As we begin the new year we all have ideas of what we would like to accomplish before the year ends . Some of us chose not to have resolutions because by March we have already gone back to old ways so we ask what's the point of writing any. But the thing we should tell ourselves instead of what is the point is..... I really want to get this and this done but if I don't . I forgive myself and as long as I have breath in me I have a chance to get it done. That is why I felt like self love should be the first thing I write about this year. What is self love you may ask?
Self-love is defined as a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth. Self-love means having a high regard for your own well-being and happiness. Self-love means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others.
My journey into self love began 9 years ago . I knew I needed to put more emphasis on self love when I got to a point in my life where I wasn't where I wanted to be and was unhappy with my choices that got me to where I was. I couldn't stand to see my own reflection in the mirror for more than 10 seconds because all I could see was the face of the person that let me down and that person was myself. I could see the unhappiness in my own eyes and I was soley responsible for my own unhappiness.
Getting myself to where I am today has been a journey of self discovery. I have had to see my own pain and make peace within myself. Forgive myself and others and let go of the pain so that I could find healing. I had to learn how to love myself. How to accept myself for all that I am an all that I am not. Above all I had to learn that if I don't make myself happy I shouldn't expect other people to do it for me.
I read a quote that said you are the most important person in your life . Everyone is responsible for themselves. TBH when I understood that I felt Abit lighter.
So I would like to share with you some of the things I learnt and continue to learn and apply in my own life to date. My hope is that you learn to love yourself and to heal so that you can grow and be who you want to be.
1) Get to know yourself. Who you are .what you like .What you hate .What makes you happy and where you want to go.
2) Learn to say no . Don't over extend yourself . Do what you are comfortable with doing and that should be enough .Don't take on more than you can handle.
3)Be present in the moment. Time flys and we will never get to go back in time all we will have is our memories so make many and be fully present in each moment.You won't get it back.
4)Don't compare yourself to other people. Life is a journey and not a race be you at your own pace.
5)Forgive yourself for your shortcomings.
If you can't forgive yourself who will.
6) Accept yourself for who you are and what you are not.
7)Be kind to yourself and spoil yourself . Show yourself love for all you have been through and reward your body spirit and soul for the fact that you keep going. And prioritize me time by doing something you enjoy doing.
8) Celebrate your triumphs allow yourself to grieve and heal from your losses . Lastly allow yourself to feel your feeling.
9)Stand up for yourself.
10)Know that it is perfectly okay to ask for help .It takes a village to go through life.
11) know that not everybody will like you and it's not your job to please them. Just be you and do you
12)Practice gratitude and thanks giving.
13)Take care of your body so that it can take care of you.
14)Be kind to yourself.
15) Surround yourself with positive energy . Leave what is negative and toxic behind.
16)Heal from all the scars you have gotten along the way
17) Be kind to yourself and others.
18) Show love and compassion. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you
19) Choose YOU.
20) Perfom an act of kindness to someone less fortunate it will always fill your heart to see someone else happy .
Those have been some of the areas I have focused don and I hope they help you on your journey of self love .
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