See my previous post signs you are dating a narcissist
And in most cases the follow up question is always do you blame those raised by such mother's for growing up to hate women themselves.
Let me break down to you what that could be like.. Imagine being a little child in a house full of chaos and love .High highs and lows lows . Constant fighting from parents and to make it worse you are forced to pick a side. A home where the woman provides and constantly belittles you. Reminds you how worthless you are and tells the children how bad you are. Or a home where nothing you ever do is good enough . All that is seen is where you fall short. A mother that calls your success from hard work a result of prostitution . And sees nothing wrong with such accusations. A home where you are discouraged from achieving your goals and reminded when you aren't as successful as those around you.
A home where you are constantly reminded you are inadequate. A home where you are turned against eachother
A woman loved by all outside the home. A perfect and upright God fearing woman but a source of pain with in it . The perfect narcissist shows love and kindness only to be harsh and cruel the next. Almost as if it's two different personalities living in one person. To the point you would rather starve than go be seen eating food she bought . A woman that sees you as sin and judges you harsher than even God himself.
Imagine being driven into depression/suicide by the same woman who gave birth to you . The worst part being . The cycle continues onto the next generation.
I will start my answer by saying HURT PEOPLE HURT PEOPLE . IT IS FOR YOU TO DECIDE IF YOU WANT TO BREAK THE CYCLE OR NOT.
Narcissists project their own fears, mistakes and short comings towards you.
A cruel person is a cruel person irregaress of gender.Children who grow up with a narcissistic parent tend to suffer from at least some of the following as children and as adults: anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, self-doubt, self-blame, indecision, people-pleasing tendencies, difficulties with emotional intimacy, and codependent relationships.
One thing about a narcissist is their monumental weakness in the narcissist is the failure to look internally and flesh out what needs to be worked on within themselves. They constantly look for faults in the lives of other people.
How to Outsmart a Narcissist.
Separate yourself to cut off their narcissistic supply.
Take time to heal.
Take responsibility for your part in a conflict.
React with empathy and respect.
Act unresponsive around them.
Disengage from their conversations.
Set and enforce clear boundaries.
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To end this blog I would like to say if you have gone through a hard time as a result of a loved one . I want you to know that you are not alone. You are loved . You are appreciated. You are not a burden . You have value . You are beautiful . You are an amazing human being. You are worth it all and although you are not where you want to be you will get there don't lose faith.
Just keep swimming (in Dorys voice)
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