FOUR LADIES ON A HIGHWAY.

DAMSELS IN DISTRESS

My Saturday morning began without a hitch.All dolled up looking and feeling great.. Meeting with my workmates to attend a wedding. We had the most beautiful day danced,ate,laughed and genuinely enjoyed the celebration.Evening came and it was time for us to head on out.

Cruising down the highway ,our hairs down without a care in the world, music on blast and laughter filling the car .As one of my colleague read an article where a man suggested that women should groom their mans nails by giving regular mani ,pedi's.

Just as we were approaching a round about .We realized we had a flat tire.

In my mind, there was no way i could believe this is happening to me. Four women in a car on a highway and we have a flat tire .At first i wasn't worried how could i be isn't this the part where any noble citizen would see for gorgeously dressed good looking ladies in distress and come to our aid.The memes that where going off in my head just kept me laughing ,and in true fashion non of us had ever had to change a tire and non of us wanted this to be the day we needed to.

So, there we are in the middle of a roundabout hazards on .Emptying the boot of the baby stroller and trying to gather the things we need to get the tire changed . A real Hot mess.

It soon  dawned on us that this is Kenya.

People slowed down n looked at us, but nobody offered any help the men and women in their cars passing hooting and halaring.

 We lived the meme 4 hot girls on a highway with a flat tire.

So we gathered the strength and began the daunting process.

Mother nature favored us and put the rain on hold and then out of the blue a man who was install cables walked over and helped us to it .For that, i would like to thank him i may not remember your name but i remember your kindness and i will definitely pass it forward to anyone i find in need .

So as part of this lesson on my journey i will share with all my readers in true  untold lives of women fashion a lesson on how to change a tire and challenge you to actually go out and do it.

Dear ladies its time to learn.

#ChangeAtireChallenge.

ITEMS YOU WILL NEED

These items should have come with your vehicle:

•  Jack
•  Lug wrench
•  Fully inflated spare tire
•  Vehicle owner’s manual
•  Gloves
•  Mat

    HOW TO CHANGE A TIRE

    1. Find a Safe Location

    As soon as you realize you have a flat tire, do not abruptly brake or turn.  Slowly reduce speed and scan your surroundings for a level, straight stretch of road with a wide shoulder. An empty parking lot would be an ideal place.

 Level ground is good because it will prevent your vehicle from rolling. Also, straight stretches of road are better than curves because oncoming traffic is more likely to see you.

    Never attempt to change your tire on a narrow shoulder near oncoming traffic. Keep moving (slowly) until you find a safer spot. While driving on a flat risks ruining your rim, replacing a rim is better than being hit by an inattentive driver.

    Make sure to consult your owner’s manual and review their specific steps on how to change a flat tire for your vehicle

    2. Turn on Your Hazard Lights

    Your hazard lights or “flashers” will help other drivers see you on the side of the road. To avoid an accident, turn them on as soon as you realize you need to pull over.

    3. Apply the Parking Brake

    Once stopped, always use the parking brake when preparing to replace a flat tire. This will minimize the possibility of your vehicle rolling.

    4. Apply Wheel Wedges

    Wheel wedges go in front of or behind the tires to further ensure the vehicle doesn’t roll while you fix the flat tire. If you’re changing a rear tire, place these in front of the front tires. If your flat tire is at the front, put the wheel wedges behind the rear tires.

    Bricks or large stones will work just as well as “real” wheel wedges. Just be sure they’re large enough to stop the car from rolling.

    5. Remove the Hubcap or Wheel Cover

    If your vehicle has a hubcap covering the lug nuts, it’s easier to remove the hubcap before lifting the vehicle with the jack. If your lug nuts are exposed, you can skip ahead to Step 6.

    Use the flat end of your lug wrench to remove the hubcap. This will work for most vehicles, but some hubcaps need a different tool to come off. Consult your owner’s manual for proper hubcap or wheel cover removal procedures.

    6. Loosen the lug nuts

    Using the lug wrench, turn the lug nuts counterclockwise until you break their resistance. You may have to use force, and that’s ok. Use your foot or all of your body weight if necessary.

    Loosen the lug nuts about ¼ to ½ of a turn, but don’t remove them completely yet. Save that for when it’s time to remove your tire/wheel from the vehicle.

    7. Place the Jack Under the Vehicle

    The right place for the jack is usually beneath the vehicle frame alongside the tire that’s flat. Many vehicle frames have molded plastic on the bottom with a cleared area of exposed metal specifically for the jack. To safely lift and avoid damage to the vehicle, follow the instructions for jack placement in your vehicle owner’s manual.

    8. Raise the Vehicle With the Jack

    To prevent the jack from settling under the weight of your vehicle and coming off balance, place a small cut of 2x6” wood beneath it before attempting to raise your vehicle. This tactic is especially helpful on asphalt.

    With the jack properly positioned, raise the vehicle until the flat tire is about six inches above the ground.

    Never put any part of your body under the vehicle during or after raising the vehicle with the jack.

    9. Unscrew the Lug Nuts

    Now it’s time to remove the lug nuts all the way. Since you've already loosened them, you should be able to unscrew them mostly by hand.

    10. Remove the Flat Tire

    Gripping the tire by the treads, pull it gently toward you until it’s completely free from the hub behind it. Set it on its side so that it doesn’t roll away.

    11. Mount the Spare Tire on the Lug Bolts

    Now place the spare on the hub by lining up the rim with the lug bolts. Push gently until the lug bolts show through the rim.

    12. Tighten the Lug Nuts by Hand

    Put the lug nuts back on the lug bolts and tighten them all the way by hand. Once they are all on, check each one again, tightening as much as possible.  You will tighten them with the wrench after lowering the vehicle to the ground.

    13. Lower the Vehicle and Tighten the Lug Nuts Again

    Use the jack to lower the vehicle so that the spare tire is resting on the ground but the full weight of the vehicle isn’t fully on the tire. At this point, you should tighten the lug nuts with the wrench, turning clockwise, as much as you can.  Push down on the lug wrench with the full weight of your body.

    14. Lower the vehicle completely

    Bring the vehicle all the way to the ground and remove the jack. Give the lug nuts another pull with the wrench to ensure they’re as tight as possible.

   16. Store All Equipment

    You have before you a jack, a lug wrench, wheel wedges, your flat tire, and possibly a hubcap. Don’t forget to put all of them in your vehicle before driving away.

    17. Check The Pressure in the Spare Tire

    You should check the tire pressure of the spare tire to make sure that it is safe to drive on. “T-Type” temporary spares, also called “mini-spares,” require 60 psi (420 kPa).  If the tire needs pressure, drive (slowly) to a service station immediately.

    18. Take Your Flat Tire to a Technician

    Temporary spare tires aren’t made to drive long distances or at high speeds, so drive cautiously until you’re able to visit a tire technician. A professional should be able to determine whether your tire needs a repair or if it’s time to replace it.

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WHY DO WE SEE SOMEONES BEAUTY AFTER THEY PASS AWAY

LIVE WITH LOVE AND COMPASSION

 Life is precious and the people we meet as we go through life are just as important . Everyone has a role to play in life.
So why is it that we never appreciate those we care about or those we know and have encountered on this path life has set us on.
Why is it we only tend to see the beauty of a person soul only when they are no longer.
Are we that busy hurrying through life that we have gotten ahead of ourselves saying,'' i m not dying and neither are you .''that we think tomorrow is promised to everyone.
Each breath we inhale and each breath we exhale brings us closer to our last
Nobody knows when  where or how they will go.
The beauty of life means we have time to get to know people.
We get to experience life with them . We get to know what they are about and get involved in ways that help build eachother up that is what the human spirit is it is bigger than anyone of us. That is what separetes us from animals .
Yet when you turn on the news all you see is how animals seem to behave better towards each other than we do to each other.
The biggest regrets at funerals are always'' i wish i knew'' and '' i wish i did''. Why cant we live life and sensitive toward each others needs.
Valuing and treasuring each other while we have the chance,because the hardest part is going to the funeral of someone you once cared for and  what you perceived in your head and the reality is totally opposite of them is totally different lets save those alive and living  so that when they pass away we know we did all we could..

MARRIAGE/LOVE IS NOT A BED OF ROSES

LOVE IS LIKE A ROSE” TO PICK THE ROSE AND ENJOY HER BEAUTY” YOU MUST ENDURE THE SUFFERING OF HER THORNS.

I believe marriage/love like,  life is defined as much by the problems that have to be overcome together, as a husband and wife or as partners.Many a times .We are not prepared or warned about what will come up and our reactions or the actions of the other person tends to cripple the relationship.

Marriage/love is not always a bed of roses. In every relationship, there are ups and downs. It is not always perfect and conflict free. It is about confronting .These issues and overcoming them without hurting the other party.

This is possibly one of the things that are hard to achieve.Marriage/relationships are not a stroll down Easy road.It is more like a bumpy drive,through Traits and Weakness . It is difficult because, it is the bonding together of two limited and imperfect human beings.That is what we forget to remember, we are both human and we are both flawed.

 Becoming one does not mean becoming the same. Oneness only means, sharing the same degree of commitment to the marriage, having the goals, dreams, and mission in life as a couple.That is what we struggle through because ,we have to let go of what we know we have to let go of some aspects that do not fit into the union and those are the growing pains that cripple people.The issues that remain unresolved come back again and again until they’re resolved and worked out Achieving internal conformity comes with engaging in unselfish acts like;

• ·         Build respect and self-love. Developing love and respect for one’s self contributes to building a healthy relationship with a partner.  Sometimes we’re blessed with partners who have an abundance of Self-confidence and can help us to cultivate this quality within ourselves.  At other times we need to look inside to find the qualities we love about ourselves.  A good partner will help us to find our best qualities and build our self-esteem. 
• ·         Make a best friend and coach of your mate. Our mates may be the only people who will be honest with us when we have muck on our faces.  While others might ignore it or walk away, our partners will say, “honey, clean your face.”  Our partner is usually the one who knows us better than anyone else and if we listen to their feedback, he or she can help us become better people.
• ·         Listen and affirm. One of the biggest issues in relationships is a lack of effective communication. While most couples communicate all the time through slamming doors, yelling, criticizing and complaining, this kind of communication is destructive.  Good communication means really listening to a partner in the same way we might listen to a dear friend.  With a friend we seek to understand. We will sit and listen patiently and often repeat back some of the things they’ve said to let them know we’ve heard and understood.  “I feel like you don’t pay attention,” a mate may say.  Repeating, “I understand that you don’t feel like I pay attention,” may be a good way to connect and move into deeper understanding. But this must be done with sincerity and heart.
• ·         Be attentive, not defensive. It’s easy to fall into the blame game where both parties start to blame the other for how they’re acting.  Make a concerted effort to step out of this, take responsibility for actions and move into a softer more receptive space rather than onto defensive terrain where the language can sometime turn brutal.  By stepping back just a little and taking the ego out of play, the barrier to real connection falls away and a door to a sincere, heartfelt connection opens.
• ·         Make the first move to improve. If you’re willing to make a change for the better, but your mate isn’t on board, then don’t be deterred.  Go ahead and follow your agenda. Listen and affirm.  Be attentive; stop criticizing and hold good intentions and thoughts about your mate and your partnership. By simply making changes in yourself and your actions and attitudes, the world around will change too. 

·  Relationships are investments you commit to conform uniformly and the process of unification is what is the hardest .The most important thing is to make sure the person you choose to embark on this journey is the kind of person you are willing to change it all for that way it is not a struggle or a sacrifice but it becomes a willing choice you would happily do over again and again with until you get it right.
Live< Love ,Learn and never stop Dreaming.
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EVERYBODY DIES BUT NOT EVERYBODY LIVES

LIVE LIFE

Do you want to spend your last moments regretting the things you never did .
Life is short.
Go out and do what you want to do
not everyone has the same chances but everyone has the same amount of time and the ability to go out and achieve .
Greatness is what you set your mind to doing and actually doing it.
It doesnt matter how many times you fail all that matters is that you keep on going even at the worst of times.
Failure  will never hinder your success if you are determined to succeed.
Don't be a slave to life. Dont settle for normal . Aim for great.People fought hard to achieve the freedom we have right now.
If u want to make it to the top there are sharp ridges you will have to step over you might get bruised along the way but that is the cost of living . Scars are lessons and from those lessons we will achieve what we hope to because .What doesn't break you strengthens you.
Struggles are the prerequisites to greatness and no one escapes it.
Pain is part of life, but u can choose what pain either the pain of  regret or the pain of going after success.
You are not defined by your past but with each moment you live learn and work towards being great.
Don't spend your last moments  wishing spend your last moments reliving the life you lived with a smile on your face.
Everybody dies, so choose to live your life, or you wouldn't have truly lived .

COUNTDOWN TO THE NEXT ONE. . . .

.A WOMAN'S MOODS

Most days i spend the day smiling and living in my own fantasy bubble. Waltzing around and that is my happy place its where i am being me with no apologies
Other days i just wake up unhappy without warning  It gets to a point when all the alarms in your head keep going off. One after the other and you just have to explode to be ok and it's just because we carry a lot with us and when it all catches up its like a ticking time bomb.
Sometimes a simple task or a sudden memory can trigger an emotional outburst of tears  which makes you wonder what is wrong with me?and No i am not PMSing.
As I began writing this post I searched for related quotes and Google had me laughing endlessly.
  The first one that caught my eye was "only two things can change a woman's moods.I LOVE YOU and a 50% discount sale."

In all honesty depends on the situation but it can also add fuel to the fire. I.e so if you love me why did ..... and their is never a right answer when a woman is mad .So just stay clear and stick to I'm sorry to be on the safe side.
A 50% sale hahaha always is good to buy new stuff but when your mad or sad and go a little too far and wake up the next morning looking through yesterday's receipts. Those 999's keep adding up to thousands and you want to kill someone. Yep that discount didn't help just made things worse.

The next one that caught my eye was "some people have mood swings others have mood theme parks."
 when the reality is  a woman's life is like a theme park the first few days shes happy the next shes excited the last she is agitated
An estimated 85 percent of women experience at least one symptom of PMS per month,(premenstrual syndrome)

During this time Follicle-stimulating hormone, or FSH, is secreted, stimulating the production of follicles in the ovaries that contain eggs.

This is more likely to be your “happy” time of the month. “It may just be in contrast to the second part of the month,”

 During a woman’s ovulatory phase, a substance called luteinizing hormone increases.

This hormone prompts the release of an egg from the ovaries into the fallopian tubes for fertilization. Estradiol is present in significant quantities around the time of ovulation, and it can interact with other hormones to increase your libido.

“Estradiol makes insulin more effective,Then the insulin tells the body to release more testosterone, and testosterone is one of the hormones that regulate sex drive.” Some experts surmise that this may be nature’s way of encouraging women to have sex during their most fertile time.may have a greater tolerance to pain too. You might also be more likely to buy clothes, makeup, and other items to help yourself feel more attractive,

 After ovulation, the empty follicle that once contained the egg begins to secrete the hormone progesterone to thicken the lining of the uterus and prepare it for the possible implantation of an embryo.

As progesterone levels rise, you may begin to feel moodier. This happens because progesterone helps the body make cortisol, a hormone that tends to be higher in people who are stressed. If cortisol levels are already elevated because of outside factors, like a busy workweek, the progesterone can cause an excess of cortisol in the body. “If I’m already doing something to give myself high cortisol levels, by the time I get to the second half of my cycle, I’m going to be irritable,The “yucky” feelings that come in the days before your period might have you looking like a creature.

 
In conclusion from all the quotes I've read it's evident that a woman's moods can shift real quick and at the end of the day it's better to be on a woman's good side so don't start up something you are not prepared to finish.

I CHOOSE ME

I CHOOSE ME

I choose me, For the times I didn't choose myself.

I choose to laugh, For the times I cried.

I choose to stand, For all the times I wasn't strong enough to stand on my own.

I choose to fight, For the times I was weak.

I choose to love myself, Because I know I am worth of love and won't settle for anything les

I choose to have faith, Because faith is what has got me this far.

I choose love over hate, Because now I know the power that love possesses and the vile that hate spews.

I choose to forgive, Not because I am dum but because I know the joy of release.

I choose to free myself in body, mind and soul , Because I realised the prison you create for yourself is worse than a physical jail cell.

I choose life, Because I see it in my daughters eyes

I choose to live and be free,Because that is what life is.

I choose to forgivemyself.For the times i wasnt forgiven and for those i need to forgive.

i choose happiness and nothing less .

A WOMANS VOWS

 TO YOU

I take you as you are

I love you unconditionally without hesitation

I will love you when we are together,and when we are apart.

Loving what I know of you, trusting what things I will discover.

I will respect you as a person, a partner, and an equal.

I am devoted to you in every way

I promise you,i will laugh with you and comfort you in times of sorrow

I will support you in your dreams and help you strive to achieve them

I will listen to you with compassion and understanding

I speak to you with encouragement

Together we will build a home filled with love,laughter.

We will learn together and build from the lessons

Let us be partners, friends and lovers

I promise to love and care for you, and I will try in every way to be worthy of your love.

I will always be honest with you, kind, patient and forgiving.

But most of all, I promise to be a true and loyal friend to you.

You are my accomplice,

And you are my true counterpart.

I will love you, hold you and honour you,

In sickness and in health

I promise to be your lover, companion and friend,

Your partner in parenthood,

Your ally in conflict,

Your greatest fan and your toughest adversary.

Your comrade in adventure,

Your student and your teacher,

Your consolation in disappointment,

Your accomplice in mischief.

I take you to be my partner for life,

I promise above all else to live in truth with you

And to communicate fully and fearlessly,

I give you my hand and my heart

As a sanctuary of warmth and peace

And pledge my love, devotion, faith and honor

As I join my life to yours

Hand in hand ,on this journey

Above all you are my husband. You are the one I choose to submit to.