As a mom i have learnt patience in a way i never thought possible, and applying it to everyday life has become a slightly easier task.For those that cant relate with that let me give you an example.
When you find a child making a mess or doing something wrong.They are the hardest to correct because, you dont want to scar them,traumatise them or even say the wrong thing because ,you have to correct them with love and in gentleness.
In order for them to know that what they are doing is wrong, and that you want to put them on the right path.
It occured to me that when it comes to correcting anybody. Irrgardless of age ,we should correct them the same way we would correct a child.
When correcting someone the goal is to apply light and not heat.
We correct them because we want them to change and for change to be effective it has to be willing.
With that in mind below is a list of things to avoid to effectively guide someone in the right direction.
The three things you should avoid are;
- Shouting.(which feels like attacking the person)
- Manipulation.
- Commanding (That is Dictating what to do or Forcing someone to do something.).
SHOUTING
I want you to think back to the last time someone shouted at you to do something and you actually did it with a good heart ? Personally, i can tell you that shouting may get the job done but, the outcome isnt permanent and it isnt done whole heartedly.
Inorder to have permanent change of attitude. The person must see that what they are doing is wrong and they must see that it must be corrected.
The way you approach every situation determines the outcome.So before you shout and raise both your voice and their anger think wisely of what kind of result you are chasing.
MANIPULATION
Can be defined as, exerting shrewd or devious influence especially for ones own advantage. Or as, the skillful handling controlling or using of something or someone.
With that in mind although you can easily achieve the outcome you hope for
.Remember that we are all intelligent beings and when we eventually realise that we have been manipulated into doing something.
Resentment and even hate can surface and when it does you might end up loosing that person so evaluate and see if it is worth the risk.
COMMANDING/DICTATING/FORCING
Nobody likes being forced into doing anything and more importantly note that God himself gives you a choice and even though he knows the right path you should take he lets you find your own way.Even though he could easily get mad and wipe you from existance he ic loving he is kind and he is patient with us above all he never stops believing in us thats why he sent his son to save us
When correcting some one correct them in love and kindness that way they dont get mad and rebel or even do things half heartedly.Politeness always goes a long way even if they are in the wrong
Live ,Laugh ,Love ,Learn and remember, 'FROM THE ERRORS OF OTHERS A WISE MAN CORRECTS HIS OWN'.
