Found this song and just had to share ….
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Found this song and just had to share ….
I remember being 13 what a fragile time so many emotions, insecurities ,so many changes physically mentally and emotionally. If you are wondering why I brought this up or why I am thinking about all this it’s because my little baby girl just turned 13 . The age where you feel invincible ,excitable and curious. I feel a bit terrified so I asked myself what should I tell her .
Thirteen is a tender, powerful age.It’s where confidence is tested, identity begins to form, and the world quietly starts placing expectations on a girl’s shoulders. What she learns here about her worth, her voice, and her strength can shape the rest of her life.
This piece is for the 13-year-old girl finding her footing, and for every adult responsible for guiding her. These are the values that protect her spirit, build unshakeable confidence, and remind her that she is allowed to grow at her own pace.
Thirteen is a powerful age. It’s the in-between space no longer a little girl, not yet a woman but already full of questions, courage, and becoming. The values a girl learns at this stage quietly shape the woman she grows into. Not the loud lessons, but the lived ones. The ones she practices when no one is watching.
So I decided why not write so here goes the words I would like to share with her and every other 13 year old parent to tell theirs.Here are a few lesssons on confidence, character, and becoming her own safe place.
Here are life values worth passing on to a 13-year-old girl values that protect her spirit, sharpen her confidence, and ground her through every season ahead.
1. Self-Worth (Before the World Defines You)
Teach her this early: her value is not earned by beauty, popularity, obedience, or perfection. She is worthy because she exists. Full stop.
When a girl knows her worth, she doesn’t beg for love, tolerate disrespect, or shrink to be accepted.
Lesson: You don’t audition for spaces meant for you.
2. Confidence Is Built, Not Given
Confidence isn’t loud or flawless. It’s quiet self-trust. It grows when she tries, fails, learns, and tries again. Encourage her to speak even when her voice shakes. To show up even when she doubts herself.
Lesson: Confidence comes from doing hard things scared.
3. Gratitude Grounds the Heart
Gratitude teaches her to see abundance even in small moments—clean water, laughter, rest, safety, friendship. A grateful girl learns joy without comparison and contentment without settling.
Practice: Keep a gratitude list, not to ignore pain but to anchor hope.
4. Patience Is a Form of Strength
In a world that rushes everything, patience teaches her timing. That not everything is hers immediately and that waiting doesn’t mean failing.
Lesson: Growth happens underground before it shows.
5. Persistence Beats Talent
She may not always be the best, but she can always be consistent. Persistence teaches her to keep going when things feel boring, hard, or slow.
Lesson: Showing up matters more than showing off.
6. Perseverance Through Hard Seasons
Life will disappoint her. People will let her down. Dreams will take longer than planned. Perseverance teaches her that pain is not permanent and quitting isn’t the only option.
Lesson: You are allowed to rest but not to give up on yourself.
7. Prayer & Inner Stillness
Whether through prayer, reflection, or quiet moments teach her to sit with herself. To listen inward. To ask for guidance. To know she is not alone in the world or in her struggles.
Lesson: Strength grows when you learn how to be still.
8. Kindness With Boundaries
Kindness does not mean people-pleasing. Teach her to be gentle without being a doormat. Loving without self-betrayal. Giving without depletion.
Lesson: You can be kind and still say no.
9. Emotional Honesty
Teach her to name her feelings anger, sadness, jealousy, joy without shame. Suppressed emotions don’t disappear; they resurface louder later.
Lesson: Feelings are information, not weakness.
10. Respect For Herself First
Respect starts with how she speaks to herself, how she allows others to treat her, and the standards she sets. Self-respect is the foundation of every healthy relationship she’ll ever have.
Lesson: Protect your peace like it matters—because it does.
11. Curiosity & Lifelong Learning
Encourage her to ask questions. To read widely. To learn skills beyond school. Curiosity keeps her adaptable, creative, and resilient in a changing world.
Lesson: Smart girls don’t know everything—they stay curious.
12. Responsibility for Her Choices
Teach her accountability without fear. Mistakes are teachers, not life sentences. Owning choices builds integrity and independence.
Lesson: You are powerful because you choose—and you learn.
13. Becoming Her Own Safe Place
Perhaps the most important value of all: teach her how to comfort herself, trust herself, and come back to herself when the world feels loud.
Lesson: You are allowed to be soft and strong at the same time.
Lastly.You don’t need to rush growing up. You don’t need to be perfect. You don’t need to be smaller to be loved.
Carry these values gently. Let them evolve with you. And remember confidence isn’t knowing you’ll never fall. It’s trusting yourself to rise every time you do.
The world doesn’t need you to be less. It needs you to be whole
- They’ve grown tired of their own patterns
- They want a different future
- They see a relationship worth protecting
- They feel safe enough to grow
- They’re emotionally mature enough to confront themselves
- Brings stability where his life had chaos
- Reflects his best potential back to him
- Makes him feel respected and understood
- Awakens his desire to be consistent and dependable
A HEART TO HOLD IN HAND
It's been a while since I shared something sweet and soft yet burns like fire. So enjoy this one
In your eyes, I do not see a mirror
I see a home.
A place where every heartbeat
meets the rhythm of my own.
We rise with the morning light,
two souls one flame moving in unison,
a flame that does not flicker,
Flowing in one breath , a flame that carries no ending,
a song that lingers beyond silence. Your touch is my peace, against my restless skin, soft and golden at dawn
Happiness is the way your name rests on my lips. your laughter, my dawn.
Your name on my lips
is both prayer and promise
a vow whispered to forever.
Like rivers surrendering to the sea,
we flow together,
carrying with us every memory,
every turn that shaped our journey.
We are roots, entwined and steady,
buried deep in sacred earth,
drinking from the same timeless well,
growing stronger with every season.
For a lifetime, I will choose you
in spring’s bloom,
in summer’s fire,
in autumn’s quiet,
in winter’s hush.
And even beyond a lifetime,
our love will remain,
stretching into eternity,
softening the world,
teaching the sky
that infinity itself
is more beautiful when shared.
With you, I am whole.
With you, I am endless.
With you
I am us.
Forever