A MOTHERS LOVE PART 2

THE MOST MAGICAL DAY OF MY LIFE WAS WHEN I BECAME A MOTHER.

I've been looking back at my journey of motherhood I must say it's nothing like what I envisioned it to be . What I know is that it is much better than what I thought.

To be a mother is to learn and unlearn.

It is to admit you are wrong and might not always have the answers.

Being a mother is locking yourself in the bathroom long enought to come out with a smile on your face 

It is to sacrifice everything so that someone else can have everything.

It is to live your life with your heart on your sleeve.

It is to roar like a lioness To chase away the enemy.

But be gentle enough to carry your cub in your mouth without hurting it.

It is to discover what life means and to have your heart break because of the knowledge you have to carry with you.

It is to live your nightmares and still believe in that dream.

It is to know nothing at all but share what you know as if you know it all 

It is to patiently wait quietly until they discover how amazing you are.

IMPORTANCE OF BEING INVOLVED IN YOUR CHILD'S EDUCATION

A PARENTS JOB IS TO HELP EASE A CHILD INTO LIFE . WE RAISE ADULTS!
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As a parents ,sometimes our daily schedules  prevent us from being fully engaged in our children’s lives. One important thing that we tend to forget is that, everything we do and what drives us .Is the need to provide a comfortable lifestyle that enables our children to thrive.
Sometimes we may think, as long as we give our kids what they need they will be okay, or since we pay for their education. We do not need to be involved because that is what we pay the school to do. 

Being involved ,doesn’t mean knowing every detail and tightening the belt when it comes to our kids. Being involved means that you know your kids strengths and weaknesses .Then using them as a guideline to help them succeed in life . We all know that being harsh doesn’t always work based on our own experiences . What works is when your child knows that they can confide in you and trust that you will be there for them when they need you.



Children whose parents are involved are more likely to have higher self-esteem, be disciplined, have more self-motivation and tend to achieve better grades, regardless of their ethnic, social or racial background

Research indicates that two thirds of teachers believe parental involvement in education results in better performance in school. As mentioned earlier, children tend to achieve better grades and tend to be more motivated when parents are involved. 

Parental involvement helps give children attention and praise which, in turn, helps them recognize their education is worthy of adult interest. As children tend to model adult behaviors, when parents are actively involved with their schooling, children will learn the importance of education and try to emulate those behaviors from their parents. It also helps children understand that their schooling isn't just about them.  It's a collaborative approach between pupils, teachers and their parents. This team approach can further motivate them to work hard and produce positive results. Children who have help from their parents are also more likely to feel competent, and school attendance becomes more important to them.

Being involved also boosts the mental health of children. It encourages communication between children and parents, which can foster higher self-esteem and confidence. It can also help children interact better with their peers and advance their social skills.

Parental involvement is known to be linked with improved behavior, regular attendance and positive attitudes.  In addition, being involved shows your child you care about his or her education and schooling. That in itself can make children appreciate the importance of education and help them to understand that what they are doing has a purpose.

Parental involvement provides a support network for children, which is particularly important when they face academic hurdles or other challenges with friendships or extra-curricular activities. It also means you know where your child's education journey is going and are able to be part of the highs and lows along the way Parental involvement creates ties and strengthens bonds with children and can boost your confidence in parenting and any decision-making when it comes to your child's education. 

As well as boosting motivation and providing discipline for children, By walking alongside their son or daughter's journey, parents are more likely to be sensitive to their child's emotional and social needs.

It also leads to the building of stronger relationships leading to clearer communication between teachers, parents and children. This can give you more confidence in the school's approach to education and learning. Schools that have high levels of engagement with parents tend to experience better community support and positive reputations. Also, when children see a unified approach to their education between their parents and the school, they are more likely to understand the importance of their studies.

As parents our actions always have a direct impact on our kids and it is important that it is  positive. After all we are not raising children . As parents we are raising the adults of the future.

KIDS ITS BEDTIME

ONLY A MOTHER KNOWS THE VALUE OF BED TIME

After the long holiday the kids have had i know there are quite a  few moms that are excited to have the kid s going back to school and having them on a fixed schedule.

Before i was a mom.I would look at my older sister putting her kids to bed at 7:00pm and they  would literally be asleep by 7:15pm  .I felt like it was punishment .Like who on earth wants to sleep so early.

Well now years later, i can attest to the fact that that was one of the best things she ever taught me. Those 15 minute bathroom breaks .Where you literally go sit in the bathroom.Doing nothing. Just enjoying the tranquility because you know that nobody would dare hurry you out when your in the toilet. Hahahahah the struggle gets so real as a mom. Any how those 15 minutes are never  enough.

Cooking, cleaning, playing with your kids and giving them attention when they demand it during the day is no easy task and if you have a spouse to take care of as well it can be just too much to handle .

Personally i am so excited that schools are opening and now i understand why my parents and parents in general are always, so willing when it comes to school . More time for me to have to catch up with the rest of the world around me . My life literally goes on pause ,when i go on mommy mode and it is beautiful because, in those moments you find yourself doing things ,you would not usually do. You live life from your little ones perspective.

For those who do not understand the importance of bedtime  it is  like being served desert on a nice starry clear night hahahah.Its the only time a mom gets to do exactly what she needs  or wants to do sometimes its sleep sometimes its read or just drink a glass or two  of wine s you catch up on your favourite series.

In conclusion Goodnight .

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ROBBING CHILDREN OF A CHILDHOOD

DONT TAKE MY INNOCENCE

Childhood used to be a precious time, for fun .Time for day dreaming, time alone to use imagination, time to play; time to just be a kid. That we had before we became teenagers and began preparing for our lives as adults.

Innocence rightfully belongs to children. The love of play. the love of learning. the trust of loving adults should be the whole world for the children in our care.
Unfortunately in this precious time ,One feature of our very modern world is our inability to retain a hold on innocence for children. We are quickly losing the warmth and security of the childhood years,
childhood is in danger of being lost as more and more parents are creating killer schedules that keep the child busy intentionally for them to be able to focus on their jobs or other aspects of their lives. Children are quickly taking second place in their parents lives

Is it possible for the boundaries between adulthood and childhood be once again restored? Can parents today, sensing uneasily that something is missing, try to recreate the different sort of childhood that they themselves once were granted? In an Age of Preparation, can individual parents hope to bring their children up protectively?changes in family stability and employment patterns, most notably, along with the increasing dominance of television in children's lives cannot be reversed. We will never return to the oldstyle family with the bread-earning father and the childlike, stay-at-home mother minding the house and kids. Nor would we desire such a step backward. alyhough it cannot be reversed, it may indeed be modified and made to work better for families.

An understanding of the irreversible consequences of family on children's lives will cause parents to readjust some of their original goals for marriage, and to focus greater attention on their children's well being than on those ambitions, desires and dreams of personal fulfilment they had when they were single. The future holds the possibility of a variety of partnerships for both men and women, only some of which will be seen as conducive to the raising of children.

Perhaps an understanding that children and adults are not equal, and that children do not prosper when treated as equal, will encourage parents to take a more authoritative position in the family.

If you are given the heavy burden of knowledge before you have the capacity to deal with it ,it becomes burdensome, because it requires mental and psychological work to deal with it the results may be those distressing signs parents and teachers are observing among children today: confusion, fear, feelings of incompetence. Children grow up not really able to deal with difficulties, and they learn that the best way to deal with problems is to escape, through drugs or drink or whatever.''

Because of the knowledge, independence, ''adultness'' that characterise so many children today especially, it appears, those who have had to ''grow up faster'' because their parents have divorced or are both absorbed in their careers, it is easy to get the impression that children are also more mature these days. Indeed, the child growing up under more protective, old-fashioned circumstances may seem more ''bratty,'' more ''spoiled,'' more demanding than the hardy, self-sufficient child of absent parents. But while a certain level of independence achieved when a child is forced to take care of himself much of the time, it is not the same thing as maturity. As the child grows older, true maturity, defined by an ability to share, to sacrifice, to be generous, to love unselfishly, and to nurture and care for children of his own, may prove elusive, and in its place, attention-seeking and narcissism become the characteristics that define his adult life. While those children whose childhoods are enriched by a bounty of adult experiences end up the poorer for it, those ''poor'' protected children have received a treasure in disguise - one, however, that will reveal itself only when they have grown up.
Perhaps the recognition that we are denying our children a real childhood will restore how we relate to the children of coming generations.

LETS RAISE OUR BOYS AND GIRLS RIGHT

TAKING UP LEADERSHIP ROLES


We have been raised to think that,one day we will kiss a frog and it will turn into prince charming, and we will live happily ever after.When the reality is that it is so far off from the truth.
Our reality is nothing like what we see on television or even what we read about.

If there is one thing, I would like to tell Women both young and old is ,we need to be honest with ourselves. we need to be realistic as well . We can't bring up the next generation of women thinking the same.heart ache needs to be avoided . We need to bring up our boys right

We are told to persevere through emotional abuse, because nobody is perfect. We are told that we shouldn't answer back because a man is the head of the home. Our society allows men to do whatever they feel like and that is exactly what they do and end up setting bad examples for our sons . We then stay silent and show our daughters that they are inferior and they just have to know their place because this is what it means to be a woman.

In the 21 Century, there is no room for us to follow blindly like sheep . we need to be able to harness our strengths, and mold the world as we do in our homes.We have the most responsibility because we have the greatest capability to effect change.

I'm not being pessimistic. i am looking for a realistic solution to our current situation.We can't keep hoping for "rainbows and unicorns".
Things don't miraculously change.You have to put in the work and just as we have taken up more roles than historically thought possible .it's time we take a leadership approach and improve on all the situations that seem improbable