for that pot of gold,
It was with my family and friends, at home.

Source: http://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/at-the-end-of-the-rainbow#ixzz3s6ra1wCp 
#FamilyFriendPoems 

Wednesday, November 18, 2015

FORGET FIRST IMPRESSIONS

They're the few people who accept silence over conversation
A relationship like this denies silly promises and persuasion
You don't feel the need to second guess thoughts or measure words for they may fall short
Their love comes in wholes, not halves, not thirds.you give wholes without expectations for that's what love is 
They're the ones that will guide you through when fate takes a turn,having complete faith in the unknown and accepting what comes
Fights, small and large, end in forgiveness, never a burn because it's easier to love than to hate after all why cause yourself unrest
You forget about first impressions and the feelings they brought because you have seen who they really are and know without a doubt there is beauty in imperfection 
You're grateful for who they are and you forgive 'em for what they're not.For we too fall short.




Thursday, November 12, 2015

BELIEVE

Every morning you wake up is a new beginning

To wake up each morning is a gift.there are days that it doesn't seem like it,but each day is a blessing and on those days when life doesn't seem like it's worth living are the days that you have to put in more effort into making it work.

The days that hurt are the days that are worth are worth the extra push and deep down you do know what you want to achieve in this lifetime and you have to strive to make it work till you get Wher you want to be.

As a woman I do believe that we are amazing beings we have the capability of withstanding even the greatest of pains which intern means there's absolutely nothing we can't achieve.because where there is need to create or become there is possibility for it to happen /come to pass.

When you look around you and see all the things other people go through that should give you the drive to make all you dream of come true there is hope if you BELIEVE so never stop believing you can achieve because your bigger than anything that can happen to you .

I like to say I was created to do something no one else could do that's why I'm me and not you so don't try be someone your not your an original don't try be a copy to fit in.

I believe  we all have a reason for existing you just have to know your worth and go the extra mile of never settling for anything less than what you deserve  because you are special and nothing or nobody can take that away from you so don't let them know who you are and be comfortable with who you are

You are special you are beautiful both inside and out.you where specially chosen to be in this world don't let anything bring you down especially if the Lord Almighty is rooting for you to succeed.


Tuesday, November 10, 2015

STANDING UP FOR WHAT YOU BELIEVE IN

I've always been the kind of person that puts other people's interests before my own,telling myself don't worry you can always figure it out. So just let them win this battle your better than this and most times I'd end up upset with myself and I'd take out my frustration out on that person
when the Reality was I was upset with myself because I didn't stand up for what I believed in Most. all to make the other person happy when I would be hurting deep down with no one to comfort me because even when I had a chance to fix the issue I silenced myself
I realized that standing up for what you believe in isn't something wrong it's an expression of how you feel and if you keep silencing your inner voice it only leads to your unhappiness
Taking a pause in the middle of a tough situation to come up with the best situation only happens on telly.
The reality is u can only make the best decision for that moment,and the decision you make then is what will determine your level of happiness until you decide to reevaluate the situation

The truth of the matter is simple where all brought up to be free willed individuals we all go through life and pick up survival skills and when push comes to shove that's exactly what happens we fight for what we consider acceptable and although love sometimes blinds us it gets to a point when u have to realize there is absolutely nothing wrong with loving yourself more.because although people occupy the space around you when you close your eyes at night it's just you and if your not happy with you you can't be truly happy.

Monday, November 9, 2015

PANCAKES IN HEAVEN

Have you ever pictured your favourite breakfast serving but the difference is it being served in heaven. For the longest time I've. Imagined what it would be like to have a slice of heaven and I chased that thought for so long asking the lord why can't earth just be peaceful why cant everything just go so smoothly and if he could show me what heaven looked like just so I could have one moment of complete peace.so I asked myself why do I have that longing for peace why do I wish the earth would be peaceful and it dawned on me that if earth was perfect I'd never seek the Lords council for I too would be at peace.one thing I've learned is that you can have that peace anywhere and those heavenly pancakes I've dreamt about could have been the very pancakes I had this morning.the thing we have to learn is we should appreciate what we have whether or not it seems fullfilling the reality is that by having that attitude those slices will become slices of heaven earth.

http://youtu.be/cI1ERLN-FH0

Live, Love,Learn and Appreciate

Friday, September 18, 2015

APPRECIATE EACH STAGE OF LIFE

                                                                 LOVING EACH STAGE OF LIFE.


You only get one shot at every minute of everyday.the best thing to do is to truly maximize on each moment,because the reality is that time doesn't stand still all you have is the here and now  to live and  mend the wrongs made in the past and strive for a better future. However it's what you do now that guarantees your tomorrow .

The biggest mistake we make , is we want to get to various milestones set in life thinking we will feel happier or get a sense of fulfillment that we forget about the present time . 

A good example is when you re so eager to turn 13,so you can be called a teenager .Then when you do .Those two years fall through the cracks because, you were  counting down to when you get to sweet 16 .Which comes and passes and the anticipation for 18 begins because,you will receive a lot more freedom . However your truly legal when you turn 21,and when you get to 21,you realize how much you let get passed you.As a result of wanting to be older and treated like an adult .When you realize it's not as exciting as portrayed, and you wish you can have it all back for a moment.

After all your only young for a short while and the freedoms you thought you were missing out on will be there forever  but childhood is only so long.

Or in the case where your watching a newborn,and you wish they can sit up on there own then ,walk on there own,then they do all that and soon there talking playing and starting school ,at that point all you have left all are the memories of the past and the what if I was more patient and let nature take its course.

If you don't believe me  write a letter to your past Self and watch it actualise I front of you.

So if you have now seen that you have been hurrying through life ,you can't go back and change your actions  you just have to work with the here  and now  and start enjoying each moment.your current reality  is what it is because you've  gotten it there.ups and downs  make us better stronger versions of ourselves.
I always say don't cry when your down fight your way up.then laugh when it's done because  you are better for it.

Live,laugh,love and learn from each moment in your life and see you become a better version of yourself.


Monday, September 14, 2015

WHO IS THE NAIROBI FEMINIST

UNTOLD LIVES OF WOMEN 
by
THE NAIROBI FEMINIST: MISHI KHALID

As a social Feminist I believe in the social,political,and economic equality of the sexes.
 As a Woman I believe we are here to create balance and bring out the beauty that is life.
 As a Christian I believe that we are here for a reason,with a purpose and on a journey with a destination in mind but on a path the Lord has put us on.
What I write is a representation of the untold parts of women's lives.
The sides of a woman .That you dont get to see,
The sides of a woman that aren't glamorous,the journey,the strength,the quest for success,family, friends,the struggles we go through,the inner battles that restrict us from fully utilizing our full potential,pain,the highs,the lows and finding the beauty from within ,and using it as the fuel that burns even when everything around you is falling apart.

This is also the journey that I am on and I use what I learn to inspire motivate uplift support and unite women because I believe that a woman's success should aid another woman's success and her failure a stepping stone to success on life's path.

 There's nothing on this earth you can go through that someone else hasn't already gone through,and the reason for this is not so we can compare how much better or worse we are from them.but to learn and pick each other up be there for each other in a way that uplifts, bring unity and strength.

To see the Rainbow you have to put up with the rain.. Everything I write comes from experience, and the heart without justifying the reasons for your current situation ,but knowing that the grass only gets greener,if you work towards getting it green,and never taking your eyes off the prize.

BEING HAPPY STARTS WITH YOU

YOU ARE ALL YOU GOT SO EMBRACE YOU FULLY

We all go through life pursuing what we consider our dreams, work successful jobs and families. Although we are all born with nothing it’s the choices we make and thoughts that make us different

The journey we embark on as we pursue our dreams is what determines our level of satisfaction/fulfilment .however achieving your goals doesn’t mean you are automatically a happy person because when you achieve your goals you have to set higher goals so it’s a never ending cycle .now if you ask yourself am i truly happy with my life? and you realise the answer is no. Then  you   know there are certain things you are not happy with but you haven’t changed.

The thing we have to realise that the things that constantly put us down are  the issues we never resolved completely. if in a week you keep getting upset over a certain situation you need to understand its nature’s way of telling you it’s time to make  a change. Because you can’t move on until you deal with whatever is holding you back, and the more you leave an issue unresolved it  then begins to build up and cause more issues until its a bigger problem than it initially was

Now we need to understand that situations can be changed or fixed however people cant be fixed as easy as we would like after all you can t teach an old dog new tricks. You may just end up putting your life on hold for a lost cause or maybe the cause wasn’t yours to fix.

You have to take time with yourself learn to love yourself a little bit more. Listen to your body mind heart and soul because if you dont you are the only one who will suffer

Being happy isn’t a complex mathematical problem its as simple as a hug and the simple things in life we take for granted are the things we end up missing out on and those are the things that will bring you the most joy don’t give yourself the massive things in life and forget the little things are the ones that bring the most joy.





ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS


ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS

(GVRC) Gender Violence Recovery Center, Nairobi hospital branch adams arcade ,kirichwa rd off ngong rd +254721696214/0721760146 gvrc@nwch.co.ke


Overtime  ,i have met  amazing women   .who have gone through alot in their  lives, and they strive to  do things better for their children .  as a mother, i understand that completely because no matter what i go through on this journey , i know  the love i have for my child will guide me on every decision i make .after all the lord is always in control .

I once met a  girl who was in her early twenties  who was in an abusive relationship and she stayed because she thought thats how he showed he loved her .i tried to explain to her that someone who loves you wouldn’t   want to cause you physical harm ,scar  you or even fracture any part of you because they would consider you a treasure they would never want to loose.

However i tried she never understood me she would call me and i would go to her some days i would get frustrated at her saying its what you want so you deal with it however i loved her and would still offer her my shoulder to learn on .till one day i asked her why do you think its love ?is it because he always comes home sorry with a treat for you after or because he crys saying he is sorry? her answer shocked me. She said” my dad used to beat my mum and im sure my mum stayed because she loved him too.”

 we stay in relationships for  various reasons some stay out of fear ,some stay because they think they have nowhere else to go or no financial capability. Whatever reason it is the reality is you will ever leave until you have had enough and realise you deserve better

Because those kids you think your protecting might one day find themselves in that very same situation and instead of getting help they will use your life as an example and follow  your example .

there is always someone willing to help you you just need to seek he help because everything happens for a reason and a season and maybe you have a greater purpose than you may see because of your current situation

if you know someone going through similar situation please dot give up on them and take them to the various centres available so they can know that someone loves them and cares for them for they are not alonegvrc@nwch.co.ke






Sunday, August 30, 2015

LEARNING TO DO THE THINGS YOU SAY YOU WOULD DO


CREATING A DOING MENTALTY

 

 I see the beauty in nature as well as the damage we do to it.i see the love in my child’s eyes, and i tear for the world doesn’t share the same love.i see the dreams people have and how they  don’t get to achieve them because there words  were louder than their  actions.

Its a mere impossible task to do all we say,however you have to make it a habit, for thats the  only way we  will achieve our goals on time .To do that we have to accept our capabilities and our short comings because that’s who you are. You can’t be afraid to try .If you don’t the billion dollar idea  remains  just an idea a what if. A fragment of your imagination that only you can access,and the sad reality is  that when you die all that’s remembered is not all the brilliant thoughts we had but the ones we actualized.

Dreams and fairytales  can have warts too its how we move forward that makes the difference after all the only thing you can do when you fall down is pick yourself up and keep on going because when it comes down to it all you are all you ve got

 DONT live in regret choose a path and be ready to deal with whatever life throws at you .stagnancy only occurs if you don’t do anything .do all you can with what y have  to your best ability that way you are assured of sufficiency and when things don’t go as planned  dont cry because you failed be happy that you tried and learn laugh and continue living

Friday, July 31, 2015

A SIMPLE RECIPE TO SUCCESS


SUCCESS

To be strong doesn’t only mean to have physical strength, it is not  to sit passively and watch your  world collapse and keeping a up a facade of strength in the face of it all. its fighting and not letting your world collapse without a fight.

 We all possess the ability to be  strong the only difference is how we choose to act.or rather how we behave in the moment of complete weakness.

I am a strong believer of passion,both in how we love and what we love doing. i believe to live means to seize each moment ,and believe in a better future in the wake of all disaster  ,and knowing from within what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.

Most of what i write s straight from the heart ,from a point of reasoning with your reality ,without justifying  the reasons for the current state of things ,but seeing that the grass only gets greener when you work towards getting it green.

There is a difference between, just dreaming  and actually fighting to achieve your  dreams and knowing when to stop and pause ,to adjust your dreams with your current state.

Love laugh live learn and never stop dreaming but above all work to achieve it all.

THE BEAUTY THAT IS WOMAN


WOMAN

We are beautiful both on the inside and outside.
We love to love, and dream of fairy tales.
We want to live in love , and feel it in every aspect of your lives.
We give without expecting much.
We are tough but gentle creatures.
We are strong.
We don’t give up easily, and  fight for what we want no matter the cost .Even when surrounded by darkness, we see a brighter day and we never stop believing it will come.

Yet the love we have for each other ,seems to be filled with jealously ,envy,scorn and deceit .we see each other as competitors,an enemy of each other. we compete against each other instead of pulling out efforts together to build each other make our lives better.

Long have i seen a day, when we embrace  each other to build a  world with a global network of women or women. who fight for each other as passionately as we fight against eachother , truly and genuinely  with no ulterior motives .Fighting to make our lives better stand up for each other.Fight for what is rightfully ours stand behind each other,ready to help each other build a future that is for women.

We hold the keys  to a successful  life,our gentle hands are gifted  with the ability  to mould  and care for. Our ability to multitask,give us the ability to be successful in more than on aspect of life.

If we could mentor each other ,share our experiences with those younger than us and be there for those among us,who feel alone ,and be genuinely there  for each other .Supporting, caring ,sharing ,building and inspiring each other .We are destined for greatness  and that’s why we are suppressed .we need to break the chains enforced upon us.We all have similar stories ideas hopes and dreams and the only way to achieve it is  by standing together,and fighting for our liberation. So we can be free to live our lives as is best ,For dreams to become a reality ,and for all those who see us as less  than ,to realize they were wrong ,and for us to know within us that we are great no matter where we are from, or what colour our skin tone is and even whatever age we are.

MOTHERHOOD. THE THINGS THEY NEVER TELL YOU


MOTHERHOOD; THE JOB THAT NEVER GETS ENOUGH CREDIT

PART 1

It all begins one morning you rush to the bathroom (morning sickness) and what they forget to mention is it doesn’t only apply to just mornings. The heightened sense of smell the moodiness that some people can’t understand the weird cravings at odd hours and the specificness of the cravings, the days you don’t feel pretty but you mask it with the prettiest dress in your closet not forgetting the matching bag and killer shoes, decide on a spa day get your hair and nails done and you  say to yourself if look it im sure to feel it . some days it works someday it doesn’t and what can u do on the days it doesn’t  id say cry about it then brave the day with your head above your shoulders as most of us do anyway its how were built


Then when you get over the heightened sense of smell  your tummy starts to show  and pretty doesn’t feel pretty anymore. your constantly tired ,sleepy, irritable and mentally exhausted  but the world  doesn’t stop spinning you’ve got chores to do  errands  to run friends and family to keep u with a partner who needs your attention in some cases kids to take care of. A task that seems impossible you somehow u gather every bit of strength and do it all because there’s no other way its what you’ve been prepared for your whole life its the dream we all had above all we know its our role as the woman

Finally its d day and you know its time to meet your baby .you panic and ask yourself am i ready can i do this then the contractions begin nothing anyone has told you no amount of yoga or preparation can prepare you for that pain that rips through you like a sadistic form of torture one minute its there the next it s gone. So with each breath you prepare your body for the mighty task ahead. You almost  feel like giving up u can’t take it anymore but you know this is what it means to be a mother and you know now what your mother went through when she had you  and your thankful. All those moments of ogling over baby booties and watching the baby strength and watching your body move in a shocking way the stories the promises you made while holding your bun its time to meet the person that’s walked with you those 9 months shared the same blood body breath food  its time and with a last push and the cutting of the cord you hear the sound of the new love of your life your reason for being and with those big eyes looking at you. You know u never want to go wrong or loose that precious angel in your arms

Your made it and your exhausted but thats just the beginning your family and friends are  waiting to see the two of you and you know  your  journey now begins




PART2  A MOTHERS LOVE PAIN SACRIFICE AND LEARNING TO HEAL

Its every girls dream to find there prince charming and the whole family picture and we all cling on to that dream  because its been rooted to our subconscious  its what we have been told we have to achieve or society will view you as less of a woman .however there’s a huge difference between dreaming and living t he reality of the  dream.

We all have our love stories they may not include glass slippers and castles or foreign prince charming s but  the emotions  involved are similar a wild romance begins amazing dates hours in each others company amazing sex undivided attention you feel complete   to find someone to actualize your dreams with  someone to spend the rest of your life with you fall in love and truly love to  every aspect of the word you begin to adjust your life to fit and suit them ditch a  few habits you know don’t fit in to your new status  you wrap each other in your own universe of love and happiness  but  it doesn’t last forever all good things  come to an end or evolve into something different your no longer in your  safe zone your now on a path where things get real really fast and its not hearts and roses anymore.

Your now a mother priorities change you have this overwhelming urge to give your baby  your best you have to heal  you have to become your new role now balancing your previous life with your new role seems impossible because there things you don’t find as important anymore or you simply don’t have the time.sex needs to be schedules .dates  start becoming an indoor activity, lunches with the girls seem  lovely but leaving all you have to do  to go laugh for  few minutes seems  like a selfish task or u just don’t find the conversations as exciting as you once did .its not that you feel better than them  your just are in a different point in your life

Friends feel  left out and don’t give you peace  about it and when they stop  its coz they find another friend  with similar passions  some partners feel  replaced and look for someone or something to fill the void and your left torn wondering what you ve done wrong to begin with. You then start to  give more  than u receive and start to lose yourself  because you start to do what’s needed of you and the passion dies  you operate  mechanically as a result of the hurt and pain often feeling alone because not everyone can understand what your  going through and in most cases you come across s the bad guy because you have to make the hard decisions. You sacrifice a lot for the well being of everyone but yourself and you start to fade into the background and slowly you fade till a day you realise enough is enough but it might be too late to mend the relationships you have lost .however its never too late to learn to start with yourself fall in love with you again as you find the balance  what you once loved and all you love now

Mothers give a lot and seldom receive any gratitude and we have to accept its hw it is  we now  have to learn to love ourselves enough to say no because at the end of the day  if were not ok from within we cant progress  nether can the people in our lives because ethers so much being held back you have to accept what your reality is fix what needs to be fixed and pray to God it works and if it doesn’t let  it go the grass can  also be green where your standing 




LESSONS LEARNT







LEARING THROUGH OTHERS AND STAYING TRUE TO YOU

We tend to look at the lives of other people around us ,saying we would have done things differently if we were in there place .judging them for their mistakes  not thinking for a second  we can end up in the same situation and even more doing the exact same thing they did .After all that which we judge we become.

As women we have a wide network for us learn, get wisdom and inspiration from each other because we all go through similar challenges.  our biggest problem is we tend to think we are better than the other and with that set of  mind frame we cant progress everyone make mistakes the only difference is how we learn from them and what we choose to do with your new found knowledge.

In order to learn we have to listen and truly listen we have to accept ourselves, and our current state as a learning experience and instead of retreating inwardly and feeling alone we have to listen to ourselves our inner voice because its never wrong   and the only time we fail ourselves is when we fail to  listen to that inner voice our 6th sense

To be able to listen to that inner voice you have to  KNOW who you are what you represent  what you stand for what you have to  offer out above all you have to love yourself

Someone once asked me do you love yourself? Because if you did you wouldn’t put up with some of the shit you put up with. And that statement shocked me but got me to thin do i love me c i look at myself in the mirror and say Mishi Khalid i love you and mean it you would think its a simple task but it really isn’t because as much as its simple to fool others you cannot fool yourself because you know your good and you know your bad side . and it was with that statement that lead me to learn to all in love with myself and accept myself warts and all and that’s what made it simple for me  to be able to accept each situation as it is  and open my mind to learn from those around me who have been through the exact same thing because IN LIFE THE ONLY CHEAT WE GET IS THE EXPERIENCE OF OTHERS BEFORE US and what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger and better

 We have to accept when we are wrong and listen when we are told we are wrong its never an easy task but we must understand  that through accepting who we are  we enable ourselves to become better and especially wiser