I CANT BREATH !!!

BLACK POWER IS GIVING THE POWER BACK TO PEOPLE WHO HAVE NOT HAD POWER OVER THEIR OWN LIVES .

We have all been guilty at one point or the other of , ignoring or silencing that voice in our head that said, "speak up" or "help that person "or that voice that said, "that is not right stop it from happening".

Maybe it was out of fear ,maybe we where too preoccupied with our own problems or in other cases , maybe we chose to mind our own business.

Well now more than ever we are all aware of it. We have seen what keeping quiet ,doing nothing, avoiding confrontation results in . 

It is a hard pill to swallow when you actually see how people with African decent / people of colour are treated.

Even here in our own country and continent . We see how the government and our own police forces treat us. Like the case of one Samuel Maina who was brutally  beaten by police and when he went to report the matter at the police station nothing was done. If we as Africans truly knew the greatness we come from we would not treat eachother the way we do. 

It is even harder to believe that so many people have been conditioned to think that black people are the problem.

That black people are not human.

To think that it is a norm that so many peoples lives suffer because of the colour of their skin is heart breaking and gut wrenching.

I have always believed that you should always treat people the way you want to be treated or even better. However at a time where our compliance has been taken for granted our silence has been taken for weakness it's just too much to bare.

My heart aches for the memory of George Floyd and all the countless number of people who have suffered because, they where taught that human rights where not written for anyone with African descent but only those of pale/ lighter skin.

I see the pain in all our eyes. The pain in all those protesters who are asking,

"How long will this go on?"

"Why do they hate us so much?"

The frustration as of not getting justice. The frustration that so many black lives get ruined because of racism but nothing is being done.

Do you really blame them for saying enough is enough!

The spirit within us is strong and over the years whatever they have done to us hasn't broken us. Right from the beginning of slavery, colonialism where theys stole our land , abused us , sold us tortured us, locked us up and dehumanized us .

They think we are inhuman because we can survive and have survived and continue to survive despite all they put us through and that is what threatens them. The fact that we continue fighting . The fact that we continue to rise .
They see the power within us and they know that's something they will never have.
#blackpower
#blacklivesmatter
#blackexcellence
#african

THE THREAT OF FEMINISM TO A NARCISSIST

SHE IS TOO MUCH FOR HIM BECAUSE HE SEES HER AS A THREAT.
Also read my post on
. Empowering the woman is empowering the nation.
http://untoldlivesofwomen.blogspot.co.ke/2016/02/the-history-of-working-woman.html
/the-traditional-role-of-woman-in-modern.
http://untoldlivesofwomen.blogspot.co.ke/2016/02/women-in-cheuvanistic-society.htmlhttp://untoldlivesofwomen.blogspot.co.ke/feminismfeminist.html
http://untoldlivesofwomen.blogspot.co.ke/2017/07/todayswoman.html
http://untoldlivesofwomen.blogspot.co.ke/2018/02/who-is-ment-to-empower-boy-child.html
financial-dependency
Sources:wikipedia and Schoenewolf, G., Gender Narcissism, chapter 4 in Psychoanalytic Centrism: Collected Papers of a Neo-Classical Psychoanalyst, published by CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform (2012)

 In helping  men find cures to deal with the woman of today it is rather important to first describe the “woman of today”..

In these modern times today’s woman is a multifaceted complex being.

 She is independent, yet she needs others, she is mans equal yet seeks protection from her partner.
Todays woman is a manager, actor , teacher , farmer, botanist , makangaa, austanaut , bus driver ,she is all that there is to be and at the same time  .She is all that and a lot more.

 She is informed , outspoken  she is a pioneer of sorts, a manager of sorts in this organism we call life. The woman of today can be anything she wants to be, in character and career. 

She does all thos and makes it look effortless. She is the heart of the home a companion.A care giver a nurturer a mom and most importantly a wife.

To be totally frank, the woman of today is spread out, filtered by social class, income and many others .The woman’s experience today is a mirad and an array of talents.

So how does that stack up against the man today.

To look at the totality of todays woman.

To solve this we have to look at the modern woman in context of what she faces today. Many women are awakening to a world that seemed to be domineered by men and many a times feminists have been called out coming too strong against men.

To be honest the women that have worked hard and strong and have dominated their professions may be paired with a man who dominates his career path and as alphas they barley balance out.

They could feed on their fears or mislead one another in an unending battle of competition, but narcissism is gratification from vanity.

Lets look at narcissim.

Narcissism is the pursuit of gratification from vanity or egotistic admiration of one's own attributes. The term originated from Greek  semythology, where the young Narcissus fell in love with his own image reflected in a pool of water.

(Take in that analogy it has true depth)

The hallmarks of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) are grandiosity, a lack of empathy for other people, and a need for admiration. People with this condition are frequently described as arrogant, self-centered, manipulative, and demanding.

 They may also concentrate on grandiose fantasies (e.g. their own success, beauty, brilliance) and may be convinced that they deserve special treatment. 

These characteristics typically begin in early adulthood and must be consistently evident in multiple contexts, such as at work and in relationships. 

People with narcissistic personality disorder believe they are superior or special, and often try to associate with other people they believe are unique or gifted in some way. 

This association enhances their self-esteem, which is typically quite fragile underneath the surface. Individuals with NPD seek excessive admiration and attention in order to know that others think highly of them. Individuals with narcissistic personality disorder have difficulty tolerating criticism or defeat, and may be left feeling humiliated or empty when they experience an "injury" in the form of criticism or rejection. 

Which makes them feel that inorder to feel better they must undermine those they feel are a threat.

They are harsh and can be cruel. One minute they seem like saints the next they are the source of unending be-littlement

Here’s a checklist to know if you’re a real feminist or just a person who’s noticed how their own life isn’t fair:

• When a lot of people. Unlike You tell you you don’t get where they’re coming from, you say they’re all out to get you.…and you unquestionably think this attack on you is far more awful than anything they may have had to endure.
• You get defensive when people suggest you aren’t as enlightened as Buddha, rather than welcoming the opportunity to learn and further your own deprogramming.
• You think you are Too Cool to be influenced.
• When a lot of other feminists say something you disagree with, and you tell them how stupid they are, and when they try explain that, you refuse to back down from supporting your perspective as the only valid perspective
• You engage in counter-stereotyping  whenever you feel like it (I’ve been guilty of this in the past myself).
• …without even explaining that your counter-stereotypes apply only to white men, because you keep forgetting men of color exist and experience a whole different intersection of privileges and anti-privileges than the men you want to be.
• If this list sounds like you… you’ll probably need someone else to tell you, since you’re just Too Cool. But if someone tells you it sounds like you, take a deep breath and admit to yourself, “I can be wrong. I can be. It is possible.” And then listen.
  

He doesnt understand her kind. So  to despise/be-little her is what makes more sense.

She stands tall with herback straight.

 Has no time for his little tales for she knows where she is going and refuses to allow her space to be contaminated by a person that doesnt know her value.

She spent many years believing all she was told and soon believed, she was the probelm. 

With no confidence she was a puppet on a string an empty soul a walking corpse and he moved her as he pleased.

On the morning that it dawned on her.

 At her lowest of lows she was finally ready to reach out of the bottomless pit and reclaim,all that was robbed of her.

She climbed out and refused to look back. Lest she turn to a piller of salt...

 That morning for the first time she looked at the mirror and saw the face of a stranger .
A drained soul , a low soul . oh my soul

She thought to herself...

Dark circles around her eyes .the darkness has poured out from within .
For if the eyes are the door to the soul this soul needed to be freed.

She now  has her walls up you have to take them down each layer to get to the creamy center and. To some its too much to ask .
But it is through her walls that she begins to live.

She heals and she now gains the strength to be who she is destined to be.

She is now free . Out of the prison that was negativity.

Maybe her love is too much to see so to them love is blind.

Women are Gods gift to this existance in building her you build a better life.

Live this life learning .Laugh and Love and in all dont let anyone stop you from achieving your goals.