Untold lives of woman, is a woman's journey on the path life has set her on.
A blog about factors that affect the lives of women and where you can find inspiration.
The Un edited side of "life ".Where there is beauty in imperfection and knowing that through the support and wisdom we share with each other .We will help improve not only our own lives but the lives of generations to come.
Thursday, April 13, 2023
A REASON FOR EVERY SEASON
If I could choose a place to start. It would be at the point where the end is in sight. The point where all the moments of sheer heartbreak, tears ,frustration, fatigue no longer feel like that. Where those moments feel worth it. Where those last few steps get you to the finish line and you get a good cry because it was all worth it and you wouldn't change anything.
Completion. The feeling of being complete.
When I started this blog. I knew I wanted to share what I have learnt and what I was learning with other people. Now between thinking about it and actually starting it took me months. Mostly because of the amount of vulnerability involved in sharing your story with the world.
A mom at 21! Terrified!!!
Looking back I see my strength.
I see the pain , I see the joy.
Most importantly I see that what was meant to break me. Gave me purpose , gave me strength. Gave me hope.
I wouldn't change a thing looking back 10 years later I am truly grateful for every moment. Every experience . Every high and every low.
My brother told me .it's always better to have a tough start and a happy ending than the reverse of that. I have held on to that and seen it unravel.
I have shared my story with all . Hundreds of thousands of people. Across the globe I see countries reading my words on my stats that I dream of visiting. I get emails and messages and I am grateful that I had to learn something inorder to share it because, my lessons travel the world and open doors for me to get there in person.
So what I would like to say is . Don't give up. Don't regret, Learn your lesson and trust that Jesus has a plan for it all .
Have you ever been mad because you, wanted to stop someone from making a mistake. However, they still make the mistake and then on top of that . They get mad at you for pointing it out and make you the Villain!
What if it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.
You volunteered information when they where not ready to deal with it .Instead of them dealing with it .They walk themselves straight into what you where trying to do.
The question is what was your intention when you where telling them.
Two, how do you think they will react to the information.
Three, do they need to know.
Four, are you going to be ok with what they choose to do with the information.
The most important lesson I've learnt is always ask before you give your opinion or information. Consent is key.
Sometimes the people who don't know all the details are the loudest to speak but what comes out of their mouth is out of the abundance/ lack of within.
Also learn to mind your own business and stay out of other people's business because it has a way of coming back to bite you in the ass.
Deal with you and only you.
You can only control what you do and how you react and for those reason always choose to be better.
Tuesday, April 11, 2023
LISTENING IS AN ART THAT REQUIRES ATTENTION OVER TALENT , SPIRIT OVER EGO .OTHERS INSTEAD OF SELF
I can be very opinionated and during a therapy session I was challenged to listen. Not just listen be there, be attentive . Be silent and don't listen to respond but to truly hear what the other person is saying.
To be understood and to understand where a person is coming from is one of the most amazing gifts you can give.
Communication is key. The lack their of causes a distance that can only be filled with understanding.
The human in us sometimes want to try fix, to save , to improve , to rescue.
However, some people need to hit rock bottom for them to truly want to be helped .
Sometimes we have to learn the lesson .
Sometimes we have to let them learn without us interfering in their process.
I was once asked, " Who told you that you where created to specifically be their savior. You are only hindering their learning process ."
Word I can only now share with you and hope that you understand sometimes all you need to do is be quiet . Be present . Be there to just listen and do nothing else