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Sunday, February 7, 2016


We were created to live for eternity that's why death shakes us to the core

From my own experience of loss and from being there for those I care about or even those I've seen hurting. I've come to understand that In our hearts, we all know that death is a part of life. It gives meaning to our existence because it reminds us how precious life is as were only here for a short period of time.

The loss of a loved one is shattering and can cause a major emotional crisis. You experience bereavement, which literally means "to be deprived by death."

You then begin to experience a wide range of emotions, even when the death is expected. Some people feel numbness after first learning of a death, or go into denial,disbelief,confusion,shock Sadness,yearning,anger,humiliation,despair,guilt,worry. Feelings that are a natural response. nobody is ever prepared for the intensity and duration of these emotions or how swiftly your moods may change. Sometimes you may even begin to doubt your own sanity But be assured that these feelings are healthy and appropriate and will help you come to terms with your loss. As It takes time to fully absorb the impact of a major loss. You never stop missing your loved one,tears will still flow.just as the memories live on but the pain eases after time and allows you to go on but that doesn't mean it will go away completely.
Nothing is ever easy you will mourn and grieve which is natural and you do so to accept the loss. friends and family to share your loss and will support you as best as they can although some people become nervous around you doesn't mean they don't care just means they don't know how to be there.

We express loss physically, emotionally, and psychologically. For instance, crying is a physical expression, while depression is a psychological expression. It is very important to allow yourself to express these feelings. Often, death is a subject that is avoided, ignored or denied. At first it may seem helpful to separate yourself from the pain, but you cannot avoid grieving forever. You can hide the truth but just as the sun is sure to rise so is the truth bound to come out.Someday those feelings will need to be resolved or they may cause physical or emotional illness. Such as stomach pain, loss of appetite, intestinal upsets, sleep disturbances and loss of energy the loss of a loved one can seriously test your natural defence systems. Existing illnesses may worsen or new conditions may develop. Like anxiety attacks, chronic fatigue, depression and thoughts of suicide.

What I've come to learn when dealing with a Loss of a loved one is always difficult. Your reactions are influenced by the circumstances of a death, particularly when it is sudden or accidental. Your reactions are also influenced by your relationship with the person who died.

A child's death arouses a sense of injustice for lost potential, unfulfilled dreams and senseless suffering. Parents may feel responsible for the child's death, no matter how irrational that may seem they may also feel that they have lost a vital part of their own identity.

A spouse's death is very traumatic. In addition to the severe emotional shock, the death may cause a potential financial crisis The death may necessitate major social adjustments requiring the surviving spouse to parent alone, adjust to single life and maybe even return to work.

Children who experience a major loss may grieve differently than adults. A parent's death can be particularly difficult for small children, affecting their sense of security or survival. Often, they are confused about the changes they see taking place around them, particularly if well-meaning adults try to protect them from the truth or from their surviving parent's display of grief.

Limited understanding and an inability to express feelings puts very young children at a special disadvantage. Young children may revert to earlier behaviors (such as bed-wetting), ask questions about the deceased that seem insensitive, invent games about dying or pretend that the death never happened.

Coping with a child's grief puts added strain on a bereaved parent. However, angry outbursts or criticism only deepen a child's anxiety and delays recovery. Instead, talk honestly with children, in terms they can understand. Take extra time to talk with them about death and the person who has died. Help them work through their feelings and remember that they are looking to adults for suitable behavior.

Elderly people may be especially vulnerable when they lose a spouse because it means losing a lifetime of shared experiences. At this time, feelings of loneliness may be compounded by the death of close friends.
A loss due to suicide can be among the most difficult losses to bear. Those left may feel a tremendous burden of guilt, anger and shame. Survivors may even feel responsible for the death.Coping with death is vital to your mental health. Seek out caring people. Find relatives and friends who can understand your feelings of loss. Join support groups with others who are experiencing similar losses.
 Express your feelings. Tell others how you are feeling; it will help you to work through the grieving process.
Take care of your health. Maintain regular contact with your family
Accept that life is for the living. It takes effort to begin to live again in the present and not dwell on the past.
Try to hold off on making any major changes, give yourself time to adjust to your loss.Be patient. It can take months or even years to absorb a major loss and accept your changed life.

If someone you care about has lost a loved one, you can help them by being there for them
Share the sorrow. Allow them — even encourage them — to talk about their feelings of loss and share memories of the deceased.
 Don't offer false comfort. It doesn't help the grieving person when you say "it was for the best" or "you'll get over it in time." Instead, offer a simple expression of sorrow and take time to listen.
Be patient. Remember that it can take a long time to recover from a major loss. Make yourself available to talk.Look forward to the future.this too shall pass and Some day the pain will lessen, leaving you with cherished memories of your loved one.