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Tuesday, November 24, 2020
#ENDVICTIMSHAMING NO IS NO CONSENT IS KEY.
Wednesday, November 4, 2020
FEMALE GENITAL MUTILATION
TYPES OF DEPRESSION & SYMPTOMS #mentalhealth
Happier new month.
We have all had a difficult time this year,and looking at some of your emails and questions . Made me realise how important it is to share more about the types of depression.
You might be wondering why you have changed so much. Why you are withdrawn , constantly sad and your just wondering what's going on with you both physically and emotionally.
Depression affects everyone differently, and you might only have some of these symptoms. You may also have other symptoms that aren’t listed here. Keep in mind that it’s also normal to have some of these symptoms from time to time without having depression.
But if they start to impact your day-to-day life, they may be the result of depression.
So here are some of the common symptoms of depression:
- deep feelings of sadness
- dark moods
- feelings of worthlessness or hopelessness
- appetite changes
- sleep changes
- lack of energy
- inability to concentrate
- difficulty getting through your normal activities
- lack of interest in things you used to enjoy
- withdrawing from friends
- preoccupation with death or thoughts of self-harm
There are many types of depression. While they share some common symptoms, they also have some key differences.
Here’s a look at nine types of depression
Major depression
Major depression is also known as major depressive disorder, classic depression, or unipolar depression.
People with major depression experience symptoms most of the day, every day. Like many mental health conditions, it has little to do with what’s happening around you. You can have a loving family, tons of friends, and a dream job. You can have the kind of life that others envy and still have depression.
Even if there’s no obvious reason for your depression, that doesn’t mean it’s not real or that you can simply tough it out.
It’s a severe form of depression that causes symptoms such as:
- despondency, gloom, or grief
- difficulty sleeping or sleeping too much
- lack of energy and fatigue
- loss of appetite or overeating
- unexplained aches and pains
- loss of interest in formerly pleasurable activities
- lack of concentration, memory problems, and inability to make decisions
- feelings of worthlessness or hopelessness
- constant worry and anxiety
- thoughts of death, self-harm, or suicide
These symptoms can last weeks or even months. Some people might have a single episode of major depression, while others experience it throughout their life. Regardless of how long its symptoms last, major depression can cause problems in your relationships and daily activities.
Persistent depression
Persistent depressive disorder is depression that lasts for two years or more. It’s also called dysthymia or chronic depression. Persistent depression might not feel as intense as major depression, but it can still strain relationships and make daily tasks difficult.
Some symptoms of persistent depression include:
- deep sadness or hopelessness
- low self-esteem or feelings of inadequacy
- lack of interest in things you once enjoyed
- appetite changes
- changes to sleep patterns or low energy
- concentration and memory problems
- difficulty functioning at school or work
- inability to feel joy, even at happy occasions
- social withdrawal
Though it’s a long-term type of depression, the severity of symptoms can become less intense for months at a time before worsening again. Some people also have episodes of major depression before or while they have persistent depressive disorder. This is called double depression.
Persistent depression lasts for years at a time, so people with this type of depression may start to feel like their symptoms are just part of their normal outlook on life.
Manic depression, or bipolar disorder
Manic depression consists of periods of mania or hypomania, where you feel very happy, alternating with episodes of depression. Manic depression is an outdated name for bipolar disorder.
In order to be diagnosed with bipolar I disorder, you have to experience an episode of mania that lasts for seven days, or less if hospitalization is required. You may experience a depressive episode before or following the manic episode.
Depressive episodes have the same symptoms as major depression, including:
- feelings of sadness or emptiness
- lack of energy
- fatigue
- sleep problems
- trouble concentrating
- decreased activity
- loss of interest in formerly enjoyable activities
- suicidal thoughts
- Signs of a manic phase include:
- high energy
- reduced sleep
- irritability
- racing thoughts and speech
- grandiose thinking
- increased self-esteem and confidence
- unusual, risky, and self-destructive behavior
- feeling elated, “high,” or euphoric
In severe cases, episodes can include hallucinations and delusions. Hypomania is a less severe form of mania. You can also have mixed episodes in which you have symptoms of g mania and depression.
Depressive psychosis
Some people with major depression also go through periods of losing touch with reality. This is known as psychosis, which can involve hallucinations and delusions. Experiencing both of these together is known clinically as major depressive disorder with psychotic features. However, some providers still refer to this phenomenon as depressive psychosis or psychotic depression.
Hallucinations are when you see, hear, smell, taste, or feel things that aren’t really there. An example of this would be hearing voices or seeing people who aren’t present. A delusion is a closely held belief that’s clearly false or doesn’t make sense. But to someone experiencing psychosis, all of these things are very real and true.
Depression with psychosis can cause physical symptoms as well, including problems sitting still or slowed physical movements.
Perinatal depression
Perinatal depression, which is clinically known as major depressive disorder with peripartum onset, occurs during pregnancy or within four weeks of childbirth. It’s often called postpartum depression. But that term only applies to depression after giving birth. Perinatal depression can occur while you’re pregnant.
Hormonal changes that happen during pregnancy and childbirth can trigger changes in the brain that lead to mood swings. The lack of sleep and physical discomfort that often accompanies pregnancy and having a newborn doesn’t help, either.
Symptoms of perinatal depression can be as severe as those of major depression and include:
- sadness
- anxiety
- anger or rage
- exhaustion
- extreme worry about the baby‘s health and safety
- difficulty caring for yourself or the new baby
- thoughts of self-harm or harming the baby
Women who lack support or have had depression before are at increased risk of developing perinatal depression, but it can happen to anyone.
Premenstrual dysphoric disorder
Premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD) is a severe form of premenstrual syndrome (PMS). While PMS symptoms can be both physical and psychological, PMDD symptoms tend to be mostly psychological.
These psychological symptoms are more severe than those associated with PMS. For example, some women might feel more emotional in the days leading up to their period. But someone with PMDD might experience a level of depression and sadness that gets in the way of day-to-day functions.
Other possible symptoms of PMDD include:
- cramps, bloating, and breast tenderness
- headaches
- joint and muscle pain
- sadness and despair
- irritability and anger
- extreme mood swings
- food cravings or binge eating
- panic attacks or anxiety
- lack of energy
- trouble focusing
- sleep problems
Similarly to perinatal depression, PMDD is believed to be related to hormonal changes. Its symptoms often begin just after ovulation and start to ease up once you get your period.
Some women dismiss PMDD as just a bad case of PMS, but PMDD can become very severe and include thoughts of suicide.
Seasonal depression
Seasonal depression, also called seasonal affective disorder and clinically known as major depressive disorder with seasonal pattern, is depression that’s related to certain seasons. For most people, it tends to happen during the winter months.
Symptoms often begin in the fall, as days start to get shorter, and continue through the winter. They include:
- social withdrawal
- increased need for sleep
- weight gain
- daily feelings of sadness, hopelessness, or unworthiness
Seasonal depression may get worse as the season progresses and can lead to suicidal thoughts. Once spring rolls around, symptoms tend to improve. This might be related to changes in your bodily rhythms in response to the increase in natural light.
Situational depression
Situational depression, clinically known as adjustment disorder with depressed mood, looks like major depression in many respects.
But it’s brought on by specific events or situations, such as:
- the death of a loved one
- a serious illness or other life-threatening event
- going through divorce or child custody issues
- being in emotionally or physically abusive relationships
- being unemployed or facing serious financial difficulties
- facing extensive legal troubles
Of course, it’s normal to feel sad and anxious during events like these — even to withdraw from others for a bit. But situational depression happens when these feelings start to feel out of proportion with the triggering event and interfere with your daily life.
Situational depression symptoms tend to start within three months of the initial event and can include:
- frequent crying
- sadness and hopelessness
- anxiety
- appetite changes
- difficulty sleeping
- aches and pains
- lack of energy and fatigue
- inability to concentrate
- social withdrawal
Atypical depression
Atypical depression refers to depression that temporarily goes away in response to positive events. Your doctor might refer to it as major depressive disorder with atypical features.
Despite its name, atypical depression isn’t unusual or rare. It also doesn’t mean that it’s more or less serious than other types of depression.
Having atypical depression can be particularly challenging because you may not always “seem” depressed to others (or yourself). But it can also happen during an episode of major depression. It can occur with persistent depression as well.
Other symptoms of atypical depression can include:
- increased appetite and weight gain
- disordered eating
- poor body image
- sleeping much more than usual
- insomnia
- heaviness in your arms or legs that lasts an hour or more a day
- feelings of rejection and sensitivity to criticism
- assorted aches and pains
How do I know which type I have?
If you think you might have any type of depression, it’s important to follow up with a doctor. All depression types discussed in this article are treatable, though it might take some time to find the right treatment for you.
If you’ve had a previous bout of depression and think it may be happening again, see your psychiatrist or other mental health professional right away.
If you’ve never had depression before, start with your primary care physician. Some symptoms of depression can be related to an underlying physical condition that should be addressed.
Try to give your doctor as much information about your symptoms as you can. If possible, mention:
- when you first noticed them
- how they’ve affected your daily life
- any other mental health conditions you have
- any information about a history of mental illness in your family
- all prescription and over-the-counter medications you take, including supplements and herbs
It might feel uncomfortable, but try to tell your doctor everything. This will help them give you a more accurate diagnosis and refer you to the right type of mental health professional
For more info visit https://www.healthline.com
Tuesday, September 1, 2020
YOUR LIFE HAS MEANING DONT GIVE UP JUST YET

Thursday, July 30, 2020
LESSONS LEARNT AND SHARED
Take a deep breath and pause it's never that serious.when everything seems to be going wrong, and it makes you feel like you can't go on. Allow yourself time to process things . It's a teachable moment and one day you will be telling the story of how you made it through.
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Wednesday, July 1, 2020
CREATE ONE INCREDIBLE MEMORY FOR YOURSELF AND OR SOMEBODY ELSE
Sometimes it even feels like a figment of imagination .
However the only thing that makes it magical.Is when you share a special moment with someone else and that memory becomes something you both share for eternity.
Saturday, May 30, 2020
I CANT BREATH !!!
BLACK POWER IS GIVING THE POWER BACK TO PEOPLE WHO HAVE NOT HAD POWER OVER THEIR OWN LIVES .
We have all been guilty at one point or the other of , ignoring or silencing that voice in our head that said, "speak up" or "help that person "or that voice that said, "that is not right stop it from happening".
Even here in our own country and continent . We see how the government and our own police forces treat us. Like the case of one Samuel Maina who was brutally beaten by police and when he went to report the matter at the police station nothing was done. If we as Africans truly knew the greatness we come from we would not treat eachother the way we do.
They see the power within us and they know that's something they will never have.
#blackpower
#blacklivesmatter
#blackexcellence
#african
Tuesday, May 5, 2020
WHEN DID YOUR CHILDHOOD /INNOCENCE END?
I was watching an interview with Dr edith eger a holocaust survivor and she said something that paused me and allowed me to truly ask myself a question and answer it as honestly as i possibly could. She said"When did your childhood/ your innocence end?What did you see? hear? experience? That changed you forever?"
Sons clearly suffer as much as daughters do and, in some way, perhaps even more deeply because they tend to suffer alone and in silence.
So, if you are a son of an unloving mother, perhaps the gift you should give next Mother’s Day is one to yourself: Take a deep breath and begin the journey of healing. No matter what the culture says, acknowledging the pain will make you a better, stronger man, lover, husband, friend, and father.
Sunday, April 26, 2020
DUST TO DUST AND ASHES TO ASHES

We need to remember that we are only here for a short time. We may not know what happens next or know where we are going. But God knows it all and in him we should know that once this part of our lives is over greater things we can't even begin to imagine will happen.
RUNNING AWAY FROM YOUR PROBLEMS IS A RACE YOU CAN NEVER WIN.
Saturday, March 28, 2020
WHAT TO DO DURING QUARANTINE #COVID19 #CORONAVIRUS
We can look at 2020 and say it has been the worst because it does feel and look like that.Our lives have been flipped around and for most of us life as we have known will never be the same.
We have become aware of how fragile the earth is and how much damage we as humans have caused to it .
We have become aware of how fragile life is and how much time we have wasted on things that we thought where important / could not live without .
We have seen beyond race and borders that all blood is red and nobody is better than the other.
We have a refound value for family and love .
Sunday, March 22, 2020
BIBLE PRAYER FOR PROTECTION
- Psalm 91
- 1
- He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty. [1]
- 2
- I will say [2] of the LORD, "He is my refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust."
- 3
- Surely he will save you from the fowler's snare and from the deadly pestilence.
- 4
- He will cover you with his feathers, and under his wings you will find refuge; his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart.
- 5
- You will not fear the terror of night, nor the arrow that flies by day,
- 6
- nor the pestilence that stalks in the darkness, nor the plague that destroys at midday.
- 7
- A thousand may fall at your side, ten thousand at your right hand, but it will not come near you.
- 8
- You will only observe with your eyes and see the punishment of the wicked.
- 9
- If you make the Most High your dwelling-- even the LORD, who is my refuge--
- 10
- then no harm will befall you, no disaster will come near your tent.
- 11
- For he will command his angels concerning you to guard you in all your ways;
- 12
- they will lift you up in their hands, so that you will not strike your foot against a stone.
- 13
- You will tread upon the lion and the cobra; you will trample the great lion and the serpent.
- 14
- "Because he loves me," says the LORD, "I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name.
- 15
- He will call upon me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble, I will deliver him and honor him.
- 16
- With long life will I satisfy him and show him my salvation."
Thursday, March 19, 2020
CORONA VIRUS #COVID19 SYMPTOMS AND PREVENTATIVE MEASURES
The most common symptoms of COVID-19 are fever, tiredness, and dry cough. Some patients may have aches and pains, nasal congestion, runny nose, sore throat or diarrhea. These symptoms are usually mild and begin gradually. Some people become infected but don’t develop any symptoms and don't feel unwell. Most people (about 80%) recover from the disease without needing special treatment. Around 1 out of every 6 people who gets COVID-19 becomes seriously ill and develops difficulty breathing. Older people, and those with underlying medical problems like high blood pressure, heart problems or diabetes, are more likely to develop serious illness. People with fever, cough and difficulty breathing should seek medical attention.
You can reduce your chances of being infected or spreading COVID-19 by taking some simple precautions:
- Regularly and thoroughly clean your hands with an alcohol-based hand rub or wash them with soap and water.
Why? Washing your hands with soap and water or using alcohol-based hand rub kills viruses that may be on your hands. - Maintain at least 1 metre (3 feet) distance between yourself and anyone who is coughing or sneezing.
Why? When someone coughs or sneezes they spray small liquid droplets from their nose or mouth which may contain virus. If you are too close, you can breathe in the droplets, including the COVID-19 virus if the person coughing has the disease. - Avoid touching eyes, nose and mouth.
Why? Hands touch many surfaces and can pick up viruses. Once contaminated, hands can transfer the virus to your eyes, nose or mouth. From there, the virus can enter your body and can make you sick. - Make sure
you, and the people around you, follow good respiratory hygiene. This
means covering your mouth and nose with your bent elbow or tissue when
you cough or sneeze. Then dispose of the used tissue immediately.
Why? Droplets spread virus. By following good respiratory hygiene you protect the people around you from viruses such as cold, flu and COVID-19. - Stay home if you feel unwell. If you have a fever,
cough and difficulty breathing, seek medical attention and call in
advance. Follow the directions of your local health authority.
Why? National and local authorities will have the most up to date information on the situation in your area. Calling in advance will allow your health care provider to quickly direct you to the right health facility. This will also protect you and help prevent spread of viruses and other infections. - Keep up to date on the latest COVID-19
hotspots (cities or local areas where COVID-19 is spreading
widely). If possible, avoid traveling to places – especially if you are
an older person or have diabetes, heart or lung disease.
Why? You have a higher chance of catching COVID-19 in one of these areas.
Protection measures for persons who are in or have recently visited (past 14 days) areas where COVID-19 is spreading
- Follow the guidance outlined above (Protection measures for everyone)
- Self-isolate
by staying at home if you begin to feel unwell, even with mild symptoms
such as headache, low grade fever (37.3 C or above) and slight runny
nose, until you recover. If it is essential for you to have someone
bring you supplies or to go out, e.g. to buy food, then wear a mask to
avoid infecting other people.
Why? Avoiding contact with others and visits to medical facilities will allow these facilities to operate more effectively and help protect you and others from possible COVID-19 and other viruses. - If you develop fever, cough
and difficulty breathing, seek medical advice promptly as this may be
due to a respiratory infection or other serious condition. Call in
advance and tell your provider of any recent travel or contact
with travelers.
Why? Calling in advance will allow your health care provider to quickly direct you to the right health facility. This will also help to prevent possible spread of COVID-19 and other viruses.
Wednesday, March 11, 2020
SEXUAL ORIENTATION: TYPES OF SEXUALITY.
Sexual orientation is an enduring pattern of romantic or sexual attraction (or a combination of these) to persons of the opposite sex or gender, the same sex or gender, or to both sexes or more than one gender (Wikipedia)
Everyone has their own identity some struggle with and to some it comes naturally. So today i would like to create awareness of the various sexual orientations and help give voice to those who cant speak freely.
Rememer we are one. and we should all be able to live ad speak our truth.