WHEN A WOMAN IS LOVED CORRECTLY SHE BECOMES TEN TIMES THE WOMAN SHE WAS BEFORE

To be loved and seen is the most beautiful gift in this life. 

To be seen for who you are and what you are not.

To be seen in the little things you do and the big ones.

As women we are like rose petals beautiful soft and bright. Yet fragile when mishandled.

We are like the first rays of sunshine after a cold winter.

However we can also bring the winter right to your doorstep.

We are God's loved and beautiful creation.

We  all wish for true love. 

You know the kind of love where,you are loved and loved back . 

The kind of love where you are looking into your partners eyes. Feeling safe respected and cared for .That feeling that makes life's journey matter.

After all.We where created to share this life with those we care about. 

That's what makes living worth while . 

What makes this existence mean something.

A MOTHERS LOVE PART 2

THE MOST MAGICAL DAY OF MY LIFE WAS WHEN I BECAME A MOTHER.

I've been looking back at my journey of motherhood I must say it's nothing like what I envisioned it to be . What I know is that it is much better than what I thought.

To be a mother is to learn and unlearn.

It is to admit you are wrong and might not always have the answers.

Being a mother is locking yourself in the bathroom long enought to come out with a smile on your face 

It is to sacrifice everything so that someone else can have everything.

It is to live your life with your heart on your sleeve.

It is to roar like a lioness To chase away the enemy.

But be gentle enough to carry your cub in your mouth without hurting it.

It is to discover what life means and to have your heart break because of the knowledge you have to carry with you.

It is to live your nightmares and still believe in that dream.

It is to know nothing at all but share what you know as if you know it all 

It is to patiently wait quietly until they discover how amazing you are.

LOVE YOURSELF THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE LOVED.

As we begin the new year we all have ideas of what we would like to accomplish before the year ends . Some of us chose not to have resolutions because by March we have already gone back to old ways so we ask what's the point of writing any. But the thing we should tell ourselves instead of what is the point is..... I really want to get this and this done but if I don't . I forgive myself and as long as I have breath in me I have a chance to get it done. That is why I felt like self love should be the first thing I write about this year. What is self love you may ask?

Self-love is defined as a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth. Self-love means having a high regard for your own well-being and happiness. Self-love means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others.

My journey into self love began 9 years ago . I knew I needed to put more emphasis on self love when I got to a point in my life where I wasn't where I wanted to be and was unhappy with my choices that got me to where I was. I couldn't stand to see my own reflection in the mirror for more than 10 seconds because all I could see was the face of the person that let me down and that person was myself. I could see the unhappiness in my own eyes and I was soley responsible for my own unhappiness.

Getting myself to where I am today has been a journey of self discovery. I have had to see my own pain and make peace within myself. Forgive myself and others and let go of the pain so that I could find healing. I had to learn how to love myself. How to accept myself for all that I am an all that I am not. Above all I had to learn that if I don't make myself happy I shouldn't expect other people to do it for me.

I read a quote that said you are the most important person in your life . Everyone is responsible for themselves. TBH when I understood that I felt Abit lighter.

So I would like to share with you some of the things I learnt and continue to learn and apply in my own life to date. My hope is that you learn to love yourself and to heal so that you can grow and be who you want to be.

1) Get to know yourself. Who you are .what you like .What you hate .What makes you happy and where you want to go.

2) Learn to say no . Don't over extend yourself . Do what you are comfortable with doing and that should be enough .Don't take on more than you can handle.

3)Be present in the moment. Time flys and we will never get to go back in time all we will have is our memories so make many and be fully present in each moment.You won't get it back.

4)Don't compare yourself to other people. Life is a journey and not a race be you at your own pace.

5)Forgive yourself for your shortcomings.

If you can't forgive yourself who will.

6) Accept yourself for who you are and what you are not.

7)Be kind to yourself and spoil yourself . Show yourself love for all you have been through and reward your body spirit and soul for the fact that you keep going. And prioritize me time by doing something you enjoy doing.

8) Celebrate your triumphs allow yourself to grieve and heal from your losses . Lastly allow yourself to feel your feeling.

9)Stand up for yourself.

10)Know that it is perfectly okay to ask for help .It takes a village to go through life.

11) know that not everybody will like you and it's not your job to please them. Just be you and do you 

12)Practice gratitude and thanks giving.

13)Take care of your body so that it can take care of you.

14)Be kind to yourself.

15) Surround yourself with positive energy . Leave what is negative and toxic behind.

16)Heal from all the scars you have gotten along the way

17) Be kind to yourself and others.

18) Show love and compassion. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you 

19) Choose YOU.

20) Perfom an act of kindness to someone less fortunate it will always fill your heart to see someone else happy .

Those have been some of the areas I have focused don and I hope they help you on your journey of self love . 

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I GIVE UP

THE POWER LIES  IN KNOWING WHEN TO GIVE UP AND KNOWING WHEN TO STAY.

I give up.

Not because I am giving in , but because I'm giving away.

Giving away what doesn't serve me. What doesn't bring me joy.

Giving away what has caused me so much pain.

Giving up on an image I clung onto because at one point I thought it was all I needed.

Giving up on something that constricts me, something that suffocates me.

Giving up on striving for perfection.

Giving up on you.

Giving you away so I can be free .

Giving it away because i don't need it anymore.

Letting it all go and Freeing myself .have all

So that I can be more of me and less like you.

We all get to a point in life where holding on causes us more pain than joy. However I am sure if you look back in your life and see  the points where you let go . You can now see how that moment improved your quality of life. There is power in giving up.There is strength. There is courage . 

Give your best. Give it your all and when the time comes know that it is ok to also let go so that you can be happier.

20 REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD BE SINGLE.

Being single used to mean that nobody wanted you. Now it just means you are patiently deciding how you want your life to be & who you want to spend it with.

 You have just left a relationship.

Some believe that the best way to get over someone is to get under another...if we are being honest nothing rushed ever yielded good results.

Take time to heal, debrief and rediscover yourself.

You are afraid of commitment.

Deal with why you are afraid more often than not you will discover that it's past traumas still haunting you that you need to let go of.

You are still in love with an ex.

If you want to get back with your ex or still have feelings for your ex. You will just be wasting the other person's time.whuch isn't fair

You are afraid of being alone / don't like being alone.

Find out why you don't like being alone. Find out why you need a distraction or validation from someone else and more often than not you will find out you are dealing with past trauma

Your desperate.

What is meant to be yours will be yours. Do not force yourself into someone's life or settle for someone because you feel time is running out Or because of whatever reason you have been told or tell yourself. It's better to be happy and alone than miserable . Also know that you do deserve true love and happiness.

You expect every date to turn into a relationship.

Sometimes you have to kiss a couple of frogs to find prince charming or sometimes your looking at him and you don't know. Also know that heartbreak isnt permanent you really do have to get your feet in the mud .

You are busy.

Nobody likes to feel alone, neglected or feel like they come second. Find time for those you love and show them you care and adore them.

You have trust issues.

For starters I am sorry that in some way or form someone broke your heart or made you feel that you can't trust anyone. However if you really want to be in a relationship you have to heal first and then take the risk over and over again until you get it right. Don't let fear cripple you.

You are going though a life change .

Simply put, what happens when the way your feeling goes away? You can't make a person go away.....

You don't know what you want.

Figure out what you want first .know what you like and then go after it not the other way around.

There's a voice in your head telling you NO.

If there's a light in your head or a voice telling you this is not for you or this is wrong or you need to leave please do trust your instincts.It might save you time and pain

You have a to do list for things to do before you settle into one.

It just means that your not going to give it your all because what happens when the person gets tired of waiting?

If you are settling for someone.

Know your worth, know you deserve the best and even though it sucks waiting .imagine how much more it will suck if your in an unhappy relationship.

You enjoy your freedom.

Dont waste anyone's time if you don't want to commit.Dont break anyone's heart because yours is undecided or wild and free. Be honest about it from the get go.

For security.

What happens when the thing or reason to feel secure goes away. If it's finances you need to be able to stand on your own before you can allow someone else to carry your weight.

You have baggage.

The biggest reason relationships fail is because of past experiences,traumas or memories.in life you either become exactly what you see,better or worse how you heal from the past determines what kind of future you will have 

You want someone to save you.

The only person that saves is Jesus and even he lets us find our own path to him and he expects us to follow his word!

You want to fill a void.

Fill the hole that you have don't expect someone else to do it for you.  What happens when they become unable to keep filling the void?

200 QUESTIONS TO ASK YOUR PARTNER VALENTINES EDITION

Jumping into a new relationship can be exciting and sometimes we forget to ask important questions that can help us lean more about eachother. As well us clarify a few things.

So I've complied a bunch of questions that are both fun,steamy, and some that will make you have to dig deep within yourself . So have fun have some to add hit the comment section.

• What  are your full names?
• How old are you?
• What is your favourite colour?
• What is on your bucket list?
• What is the most adventurous thing you have done?
• Do you have health or mental health issues?
• Are you close with your family?
• What do you think you are ready to be in a relationship?
• What makes you feel like this relationship between us is what you need?
• What is your favourite part of my personality?
• What makes you happy/sad in relationships?
• What is the biggest lesson you have learnt from past relationships?
• What lesson did you learn that you wish you would have learnt early?
• What are you too hard on yourself for?
• How do you deal with stress? 
• What's one thing you probably should do that you never do?
• What is the best thing your parents thought you?
• What makes you different from most people?
• Who is the most toxic person you know?
• What animal do you think you are?
• Where do you see yourself in five years?
• Do you want to have children?
• How long was your longest relationship?Why did it end?
• Have you ever been engaged or married? 
• Do you ever want to get married? 
• Are you monogamous?
• Have you ever lived with a partner?
• How important is religion or spirituality to you?
• What is your sexual orientation?
• How do you feel about gay rights?
• Do you think money can buy happiness?
• What is your dream job?
• What one thing do you want to accomplish in your life?
• What accomplishment are you most proud of?
• What are you afraid of?
• How would you describe your relationship with your family?
• Do you have a best friend? 
• What qualities attracted you to your best friend?
• What is your love language?
• Are you an introvert (those who recharge by being alone) or an extrovert (those who feel energized from being around other people)?
• Do you hold grudges?
• Have you ever struggled with addiction?
• Have you ever been in an emotionally or physically abusive relationship?
• Do you think a relationship can come back from cheating?
• What is your deal breaker in relationships?
• Who was your role model growing up?
• When you were a kid, what career did you want to have?
• In your life when have you most felt alone?
• What is your idea of a perfect Sunday afternoon?
• What is your favorite holiday?
• What is the best present you've ever received?
• What did you and your friends do for fun in middle school?
• Did you have any pets growing up?
• What is your happiest childhood memory?
• If you could cook any dish perfectly, what would you choose?
• When you're having a bad day, what makes you feel better?
• What toy did you always want as a kid, but no one ever bought for you?
• Did you ever sleep with stuffed animals?
• What sound do you love?
• What are your favorite scents?
• What candy do you hate?
• What is your favorite karaoke song?
• What was your favorite thing to do when you are free?
• What is your favorite thing to do on a rainy day?
• Whats your worst memory of being in school,work and life in general?
• What is your happiest childhood memory?
• When you're having a bad day, what makes you feel better?
• What is the weirdest reason you ever broke up with someone?
• When was the time you laughed the hardest?
• When is the last time you cried?
• If you could listen to only one song for the rest of your life, what song would you choose?
• What celebrities have you met?
• What word do you hate?
• What is your pop culture guilty pleasure?
• What is the most embarrassing thing that ever happened to you?
• What is the weirdest thing you've ever bought?
• Who would you rather hire: a personal trainer, a personal chef, or a housekeeper?
• What would you do if you could be a woman/man for a day?
• What is the one movie you've seen more times than you can count?
• If a movie was being made about your life, what actor would play you? What actress would play your love interest?
• What were you like in high school?
• What fictional character do you relate to the most?
• Would you rather be hot or cold?
• If you could be born in a different decade, what decade would you choose?
• What is your favorite part about being an adult?
• In an ideal world, how many times would you have sex in a week?
• What is something you've always wanted to try in bed?
• Have you ever had/would you ever have a threesome?
• Have you ever been attracted to a person of the same sex?
• How did you lose your virginity?
• What is your number one sexual fantasy? Would you ever do it in real life?
• Where is your favorite place to have sex outside of the bedroom?
• Have you ever been walked in on during sex? Have you ever walked in on someone else?
• What is the craziest thing you've ever been asked to do in bed? Did you do it?
• How do you feel about porn? What kind of porn do you like?
• What is your favorite sexual position? 
• What is your least favorite sexual position?
• What are your most sensitive erogenous zones that don't always get attention? (Nipples, ears, neck, etc.)
• What is your favorite part about sex? (Foreplay, teasing, penetration, oral sex, pillow talk, etc.)
• If we were going to role play, who would you want me to dress up as?
• What sex toy have you been dying to try?
• What words or sexy phrases turn you on?
• What is the weirdest thing that turns you on?
• What would you change about your childhood? 
• What would you never change about your childhood?
• Have you ever gotten anyone pregnant? How did you handle it?
• What is one thing you wish you could change about yourself?
• What five toxic traits do you have?
• Have you ever cheated on anyone? 
• Haveyou ever been cheated on?
• What is your biggest regret?
• Who are you jealous of?
• What is the biggest misconception people have about you?
• Have you ever spent the night in jail?
• Have you ever been to therapy?
• Have you ever had to break up with a friend?
• Are you friends with any of your exes?
• What bad habit do you have that you would you like to break?
• Have you ever snooped on a partner?
• When was the last time you cried?
• Have you ever had your heart broken?
• What was the most difficult time in your life?
• Is it ever okay to lie?
• What do you like most about yourself?
• What is the biggest risk you've ever taken?
• What is the hardest decision you've ever made?
• What is more important in a relationship: an emotional connection or a physical connection?
• Out of your friends and family, whose relationship do you admire the most?
• What is the most important quality you look for in a partner?
• What is the first thing you noticed about me?
• What do you love about me?
• What worries you about me?
• What is the sexiest thing a partner can wear?
• What is your ideal date?
• What couples Halloween costume have you always wanted to do?
• Would you move to a new city for your partner?
• Do you keep mementos from past relationships? (Cards, notes, photos, gifts)
• What is the most ridiculous thing you've ever done to impress someone?
• Do you prefer privacy or are you an open book?
• Do you believe in love at first sight?
• What is your favorite part about dating?
• Do you believe in fate?
• What is the biggest sacrifice you've ever made for a relationship?
• What is your favorite love song?
• Do you us getting married?

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LESSONS FROM MOTHERHOOD

BEING A MOM KEEPS YOU YOUNG IF YOU CHOOSE TO SEE THE WORLD FROM THEIR LITTLE EYES

Motherhood is where all love begins and 
where children become the anchors that hold a mother to life.

The first moment i saw my daughter was magical  .

For the first time i saw what the world was really about . I saw her beautiful eyes stairing back at me and all i wanted to do was protect her ,hold her and  love her.
That feeling has not left me even in the toughest of days just looking into her beautiful eyes or getting one of her little hugs brings me joy.

The truth about motherhood is that. You dont know what your getting yourself into and you are not as prepaired as you think.

It is the greatest thing you can experience and it can  also be the hardest.

Because we are human .
the thing about being a child of your mother is that you will never understand what it is like until you have your own child .

After i gave birth and i was taken back to my room and my mum came in i broke down crying and said how sorry i was .Truth be told that was the most sincere apology i ever gave her because i truly meant it and wanted to be better. In that moment all the love she had given me flashed before my eyes and so did the times that i was not greatful and took her for granted.

You don't take a class; you're thrown into motherhood and learn from experience. You go from living your best life doing what you want to do when you want .

To sacrificing everything you have from your time to your friends,to your sleep, to your hobbies to ensure that your child has a shot in this life .To ensure your child is happy to ensure that you have a life long friend that will take care of you when you cant take care of your self.

The lesson i learnt from all of this was that being a parent doesnt mean that you possess all the skills to be a parent and it doesnt mean that you become a super mom .it just means that you have everyday for the rest of your life to become better. 

I would urge all of you to see the human in your parents wherther or not they are flawed. Remember that they loved you first and that they loved you as you are so .love them as they are. 

Remember this.Being a mum is a series of conscious choices that enable you to raise your child ,either better than you where raised, just as you where raised , or you can choose not to care.

You choose how your child will view you and approach you for the rest of their life meaning you can either be their rock or you can  be the  reason for their fall.

Live , Love,Learn ,Laugh and Dream Big.

WE PLAN MORE FOR THE WEDDING THAN WE DO FOR THE ACTUAL MARRIAGE.

MARRIAGE IS A LIFETIME COMMITMENT DONT JUST FOCUS ON THE WEDDING DAY IT ONLY LASTS 1 DAY BUT THE MARRIAGE IS FOR A LIFETIME

As women we have been fed the narrative ,"Finish school,get a job ,find a husband and live happily ever after......."

We have been conditioned to think that the single most important moment in our lives is walking down the isle to our prince charming who will save us from all our worries and be our knight and shining armour.

So from a young age we think about the details of how we would like the magical day to look ,what we will wear ,what colours we will have ,what shoes and how our hair will look.
Every so often we add more details to the day inorder to ensure that nothing messes up that special day.

Every detail is carefully picked out with the aim of bringing the day as close to perfection as possible.

Then the day comes and goes and you realize, you lived a day to fulfill expectations and spend more money than necessary just to achieve a milestone imposed on you. Which leaves you thinking,".....so what next??????".

So here you are sitting across the room from someone you where supposed to be living happily ever after with but instead all you can think is .....who is this stranger i married?, 

How come nobody told me it was going to be this difficult and did i make the biggest mistake of my life?"

The thing about love is once you open your heart up to someone its hard to shut them out. 

Sometimes in marriage and also in long term relationships we go through obstacles and we tend to build walls or in some cases we choose to create an illusion of who the perfect person is suppoaed to be and we have unrealistic expectations of our spouses and it leads to resentment .

Time goes by and we find we know nothing about the person we married.

The thing is thats exactly what marriage we marry the person we want to spend the rest of our lives with and that in itself is a gift but we focus on everything else but ensuring we get to spend the rest of our Live happily with that person.

What i loved about old love (our grandparents kind of love) is that they understood it they accepted the traditional parts of what a union is and they also grew into what love and family threw their way and thats why we can sit around during family holidays and see how their love inspired generations .

Love needs to be patient and love needs to be kind even when there is no reason to be kind.

Now we allow everyone tell us what love is supposed to be instead of creating and working hard to create the kind of love we dreamt of in our homes.

Most people can be envious and give advise just to see you miserable and some just cannot understand the dynamics of your relationship and will give one sided advise. 

So my advise for you is plan for the future plan for the problems and plan to stick it out so you can have an always and forever.

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UNWORTHY LOVE

WE DO NOT DROWN BY FALLING IN WATER .WE DROWN BY STAYING IN AFTER WE FALL.

She's far from the devil they have claimed her to be.

They acted as lucifer. While demanding she gives them heaven.

Heaven was made for angels.  

It's not a good home for people that resemble fallen angels.

More than herself,she loved him .

She was never enough but she loved him.
She gave her heart and soul to love him.

All she got in return were the scars she now bared.

Unworthy was his love scrapps fit for no begger.
Yet she sat at his feet begging for the remains of his love.
She was the trash unknowing she could be a treasure

Despite all he did, she loved him.

She created a paradise he couldnt see. 

So he roamed around blind to her sacrifice.

So alone on her paradise.
That the lone soul disintergrated.

She is human not saint.

So when the cold ice around his heart wouldnt melt .
With her head hanging low she reached for one last embrace and walked away.

What she didnt know was she was now free.
Her light would shine brighter and her smile would capture the heart of another lone soul.

Where she would recieve heaven .
The kind of love an angel like her deserved.

Your love will only be priceless to a person that recognises your worth.

If you do not recognise this .You have not recognised your own worth.

Live Love Learn Laugh and remember.
YOU ARE WORTHY
YOU DESERVE YOUR OWN VERSION OF HEAVEN
AND TO RECIEVE IT YOU MUST LET GO .

TO GIVE LOVE YOU MUST LOVE YOU FIRST

EMBRACE THE GLORIOUS MESS THAT YOU ARE.YOU ARE PERFECT AS YOU ARE

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being happy starts with you
Confidence doesn't mean self-confidence. It doesn't mean human cleverness, It doesn't even mean being smarter than other people. It means to be secure in yourself. To have self-assurance.

I was once asked what is my story!
What is it that inspires me to do the things that i do, and to write the way i do and be honest, i couldn't answer  the question immediately .Not because i didn't know what inspires me. What is the source of  my depth but because .I didn't want to admit to myself ,that all that i had been through ,has brought me to this point.Because i had a lot that i had reconciled with .A lot that i was not at peace with about my journey.

 It may seem small but to me it was a hurdle i had to jump over.I didn't want to give credit to my low moments in life. However my low moments did not break me they strengthened me .They brought me to a level where i had to re-adjust and be real with myself  and that is where i grew emotionally and mentally. Don't let your past make you re-live it in your future. Because in life the unresolved issues and fears tend to let you live life in a loop .They re occur until you deal with them and grow. So  grow enrich yourself with experience because it will inspire someone else.

Learn to love yourself .Be happy with who you are and be proud of all you have been through because that is God's way of making you into the person you are meant to be

So today i ask you what is your story?What is it that has made you into who you are today ? and what is it that is stopping you from progressing into the you you want to be The you that you accept and love unconditionally.

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SHE LOVED SO MUCH THAT SHE LOST HERSELF.

DON'T LOOSE WHO YOU ARE BECAUSE OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP.

You're in love with him. You are head-over-heels for a man that is making you into a woman you don't recognize. 
You've always prided yourself on not caring what others thought about you.
You took pride in knowing what you wanted to do with the rest of your life.
You were confident in who you were and who you wanted to be. 
You were the woman that had it all together.

Then, you fell in love...
You fell for a man that began to change who you were. It's not his fault though. You began to change because you wanted to make him happy, not because he asked you to. 

You knew exactly what you wanted out of life. You knew what career you wanted, where you wanted to live.You did what you loved . You lived and where free to be you. but you changed . You called it growing up. You called it your ROLE as a woman.

You aren't as confident in yourself.
The person that you are now, you don't seem to recognize. You are not being true to you but being true to everyone else you take care of. 
Your voice is silent .You silenced it. You have put your dreams on hold to let those around you shine. You have given up a lot for people who do not even recognize your efforts .The same people that think you need to give even more of yourself because you are still not doing enough. 
Your no longer the ball of energy that people fell in love  with. You have lost everything that made you stand out .Everything that made you special. You have faded into the background and even you don't find you attractive

So, now you're second guessing yourself. 
That's because this person isn't you...
This is who you think he needs you to be. This is the woman that you feel like you have to be to earn his love.
Nobody is worth losing yourself over.
Once you lose yourself, you lose your worth. You become a woman you don't recognize and have a hard time believing in. You become someone  that can't stand to look herself in the mirror because you'll see the face of the woman you used to be.That will forever haunt you.

You should never lose yourself to the man you love. You shouldn't have to become someone else to earn his love or respect. So, take a long look in the mirror and become you again. 
Embrace yourself, because you are worth so much more than you realize. You deserve so much more.Love you first then everyone around you will see your worth again and will treat you better because you respect you.
If you haven't found her already, you deserve to find yourself and know that the man you love fell in love with who you where when he met you .
When you loose you he also loses apart of you.

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WHEN LOVE BECOMES YOUR DISEASE

SWEET DREAMS BECOME NIGHTMARES

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A soul being conflicted,or am I just complicated.

A battle from the deepest part of me that I wish to set free.

Alone I toss and turn as I yearn for peace of mind.

Will tonight be any different ? will my soul be tormented or shall it be at rest!

Will I live to see a tomorrow? will I be ok!

Love has become my disease.

 How can the one person you love be the one that brings you to your knees.

Trapped in emotion. 

So much so you cant crawl out of the hole.

Self inflicted 

Not knowing how deep you've dug yourself in until it's too late.

Alone with nobody to save you but yourself.

Holding on to yourself as if you might just disappear.

At this point you reach a new beginning

 Two wrongs can't make a right and you have to choose to make it right.

Drag yourself to crawl.

Hunch till you stand.

Don't be tempted to look back .

When you stand ,walk till you run and never stop running.

Adjust to the rhythm of your heart beat and soon the thudding will ease and you will breath a sigh of relief and exhale the past with the new beginning.

The past doesn't define us our current choices make us who we will be tomorrow.

You where a child then now your a woman.

WOMEN WHO ARE DIFFICULT TO LOVE by Warsan Shire

POEM BY
 WARSAN SHIRE

 For Women Who Are Difficult To Love(the Somali born Kenyan woman  who;s poetry inspired Beyonce;s lemonade album)
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You are a horse running alone and he tries to tame you
compares you to an impossible highway
To a burning house
says ,you are blinding him
that he could never leave you
forget you
 want anything but you
you dizzy him,
you are unbearable
every woman before or after you
is doused in your name
you fill his mouth
his teeth ache with memory of taste
his body just a long shadow seeking yours
but you are always too intense
frightening in the way you want him
unashamed and sacrificial
he tells you that no man can live up to the one who
lives in your head
and you tried to change didn't you?
closed your mouth more
tried to be softer
prettier
less volatile, less awake
but even when sleeping you could feel
him travelling away from you in his dreams
so what did you want to do, love
split his head open?
you can't make homes out of human beings
someone should have already told you that
and if he wants to leave
then let him leave
you are terrifying
and strange and beautiful
something not everyone knows how to love.