EMOTIONAL HEALING

Emotional healing is the process of acknowledging, allowing, accepting, integrating, and processing painful life experiences and strong emotions. It may involve empathy, self-regulation, self-compassion, self-acceptance, mindfulness, and integration.

Many people have a tendency to want to control the process of emotional healing by minimizing the pain and controlling their emotions, but this can actually inhibit the process of emotional healing.

On my own journey of emotional healing I have tried and failed, thought I had learnt ,had to unlearn ,thought I was making progress but only hiding behind a busy schedule.Being afraid to be alone and sit in silence and even been afraid to look in the mirror because I didn't want to see the pain I was carrying.

What I failed to realize at the time is that when we try to resist feeling something painful, we often protract the very pain we’re trying to avoid. Doing so is a prescription for continued suffering. There’s also something about the action of searching that blocks us from what we seek. The constant looking outside of ourselves can keep us from knowing when we hit the target. Something valuable can be going on inside us, but if we’re not tuning in, we can miss it. “What aren’t you willing to see?"

I eventually learned that it was less about what I could or couldn’t see and more about the way I saw things.

I read a quote that said,"The goal of this madness was to intimately come to know the madness of the mind by observing it. I learned how my mind continually taunted me with worst case-scenario thinking and the lie that if I just worried hard enough, I could insulate myself from what I feared most.

However ,just like my previous post I have learnt that I truly can do what I set myself to doing and with that as my frame of mind I changed alot over the years . It is evident through every post on this blog. I have shared my thoughts and my emotions . I have shared my experiences through each post and helped many of you along the way in different ways. 

 The most important areas to work on I have found to be.

Acceptance of the state I am in.

Finding the roots of the problem.

Letting go and accepting forgiveness of self and giving forgiveness

Physical representation of letting go of areas that need to be let go of.

Setting goals.

Starting over when I felt I hadn't let go 

Releasing yourself.

Finding who you are now .

TRYING SOMETHING NEW

TO LEARN SOMETHING NEW YOU HAVE TO DO SOMETHING NEW AND NOT BE AFRAID OF FAILING

For the longest time I've always wanted to go Bunge jumping and as the picture shows o finally did it. I'm actually terrified of heights and wanted to see what it would feel like to push myself passed a point I know was going to be harder than usual.

It wasn't easy every step up the 60m crane was excruciating . I stopped and looked down every so often to remind myself how far I had come, but kept looking up at how much further I had to go . Which felt like looking back at my life and looking back up to the future. So many times I could have given up but I didn't and that's my hope for you.

So I woke up one morning and decided to do it after about 10 years of procrastination 🤣 .what I learnt in those 10 min after waiting so long was. I really can do anything I set my mind to. So waiting so long to do it only denied me that satisfaction.

So what I would like to share with you all this year is if you are going to do something. Just do it and do it as soon as you can . Don't deny yourself that simple satisfaction.