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Tuesday, October 19, 2021


'....We teach boys to be afraid of fear ,of weakness, and vulnerability. We teach them to mask their true selves because they have to be " a hard man".... we end up leaving them with fragile egos. And we raise girls to cater to those fragile egos.

We teach girls to shrink themselves make themselves smaller. We say to girls you can have ambition but not too much .You should aim to be successful but not too successful otherwise you will threaten the man.
If you are the bread winner in your relationship with a man act like you are not. Especially in public otherwise you will emasculate him. But what if we question the premise itself? " (Extract from we should all be feminists by chimamanda adichie )

To be honest the way in which she put this book together and specific these words is just truthin itself.  Why can't it simply be , the person with more money or more financial capability pay? Why can't it be. We spend the same amount of time at work doing the same job we should be paid equally? Why does It have to be because he is male  and you are female a good enough answer?
Why does it have to be based on size and physical build that shows ability instead of what we bring to the table?

Gender equality simply asks that we are given the same opportunities Based on our capabilities and not as a result of a role that has been forced on us.
Equality is to eliminate the notion that one is better than the other and allow for all to exist and fill the same space for a free exchange. 

A woman's success should be a success for all . It shouldn't be seen as something that makes her unruly ,undesirable and difficult. As compared to  a man's success which shows his capabilities, his hard work ,his determination, which automatically makes him a good man and husband.

If we all have a brain why should women be only allowed to use parts of it and selectively know when to show intelligence and men can be themselves at all times. Why is it ok for a man to question a zig zag line and a problem for a woman to question the same line? Is it so absurd the feminine perspective is just as equally deserving of observation and  opportunity? Why does respect have to be something a woman shows a man and not necessarily something that a man shows a woman? Why should one be the sacrificial lamb inorder to help the other achieve their best instead of allowing both to enable each other to be successful and grow together?  We need to see gender as who we are and allow for us all  to be free and not just what we have been taught to be because what we have been taught to be has caused more harm than good. More insecurities.

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