SOMETIMES LIFE COMES AROUND AND IT KNOCKS YOU DOWN.JUST GET BACK UP

What if I told you the whole purpose of life is to go through the highs and lows.

What would you do different? What would you keep doing? Who would you have in your life and who would you leave out of it.

We've all been conditioned to think that life needs to have an order of events and once you get to a certain point success is what is expected. 

We want to show the highs on our socials and hide the lows. We've been conditioned to think that failure,loss and lows in general should never be part of the equation.

While the reality is that life is a series of highs and lows and what determines your ultimate success of the game of life is how you choose to keep going when you go through successive lows.

What makes the man/woman isn't how much you succeed but what you learn when you stumble and fall. Because it is when we are at our lowest that we can truly evolve. Just as a diamond can only be a diamond once it goes though intense heat and fire.

Live, Learn, Love Share and never stop dreaming.

20 REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD BE SINGLE.

Being single used to mean that nobody wanted you. Now it just means you are patiently deciding how you want your life to be & who you want to spend it with.

 You have just left a relationship.

Some believe that the best way to get over someone is to get under another...if we are being honest nothing rushed ever yielded good results.

Take time to heal, debrief and rediscover yourself.

You are afraid of commitment.

Deal with why you are afraid more often than not you will discover that it's past traumas still haunting you that you need to let go of.

You are still in love with an ex.

If you want to get back with your ex or still have feelings for your ex. You will just be wasting the other person's time.whuch isn't fair

You are afraid of being alone / don't like being alone.

Find out why you don't like being alone. Find out why you need a distraction or validation from someone else and more often than not you will find out you are dealing with past trauma

Your desperate.

What is meant to be yours will be yours. Do not force yourself into someone's life or settle for someone because you feel time is running out Or because of whatever reason you have been told or tell yourself. It's better to be happy and alone than miserable . Also know that you do deserve true love and happiness.

You expect every date to turn into a relationship.

Sometimes you have to kiss a couple of frogs to find prince charming or sometimes your looking at him and you don't know. Also know that heartbreak isnt permanent you really do have to get your feet in the mud .

You are busy.

Nobody likes to feel alone, neglected or feel like they come second. Find time for those you love and show them you care and adore them.

You have trust issues.

For starters I am sorry that in some way or form someone broke your heart or made you feel that you can't trust anyone. However if you really want to be in a relationship you have to heal first and then take the risk over and over again until you get it right. Don't let fear cripple you.

You are going though a life change .

Simply put, what happens when the way your feeling goes away? You can't make a person go away.....

You don't know what you want.

Figure out what you want first .know what you like and then go after it not the other way around.

There's a voice in your head telling you NO.

If there's a light in your head or a voice telling you this is not for you or this is wrong or you need to leave please do trust your instincts.It might save you time and pain

You have a to do list for things to do before you settle into one.

It just means that your not going to give it your all because what happens when the person gets tired of waiting?

If you are settling for someone.

Know your worth, know you deserve the best and even though it sucks waiting .imagine how much more it will suck if your in an unhappy relationship.

You enjoy your freedom.

Dont waste anyone's time if you don't want to commit.Dont break anyone's heart because yours is undecided or wild and free. Be honest about it from the get go.

For security.

What happens when the thing or reason to feel secure goes away. If it's finances you need to be able to stand on your own before you can allow someone else to carry your weight.

You have baggage.

The biggest reason relationships fail is because of past experiences,traumas or memories.in life you either become exactly what you see,better or worse how you heal from the past determines what kind of future you will have 

You want someone to save you.

The only person that saves is Jesus and even he lets us find our own path to him and he expects us to follow his word!

You want to fill a void.

Fill the hole that you have don't expect someone else to do it for you.  What happens when they become unable to keep filling the void?

INSECURITIES. (How to deal with insecurities)

SOMETIMES OUR THOUGHTS ARE BACKED BY SO MUCH INSECURITY THAT THEY CREATE LIES WE BELIEVE.

The core cause of insecurities is often a lack of self-love. If a person holds on to harmful limiting beliefs, like being afraid of failure or thinking that they don't deserve love, they won't be able to trust completely  and trust is the foundation of any relationship..

Our minds sometimes do more damage than good. We can be so stuck in the past. Stuck in what we don't want to happen, Stuck in the fear of what will happen that we talk ourselves into believing that nothing good ever happens that we orchestrate our own downfall and what we fear the most happens.

Sometimes we come up with valid points and our intuition is right . However alot of the times we give into the voices that say we deserve what we are going through. Thoughts of our worst fears coming true that we project them on other people. Thoughts of inadequacy. Thoughts of unworthiness.

We can be out harshest critics and alot of the times we dig ourselves into a hole. Sometimes we isolate ourselves to the point that we are all alone based on what we allow our thoughts convince us.

Whenever you have a thought that negates you. Stop it before it causes more damage .Learn to love yourself and know your worth, Believe in yourself. Learn to heal those scars ,those past wounds and allow yourself to be present in the moment. 

Self love is the best kind of love. Look yourself in the mirror and fall in love with your imperfections, fall in love with what you represent what you are ,what you are not, Fall in love with the parts of you you dont like and heal the inner child within by showing her or him some love.

THE FILTERS WE PUT ON IN LIFE

WE PUT ON FILTERS IN LIFE AS A RESULT OF OUR PAST EXPERIENCES NOT KNOWING THAT THOSE FILTERS INHIBIT US FROM LIVING LIFEIN FULL COLOUR

Life is a series of continuous lessons. Some of those lessons bring us to our knees and almost cripple us. Others we learn from people around us. What you cannot do is stop the process once it begins to unfold.

Look at it this way . When you where younger everything excited you . You where open to endless possibilities and open to the adventure of finding out where the road takes you. As you get older you learn lessons that make you smarter and you begin to evaluate everything sometimes too much that you talk yourself out of an adventure or opportunity because you don't want something to disappoint you, or even go wrong like it did previously. 

That shell we create around us as a protective layer sometimes is the very thing that hinders you from doing what you are supposed to do or hinders you from achieving what you where hoping to achieve. In that way you end up standing in your own way .A quote that keeps me on my toes says," That which we fear we become and that which we judge we become".

Look back in your own life and see areas where you stopped your own blessings  out of fear and evaluate whether or not you want to continue down that road.

Don't let what is happening on the outside  harden your heart. Life is an experience live it  ,learn what you can ,laugh and heal from what you can't change and never stop dreaming. 

PRAY

PRAYING IS RELEASING YOUR SPIRIT TO COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR CREATOR SO DON'T BE AFRAID TO SPEAK OUT LOUD

The holy month of Ramadan on the Muslim calender is here and i remember as a kid how amazing and hard I thought it was but the determination the dedication and the passion I watched  growing up from both family and friends made it even more beautiful. To fast and pray the whole day and then break your fast with your loved ones with good food laughter brings up many memories for me.

You know we then grow up see what life is. Have our own arguments with God as to why some prayers aren't answered or for some people who go through turmoil in life and try praying and become convinced that God doesn't listen or love them and even decide to switch religions or drop religion and God all together.

One thing I've come to understand about faith as I grow older is .sometimes you will not get what you want . Sometimes you will want to give up , sometimes you question everything. However the thing is the person who created you and put you on this earth irregardless of religion or how much you feel neglected by him . He doesn't change he remains and will remain long after you are gone. He even knew at one point you would feel as you do. 

Whether or not you believe it or not you where created and everyone is here for a purpose just as the eco system balances out with every species in it and if one stops existing the balance is lost.

Someone once told me everyone's existence /destiny is intertwined with someone else's and even though your existence may feel insignificant doesn't mean the space you occupy doesn't hold value to someone else So it all boils down to the kind of relationship you have with with your creator whether or not it feels like he is listening to you or not.

Take sometime close your eyes and just speak to him like a friend that just wants to hear from you . Eventually he will show you he heard you. 

If not what harm does it do to speak to your creator atleast he won't tell anyone your secrets.

Live ,laugh,love,learn and never stop praying because you could be one prayer away from your miracle . He said seek and you will find . Knock and the door will be opened . Maybe not at your timing but know he doesn't break his promises.

THE HARDEST LESSON YOU WILL EVER LEARN IN THIS LIFE IS THAT YOU ARE ALONE

LONELINESS DOESNT COME FROM HAVING NOBODY AROUND. IT COMES FROM NOT BEING ABLE TO COMMUNICATE THE THINGS THAT REALLY MATTER

You know one of those days where every thing that could go wrong just goes wrong.

That by the time it gets to the end of the day you just get into bed and feel completely drained. You wonder what's the point of life! Endless torture!  a game where you loose more than you win...

As you go through the waves and the voice in your head just keeps pounding you with even more negatively. You cry out for help but nobody can truly understand what your going through.

You want to scream that your drowning but you can't. Or even when you choose to ask for help you realise there's only so much anyone can do for you because everyone is fighting their own battles.

Or even when you are constantly there for people but no body resceprocates it back to you or in some cases people see you as a place of release .where they dump their pain all on you find peace and leave the weight on your shoulders.

It becomes clear that although we have friends who care ,family who love us and even careers that satisfy our needs and wants. You still can't help but still alone!

In those moments you wonder what life really is supposed to be about because everything you thought it was supposed to be really isn't what it's playing out to be and you wonder how can you deal with it.

I read a quote that said ,"The quicker you accept things as they are the sooner you will discover peace."

It resonates with me because I finally understood what it meant. Denial means resistance and just as the word suggest you are fighting /resisting what is occuring naturally. You got to exactly where you are based on the choices you have made. Both willingly and unwillingly.  

Your situation will not change because you don't agree with it . It will only change when you make the changes necessary . 

Before you can do that you have to sit in silence with yourself Listen to all the thoughts racing in your stillness and then silence the voices that bring you sadness, the voices that cause the resistance. Remove the fear and do what is natural without resistance.

That's why after a good cry you find peace because you have released and are no longer in resistance . You have accepted.

Live, love, laugh ,learn and never stop dreaming because dreams do come true. Ask anyone that refused to give up

KEEP IT SHORT AND SWEET

You ever just sit down and ask yourself if we got this life thing all mixed up. There are days we feel like we are on track achieving goals ,making money, working hard,staying out of trouble. And then there are days we think to ourselves is this all life is supposed to be.

I remember a story I was told about death . 

A man dies and goes up to find neither heaven nor hell. Just a place with souls walking around with no freedom. 

When he looked back down on earth he finally understood that he was given a chance to be free to be who he wanted to be,to explore ,to love ,to live and to learn and all he did was do what was expected like a slave of the system. He had wasted his one shot.

It resonated with me deeply so I thought I would share and ask you. What aspects of your current life do you feel you would regret of you where looking down on yourself and why aren't you doing anything to ensure you don't waste this one shot at life.. . . . .