WHEN A WOMAN IS LOVED CORRECTLY SHE BECOMES TEN TIMES THE WOMAN SHE WAS BEFORE

To be loved and seen is the most beautiful gift in this life. 

To be seen for who you are and what you are not.

To be seen in the little things you do and the big ones.

As women we are like rose petals beautiful soft and bright. Yet fragile when mishandled.

We are like the first rays of sunshine after a cold winter.

However we can also bring the winter right to your doorstep.

We are God's loved and beautiful creation.

We  all wish for true love. 

You know the kind of love where,you are loved and loved back . 

The kind of love where you are looking into your partners eyes. Feeling safe respected and cared for .That feeling that makes life's journey matter.

After all.We where created to share this life with those we care about. 

That's what makes living worth while . 

What makes this existence mean something.

20 REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD BE SINGLE.

Being single used to mean that nobody wanted you. Now it just means you are patiently deciding how you want your life to be & who you want to spend it with.

 You have just left a relationship.

Some believe that the best way to get over someone is to get under another...if we are being honest nothing rushed ever yielded good results.

Take time to heal, debrief and rediscover yourself.

You are afraid of commitment.

Deal with why you are afraid more often than not you will discover that it's past traumas still haunting you that you need to let go of.

You are still in love with an ex.

If you want to get back with your ex or still have feelings for your ex. You will just be wasting the other person's time.whuch isn't fair

You are afraid of being alone / don't like being alone.

Find out why you don't like being alone. Find out why you need a distraction or validation from someone else and more often than not you will find out you are dealing with past trauma

Your desperate.

What is meant to be yours will be yours. Do not force yourself into someone's life or settle for someone because you feel time is running out Or because of whatever reason you have been told or tell yourself. It's better to be happy and alone than miserable . Also know that you do deserve true love and happiness.

You expect every date to turn into a relationship.

Sometimes you have to kiss a couple of frogs to find prince charming or sometimes your looking at him and you don't know. Also know that heartbreak isnt permanent you really do have to get your feet in the mud .

You are busy.

Nobody likes to feel alone, neglected or feel like they come second. Find time for those you love and show them you care and adore them.

You have trust issues.

For starters I am sorry that in some way or form someone broke your heart or made you feel that you can't trust anyone. However if you really want to be in a relationship you have to heal first and then take the risk over and over again until you get it right. Don't let fear cripple you.

You are going though a life change .

Simply put, what happens when the way your feeling goes away? You can't make a person go away.....

You don't know what you want.

Figure out what you want first .know what you like and then go after it not the other way around.

There's a voice in your head telling you NO.

If there's a light in your head or a voice telling you this is not for you or this is wrong or you need to leave please do trust your instincts.It might save you time and pain

You have a to do list for things to do before you settle into one.

It just means that your not going to give it your all because what happens when the person gets tired of waiting?

If you are settling for someone.

Know your worth, know you deserve the best and even though it sucks waiting .imagine how much more it will suck if your in an unhappy relationship.

You enjoy your freedom.

Dont waste anyone's time if you don't want to commit.Dont break anyone's heart because yours is undecided or wild and free. Be honest about it from the get go.

For security.

What happens when the thing or reason to feel secure goes away. If it's finances you need to be able to stand on your own before you can allow someone else to carry your weight.

You have baggage.

The biggest reason relationships fail is because of past experiences,traumas or memories.in life you either become exactly what you see,better or worse how you heal from the past determines what kind of future you will have 

You want someone to save you.

The only person that saves is Jesus and even he lets us find our own path to him and he expects us to follow his word!

You want to fill a void.

Fill the hole that you have don't expect someone else to do it for you.  What happens when they become unable to keep filling the void?

200 QUESTIONS TO ASK YOUR PARTNER VALENTINES EDITION

Jumping into a new relationship can be exciting and sometimes we forget to ask important questions that can help us lean more about eachother. As well us clarify a few things.

So I've complied a bunch of questions that are both fun,steamy, and some that will make you have to dig deep within yourself . So have fun have some to add hit the comment section.

• What  are your full names?
• How old are you?
• What is your favourite colour?
• What is on your bucket list?
• What is the most adventurous thing you have done?
• Do you have health or mental health issues?
• Are you close with your family?
• What do you think you are ready to be in a relationship?
• What makes you feel like this relationship between us is what you need?
• What is your favourite part of my personality?
• What makes you happy/sad in relationships?
• What is the biggest lesson you have learnt from past relationships?
• What lesson did you learn that you wish you would have learnt early?
• What are you too hard on yourself for?
• How do you deal with stress? 
• What's one thing you probably should do that you never do?
• What is the best thing your parents thought you?
• What makes you different from most people?
• Who is the most toxic person you know?
• What animal do you think you are?
• Where do you see yourself in five years?
• Do you want to have children?
• How long was your longest relationship?Why did it end?
• Have you ever been engaged or married? 
• Do you ever want to get married? 
• Are you monogamous?
• Have you ever lived with a partner?
• How important is religion or spirituality to you?
• What is your sexual orientation?
• How do you feel about gay rights?
• Do you think money can buy happiness?
• What is your dream job?
• What one thing do you want to accomplish in your life?
• What accomplishment are you most proud of?
• What are you afraid of?
• How would you describe your relationship with your family?
• Do you have a best friend? 
• What qualities attracted you to your best friend?
• What is your love language?
• Are you an introvert (those who recharge by being alone) or an extrovert (those who feel energized from being around other people)?
• Do you hold grudges?
• Have you ever struggled with addiction?
• Have you ever been in an emotionally or physically abusive relationship?
• Do you think a relationship can come back from cheating?
• What is your deal breaker in relationships?
• Who was your role model growing up?
• When you were a kid, what career did you want to have?
• In your life when have you most felt alone?
• What is your idea of a perfect Sunday afternoon?
• What is your favorite holiday?
• What is the best present you've ever received?
• What did you and your friends do for fun in middle school?
• Did you have any pets growing up?
• What is your happiest childhood memory?
• If you could cook any dish perfectly, what would you choose?
• When you're having a bad day, what makes you feel better?
• What toy did you always want as a kid, but no one ever bought for you?
• Did you ever sleep with stuffed animals?
• What sound do you love?
• What are your favorite scents?
• What candy do you hate?
• What is your favorite karaoke song?
• What was your favorite thing to do when you are free?
• What is your favorite thing to do on a rainy day?
• Whats your worst memory of being in school,work and life in general?
• What is your happiest childhood memory?
• When you're having a bad day, what makes you feel better?
• What is the weirdest reason you ever broke up with someone?
• When was the time you laughed the hardest?
• When is the last time you cried?
• If you could listen to only one song for the rest of your life, what song would you choose?
• What celebrities have you met?
• What word do you hate?
• What is your pop culture guilty pleasure?
• What is the most embarrassing thing that ever happened to you?
• What is the weirdest thing you've ever bought?
• Who would you rather hire: a personal trainer, a personal chef, or a housekeeper?
• What would you do if you could be a woman/man for a day?
• What is the one movie you've seen more times than you can count?
• If a movie was being made about your life, what actor would play you? What actress would play your love interest?
• What were you like in high school?
• What fictional character do you relate to the most?
• Would you rather be hot or cold?
• If you could be born in a different decade, what decade would you choose?
• What is your favorite part about being an adult?
• In an ideal world, how many times would you have sex in a week?
• What is something you've always wanted to try in bed?
• Have you ever had/would you ever have a threesome?
• Have you ever been attracted to a person of the same sex?
• How did you lose your virginity?
• What is your number one sexual fantasy? Would you ever do it in real life?
• Where is your favorite place to have sex outside of the bedroom?
• Have you ever been walked in on during sex? Have you ever walked in on someone else?
• What is the craziest thing you've ever been asked to do in bed? Did you do it?
• How do you feel about porn? What kind of porn do you like?
• What is your favorite sexual position? 
• What is your least favorite sexual position?
• What are your most sensitive erogenous zones that don't always get attention? (Nipples, ears, neck, etc.)
• What is your favorite part about sex? (Foreplay, teasing, penetration, oral sex, pillow talk, etc.)
• If we were going to role play, who would you want me to dress up as?
• What sex toy have you been dying to try?
• What words or sexy phrases turn you on?
• What is the weirdest thing that turns you on?
• What would you change about your childhood? 
• What would you never change about your childhood?
• Have you ever gotten anyone pregnant? How did you handle it?
• What is one thing you wish you could change about yourself?
• What five toxic traits do you have?
• Have you ever cheated on anyone? 
• Haveyou ever been cheated on?
• What is your biggest regret?
• Who are you jealous of?
• What is the biggest misconception people have about you?
• Have you ever spent the night in jail?
• Have you ever been to therapy?
• Have you ever had to break up with a friend?
• Are you friends with any of your exes?
• What bad habit do you have that you would you like to break?
• Have you ever snooped on a partner?
• When was the last time you cried?
• Have you ever had your heart broken?
• What was the most difficult time in your life?
• Is it ever okay to lie?
• What do you like most about yourself?
• What is the biggest risk you've ever taken?
• What is the hardest decision you've ever made?
• What is more important in a relationship: an emotional connection or a physical connection?
• Out of your friends and family, whose relationship do you admire the most?
• What is the most important quality you look for in a partner?
• What is the first thing you noticed about me?
• What do you love about me?
• What worries you about me?
• What is the sexiest thing a partner can wear?
• What is your ideal date?
• What couples Halloween costume have you always wanted to do?
• Would you move to a new city for your partner?
• Do you keep mementos from past relationships? (Cards, notes, photos, gifts)
• What is the most ridiculous thing you've ever done to impress someone?
• Do you prefer privacy or are you an open book?
• Do you believe in love at first sight?
• What is your favorite part about dating?
• Do you believe in fate?
• What is the biggest sacrifice you've ever made for a relationship?
• What is your favorite love song?
• Do you us getting married?

LIKE ,SHARE ,FOLLOW AND HAPPY VALENTINE'S

PEOPLE WHO ARE DIFFICULT TO LOVE.

WHEN THE WALLS YOU HAVE BUILT TO PROTECT YOURSELF FROM PAIN CAUSE YOU PAIN INSTEAD.
See part 1 Women who are difficult to love

The reason we close our eyes before something traumatic happens is because we don't want to see the pain occur. Its the bodies way of protecting itself.

Now translate that into everyday life. Where we go through problems, learn lessons and overcome them.

Our mind also does the same thing especially when it comes to human relationships. We build walls to protect ourselves from being hurt. We do so in different ways.

Sometimes we do so by pushing people away because, they make us feel/experience things in a way we have never felt before which makes us feel uncomfortable. 
Almost like it is a bitter pill to swallow. 
To think that someone could actually love them and their imperfections. 
Can make you wonder how can somebody love me if we don't love myself.

Withholding love is a form of self sabotage .As what we withhold from others we are withholding from ourselves.

We need to remember that one can only give as much love as they have within themselves and which means if you don't have a lot to give .Giving becomes a task .

Sometimes we try so hard to place the blame on everyone/everything else yet we still can't seem to find the enemy. And the truth is simply because we haven't looked deep within ourselves

We sabotage things in our own lives because deep down we feel like we don't deserve them. Which is a result of living a life where you are constantly criticized or a life where you are constantly made to feel less of what you are.
This is where it gets tricky because breaking patterns that have been with you and have seen from those around you is hard.

We sometimes we try avoid making mistakes we see others making and without knowing walk ourselves into the same troubles.
Because avoiding something and dealing with it are two different things.

Live your life truly dont be afraid to feel because emotional suffering is just your body's way of letting you know you are not living your truth.

Live, Love ,Learn ,and please  don't stand in your own way.