A TIME TO BE STILL

Self-discovery is a lifelong journey of growth, reflection, and transformation. It's about peeling back the layers of our being, unraveling our true essence and purpose in life. 

It's an expedition of introspection, exploration, and growth that leads to profound understanding and acceptance of oneself. Exploring the depths of our thoughts, emotions, beliefs, and experiences. It's about questioning our assumptions, challenging our limitations, and embracing our vulnerabilities.

Breaking free of conditioning and societal expectations to uncover the essence of who we truly are

In our daily lives, finding moments of tranquility can seem like an elusive dream. However, amidst the chaos, there lies a profound opportunity to find inner peace. 

True peace isn't merely the absence of turmoil; it's a state of harmony and contentment that originates from within. Here's a guide to embarking on the journey to find peace within yourself:

The path to inner peace begins with self-acceptance. Embrace yourself fully, flaws and all. Recognize that imperfection is part of the human experience, and it doesn't diminish your worth. Practice self-compassion and let go of harsh self-judgment. Embracing who you are opens the door to inner peace.

Then there is mindfulness. The art of being fully present in the moment without judgment.Which truly  sometimes feel impossible to do. 

It requires you to pay attention to your thoughts, feelings, and sensations with curiosity and kindness. You can try  meditation, deep breathing, or simply being aware of your surroundings, you can anchor yourself in the present moment and find peace amidst the chaos around you.

Release.Holding onto resentment and grudges only weighs you down and disrupts your peace of mind. 

Which is another tough one.

Let go of past grievances and practice forgiveness, not necessarily for others' sake but for your own well-being. Forgiveness doesn't mean condoning the actions of others; it means freeing yourself from the burden of anger and resentment.

Gratitude is another  powerful tool for finding inner peace. Take time each day to reflect on the things you're grateful for, no matter how small. Whether it's a beautiful sunset, a kind gesture from a friend, or the simple pleasure of a warm cup of tea, cultivating gratitude shifts your focus from what's lacking to what's abundant in your life.

Another way is by going into Nature. What is natural. 

Nature has a remarkable ability to soothe the soul and restore inner peace. Spend time outdoors . Connecting with the natural world can help quiet the mind, reduce stress, and foster a sense of inner calm.

Nurture Your Spirituality as well by  connecting with something greater than yourself, nurturing your spirituality can give you a sense of purpose and meaning that transcends the challenges of daily life.

Taking care of yourself is essential for maintaining inner peace. Make self-care a priority by nourishing your body with healthy food, laughter,getting regular exercise, prioritizing sleep, and engaging in activities that bring you joy and relaxation.Self-care isn't selfish—it's necessary for your overall well-being.

In a world filled with noise and distractions, finding peace within yourself is worth it. Remember, true peace comes from within .it's a state of being that you carry with you wherever you go.

Self-discovery is not about attaining perfection but rather about embracing our imperfections with compassion and understanding. It's about recognizing that our flaws and mistakes are integral parts of our journey, offering valuable lessons and opportunities for growth. By cultivating self-compassion and self-forgiveness, we learn to celebrate our uniqueness and accept ourselves unconditionally.

Be aware of your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, as well as the world around us. Mindfulness practices enable us to observe ourselves without judgment, fostering a deeper understanding of our inner landscape. As we become more attuned to our authentic desires and values, we gain clarity about the path that aligns with our true purpose.

Also accept that Along the way we change. People change.Embracing change requires us to step out of our comfort zones, confront our fears, and take bold leaps into the unknown. By embracing uncertainty and embracing change, we open ourselves up to new possibilities and experiences that enrich our lives.

While self-discovery is a personal journey, it's also about forging meaningful connections with others. Through authentic relationships, we learn more about ourselves, mirror our strengths and weaknesses, and receive support and guidance along the way. By nurturing healthy connections with like-minded individuals, mentors, or communities, we expand our perspective.

This long break has thought me alot and I can't wait to share it all with you.

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METAMORPHOSIS

 GIVE YOURSELF TIME

I must say it has been a while since I wrote anything. To be honest I didn't see the point at which I would begin to write again . 

For me it's not just about churning out content for you to consume it's about speaking to you from my soul.  For a while my soul was silent . It was learning, healing living and experiencing what it was meant to experience . 

What a year it has been so much growth . So many lessons. Healing, falling apart,loss and finally I arrive at the point where I can share with you .

For a time the phrase,"die of self kept ringing" in my mind . I was troubled what did it mean! What was on the other side of that! How do I get there, without taking too much a beating and,could I just wakeup . Having miraculously learnt a lesson the easy way.

Well that didn't happen . Last year the essence of who I am was stretched beyond what I new possible. (Podcast episodes loading so subscribe...)  I learnt valuable lessons in motherhood, love,family ,my own strength. But most importantly I learnt resilience. The importance and the beauty of persistence.

Imagine waking up. Getting dressed, leaving the house and not knowing where you are going,but you just keep walking . 

Uncertain about who you are . What is important and what isn't. Trying to find meaning and not finding anything. You look at yourself in the mirror and can't recognise who you are. Can't recognise who the person you have been is .

You even don't know what to expect on the other side or if you will make it to the other side of what it is your going through.I went through a shedding of habits,thoughts,patterns,relationships and breaking of the ego. 

It's one thing to be able to share a lesson after you have gone through it but as you are deep in the thick of growth it's hard . When you are the source of strength and can't find the strength that you need! 

Well here I am now. Standing after a full season of shedding. A season where I didn't see how I could get to the other side because my own mind couldn't give me the peace I needed . Because I was fighting against the growing pains instead of going through .

In life the only way out is through ...

 A lesson that was hit hard and allowed me to see things I have been refusing to see . When the biggest supporter of untold lives of women passed away . A woman who cheered me on. Kept asking when I will release new content. The woman who gave me hope when I couldn't see a way through. The woman sho showed me you can raise your child on your own and succeed. A woman who loved my daughter like her own . A woman who listened to me rant and cry on her dining room table . A woman who genuinely cared . 

You know it's easy to be the bad guy in other people's stories . It's also easy to recieve. But giving of yourself selflessly is the toughest thing you can ever do. It is thankless . But because it's who you are programmed to be it's what you must do. 

 It's even harder when there's no one there on the other side to help you through but yourself. However if you can be a light to someone else . Do it because that's the light that will allow them to be an even bigger light to someone else . For me her light allowed me to shine.

Don't fear change .Don't fight change. Allow yourself to go through it so that you can be the butterfly you are meant to be .

THAT WHICH YOU JUDGE YOU BECOME

Sinners judging sinners for sinning differently

I had a conversation with someone about the importance of speaking your mind but doing so politely.....it was a long conversation. 

You see imagine going your whole life just agreeing to everything and not speaking up when you need to .

You then get to a point where you get tired of bottling it up so you start to speak your mind . Irregardless of how it affects anyone. Your argument being," nobody cared when I was hurting silently. So I shouldn't care if anyone doesn't like what I have to say" .

Makes sense . It really does. Almost couldn't argue with that. Except. Making people feel bad using words cuts deeper than anything else in this world.

 I love words. That's why I write. It holds weight. So it's important to be careful of the words you use.

So I asked why didn't you speak up all your life why now? They said, because I was affraid of saying the wrong thing and getting scolded for it. Coz it happened alot when I was younger. I was always told off . So I stayed quiet........let that sink in!!!

Without knowing this person had ended up doing the same thing they disliked being on the receiving end of. 

This happens alot in life. We tend to end up doing the things we fear, the things we hate, the things we judge other people for doing. Simply because it's an area we need to heal/learn from. So that we can move on. If we don't we will repeat the pattern and harm not only ourselves but those around us as well .

TWINKLE LIKE THE STAR YOU ARE.

YOUR DESTINY IS WITHIN YOU BUT IT BENEFITS MORE THAN JUST YOU. YOU IMPACTS THE LIVES OF OTHERS

At some point i woke up and said I was done with the nairobi feminist because I was naive to believe it had reached its end.

So many people asked me why. And to be honest I don't think I had a valid answer. Part of me felt I've done enough. I've said enough . I've helped enough . I've had enough. I'm not enough!

Truly selfish reasons if you ask me. But the thing about being a creative. You can only create art when you are inspired and I lacked that for a while. I lost the plot as someone once told me. That was the truth I was lost. I had strayed far away from why I do what I do and why it's so important to me.  Mostly because I had so much going on.

Funny thing is in all of that I forgot I was going against the grain. I was forcing my body,soul and mind to do things it didn't want to do. And it forced me to stop and listen to the voice within.

I must say what I heard made me feel very apologetic. I heard the words," who said you can just stop! The gift wasn't given to you . To use as you please but to serve . To help . To inspire . To teach . To comfort. It doesn't belong to you it belongs to those you help . Your just the vessel and if you stop what is your worth!

And I tell you I was shocked and humble and humiliated at the same time . I had forgotten we are not placed on this earth to just exist for ourselves . But to be a light to others and in that you have to die of self . Loose all selfishness . Realize that you are only as important as the impact you have on others. Create a little heaven on this dark Earth so that others can begin to want to see the real thing .

Live , learn, laugh , love and never stop dreaming .If you dream it it can happen. If you put in the work from the lessons learnt 

RECOGNIZING THE PAIN BODY WITHIN YOURSELF

SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO LOOK WITHIN AND REALISE YOU ARE THE PROBLEM

In our lives we all have moments where we want to be at peace within ourselves. However, it seems impossible. It feels like we are stuck and unable to cross that barrier to heal and find peace. I've been at that point of stickiness severally. However what I have learn in those moments is something I repeat regularly on here.  When you go against the grain. When you go against the very fibre of your body, mind and soul.Your  body will not allow you to proceed until you rectify the course of your direction.

We all have a destination we are heading to. To get there we have to realise the reason for our existence, let go of all that holds us back. That is remember you came into this earth with nothing. You will leave with nothing. So absolutely nobody  and nothing is more important than the soul that lives within you.Dont sell yourself short.

Don't allow yourself to be fooled into thinking your past, your present , your future is of key value. Think in this moment what am I doing that gives me peace and shows love and kindness to those around me . Especially  to the strangers you meet, the orphans and the widows.

To find peace you have to look back at all the moments that you have pain / sharp knives in your back allow them to speak . Don't silence them say those things outloud and release the power they have had over you by saying. I will not let you ruin another moment of my life any more.

NEVER REGRET AND NEVER LOOK BACK !

A REASON FOR EVERY SEASON

If I could choose a place to start. It would be at the point where the end is in sight. The point where all the moments of sheer heartbreak, tears ,frustration, fatigue no longer feel like that. Where those moments feel worth it. Where those last few steps get you to the finish line and you get a good cry because it was all worth it and you wouldn't change anything. 

Completion. The feeling of being complete.

When I started this blog. I knew I wanted to share what I have learnt and what I was learning with other people. Now between thinking about it and actually starting it took me months. Mostly because of the amount of vulnerability involved in sharing your story with the world. 

A mom at 21! Terrified!!!

Looking back I see my strength.

I see the pain , I see the joy.

Most importantly I see that what was meant to break me. Gave me purpose , gave me strength. Gave me hope.

I wouldn't change a thing looking back 10 years later I am truly grateful for every moment. Every experience . Every high and every low.

My brother told me .it's always better to have a tough start and a happy ending than the reverse of that. I have held on to that and seen it unravel.

I have shared my story with all . Hundreds of thousands of people. Across the globe I see countries reading my words on my stats that I dream of visiting. I get emails and messages and I am grateful that I had to learn something inorder to share it because, my lessons travel the world and open doors for me to get there in person.

So what I would like to say is . Don't give up. Don't regret, Learn your lesson and trust that Jesus has a plan for it all .

Thankyou every person who has been on this. Journey with me.

SOMETIMES IT IS NOT YOUR BUSINESS TO TELL!

Have you ever been mad because you, wanted to stop someone from making a mistake. However, they still make the mistake and then on top of that . They get mad at you for pointing it out and make you the Villain!

What if it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.

You volunteered information when they where not ready to deal with it .Instead of them dealing with it .They walk themselves straight into what you where trying to do.

The question is what was your intention when you where telling them. 

Two, how do you think they will react to the information.

Three, do they need to know.

Four, are you going to be ok with what they choose to do with the information.

The most important lesson I've learnt is always ask before you give your opinion or information. Consent is key.

Sometimes the people who don't know all the details are the loudest to speak but what comes out of their mouth is out of the abundance/ lack of within.

Also learn to mind your own business and stay out of other people's business because it has a way of coming back to bite you in the ass.

Deal with you and only you.

You can only control what you do and how you react and for those reason always choose to be better.