MOTHERHOOD;
THE JOB THAT NEVER GETS ENOUGH CREDIT
PART 1
It
all begins one morning you rush to the bathroom (morning sickness) and what
they forget to mention is it doesn’t only apply to just mornings. The
heightened sense of smell the moodiness that some people can’t understand the weird
cravings at odd hours and the specificness of the cravings, the days you don’t
feel pretty but you mask it with the prettiest dress in your closet not
forgetting the matching bag and killer shoes, decide on a spa day get your hair
and nails done and you say to yourself
if look it im sure to feel it . some days it works someday it doesn’t and what
can u do on the days it doesn’t id say
cry about it then brave the day with your head above your shoulders as most of
us do anyway its how were built
Then when you get over the heightened sense of smell your tummy starts to show and pretty doesn’t feel pretty anymore. your
constantly tired ,sleepy, irritable and mentally exhausted but the world
doesn’t stop spinning you’ve got chores to do errands
to run friends and family to keep u with a partner who needs your
attention in some cases kids to take care of. A task that seems impossible you
somehow u gather every bit of strength and do it all because there’s no other
way its what you’ve been prepared for your whole life its the dream we all had
above all we know its our role as the woman
Finally its d day and you know its time to meet your baby .you
panic and ask yourself am i ready can i do this then the contractions begin
nothing anyone has told you no amount of yoga or preparation can prepare you
for that pain that rips through you like a sadistic form of torture one minute
its there the next it s gone. So with each breath you prepare your body for the
mighty task ahead. You almost feel like
giving up u can’t take it anymore but you know this is what it means to be a
mother and you know now what your mother went through when she had you and your thankful. All those moments of ogling
over baby booties and watching the baby strength and watching your body move in
a shocking way the stories the promises you made while holding your bun its
time to meet the person that’s walked with you those 9 months shared the same
blood body breath food its time and with
a last push and the cutting of the cord you hear the sound of the new love of
your life your reason for being and with those big eyes looking at you. You
know u never want to go wrong or loose that precious angel in your arms
Your made it and your exhausted but thats just the beginning
your family and friends are waiting to
see the two of you and you know
your journey now begins
PART2 A MOTHERS LOVE PAIN SACRIFICE AND LEARNING TO
HEAL
Its
every girls dream to find there prince charming and the whole family picture
and we all cling on to that dream
because its been rooted to our subconscious its what we have been told we have to achieve
or society will view you as less of a woman .however there’s a huge difference
between dreaming and living t he reality of the
dream.
We all have our love stories they may not include glass
slippers and castles or foreign prince charming s but the emotions
involved are similar a wild romance begins amazing dates hours in each
others company amazing sex undivided attention you feel complete to find someone to actualize your dreams
with someone to spend the rest of your
life with you fall in love and truly love to
every aspect of the word you begin to adjust your life to fit and suit
them ditch a few habits you know don’t
fit in to your new status you wrap each
other in your own universe of love and happiness but it
doesn’t last forever all good things
come to an end or evolve into something different your no longer in
your safe zone your now on a path where
things get real really fast and its not hearts and roses anymore.
Your now a mother priorities change you have this
overwhelming urge to give your baby your
best you have to heal you have to become
your new role now balancing your previous life with your new role seems
impossible because there things you don’t find as important anymore or you
simply don’t have the time.sex needs to be schedules .dates start becoming an indoor activity, lunches
with the girls seem lovely but leaving
all you have to do to go laugh for few minutes seems like a selfish task or u just don’t find the
conversations as exciting as you once did .its not that you feel better than
them your just are in a different point
in your life
Friends feel left out
and don’t give you peace about it and
when they stop its coz they find another
friend with similar passions some partners feel replaced and look for someone or something to
fill the void and your left torn wondering what you ve done wrong to begin with.
You then start to give more than u receive and start to lose
yourself because you start to do what’s
needed of you and the passion dies you
operate mechanically as a result of the
hurt and pain often feeling alone because not everyone can understand what your going through and in most cases you come
across s the bad guy because you have to make the hard decisions. You sacrifice
a lot for the well being of everyone but yourself and you start to fade into
the background and slowly you fade till a day you realise enough is enough but
it might be too late to mend the relationships you have lost .however its never
too late to learn to start with yourself fall in love with you again as you
find the balance what you once loved and
all you love now
Mothers give a lot and seldom receive any gratitude and we have
to accept its hw it is we now have to learn to love ourselves enough to say
no because at the end of the day if were
not ok from within we cant progress
nether can the people in our lives because ethers so much being held
back you have to accept what your reality is fix what needs to be fixed and pray
to God it works and if it doesn’t let it
go the grass can also be green where
your standing
