Victim-blaming is the attitude which suggests that the victim rather than the perpetrator bears responsibility for the assault.
Victim-blaming occurs when it is assumed that an individual did something to provoke the violence by actions, words, or dress.
Many people would rather believe that someone caused their own misfortune because it makes the world seem a safer place, but victim-blaming is a major reason that survivors of sexual and domestic violence do not report their assaults. While some suffer from depression and even become suicidal.
We tend to attribute other people’s behaviors to internal, personal characteristics while ignoring external forces and variables that also might have played a role.
When we look at an event that happened in the past, we have a tendency to believe that we should have been able to see the signs and predict the outcome.
This hindsight makes it seem like the victims of a crime, accident, or another form of misfortune should have been able to predict and prevent whatever problem might have befallen them.
This line of reasoning completely triggers me . Why? Why is it ok to be raped because of what you wear,what you said,how you acted ,how you sat or even what colour your inner garments are!
How have we gotten to a point where find it normal to assume something bad will always happen. That we should be ready to fight our way out of a situation and if we fail to it's still our fault.
We excuse abusers behaviours more often than we support the victim. The person that will be left with those scars for life. The person that will have to re-live that nightmare, that encounter over and over until they heal. While the abuser walks away with a slap on the wrist and the probability of them doing it again doubling with each time they get away with it.
Whether or not the survivors story makes sense to you. You should always see the weight of the situation and see, how hard it is to even speak up to begin with.
What joy does a person get from making a claim as serious as rape or abuse ?
Dear survivor,
I want you to know. Although you have lost a part of you. Know that it is not all of you.
Speak up and don't be affair to speak your truth.
Free yourself and don't let them silence you .Don't let them sentence you to the prison of your mind and soul.
Don't let them take any more than they already have. You are loved.
You are worthy.
The abuse/assault you went through. is not your fault.
