Pain ,trauma, physical reminders and emotional scars have a way of being etched so deep in our mind that we go on an instinctual defensive mode.
We raise our walls and without knowing the very thing we where trying to avoid is what happens .
How do we avoid this ? The simple but hard solution is to simply to deal with the root cause of our triggers. Whatever causes you to need to protect yourself even when you don't need to protect yourself needs to be regulated.
How you ask? By simply saying this made me heart because it reminded me of this. However you then have to realize that this is a completely different situation and or person and or thing. And judging it based on a past experience unrelated is making a poor decision an unfair decision.
We need to learn how to heal our emotions by feeding them on a healthy emotional diet. Feeling yourself with love, acceptance,and kindness . Knowing that someone else's decisions and opinions are their own and they should have little to no effect on how you see yourself.
You are the most important person in your life .Fill yourself with positivity and reassurance and most importantly self love.
Let your guard down. Set aside your pride and disconnect all the parts of your life that only bring you pain even if it also brings you joy. Choose you . Choose to heal .
Cry through the lows ,laugh through the highs but don't ever agree to feel that you don't deserve to be here Abit longer to try achieve the happiness you deserve.
