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Wednesday, January 3, 2018



GBV can fit into several broad categories. These include violence carried out by "individuals" as well as "states".
Some of the forms of violence perpetrated by individuals are: rapedomestic violencesexual harassmentreproductive coercionfemale infanticideprenatal sex selection, obstetric violence, and mob violence; as well as harmful customary or traditional practices such as honor killingsdowry violencefemale genital mutilationmarriage by abduction and forced marriage.

 Some forms of violence are perpetrated or condoned by the state such as war rapesexual violence and sexual slavery during conflict; forced sterilizationforced abortion; violence by the police and authoritative personnel; stoning and flogging.

trafficking in women and forced prostitution are often perpetrated by organized criminal networks.

violence against women (VAW) " is understood as a violation of human rights and a form of discrimination against women and shall mean all acts of gender-based violence that result in, or are likely to result in, physical, sexual, psychological or economic harm or suffering to women, including threats of such acts, coercion into sex or arbitrary deprivation of liberty . whether occuring in public or in private life.

Violence against women and girls is one of the most prevalent human rights violations in the world. It knows no social, economic or national boundaries. Worldwide, an estimated one in three women will experience physical or sexual abuse in her lifetime.
That statistic in itself is alarming. Translate that into your friends and family and you can imagine .Someone has either gone through it and suffers in silence or the person that has gone through it and is yet to heal from the ordeal.
However this doesnt mean that gender based violence doesnt occur towards men.
Violence against men (VAM), consists of violent acts  that are disproportionately or exclusively committed against men. Men are over represented as both victims and perpetrators of violence.
Sexual violence against men is treated differently in any given society from that committed against women and may be unrecognized by international law.
Studies of social attitudes show violence is perceived as more or less serious depending on the gender of victim and perpetrator.
According to a study in the publication,"Aggressive Behavior", violence against women was about a third more likely to be reported by third parties to the police regardless of the gender of the attacker,although the most likely to be reported gender combination was a male perpetrator and female victim.
The use of stereotypes by law enforcement is a recognised issue,and international law scholar Solange Mouthaan argues that, in conflict scenarios, sexual violence against men has been ignored in favor of a focus on sexual violence against women and children.
A good example are the stories we hear about in male prisons (dont drop the soap).However nothing is done about it. How can the place where one is to be refomed and re introduced into society be the source of  more trauma. This just means we are re introducing troubled men back to the society.
One explanation for the difference in focus is the physical power that men hold over women making people more likely to condemn men than women.The concept of male survivors of violence go against social perceptions of the male gender role, leading to low recognition and few legal provisions.
Often there is no legal framework for a woman to be prosecuted when committing violent offenses against a man.
Violence against women is not different from violence against men. The same motives play a role in almost all violence
Gender-based violence undermines the health, dignity, security and autonomy of its victims, yet it remains shrouded in a culture of silence. 
A silence that is killing many and destroying lives.
Here in our country. If your daughter or son  gets raped/molested  or abused ."Yes you take them to hospital and ensure all protocals are observed.However few times any cases are forwarded to the police . 
After ,it becomes a secret to be kept and talked about in hushed tones. In many cases the families of the victims assume that it is forgotten and all is well and the survivor is left to deal with the psychological damage on their own.
Victims of violence can suffer sexual and reproductive health consequences, including forced and unwanted pregnancies, unsafe abortions, traumatic fistula, sexually transmitted infections including HIV, and even death. However if non of that happens we assume psycological trauma is not a big deal.
The issue of gender based violence is a serious issue yet it is not treated with the urgency and seriousness it deserves.
In my own experience our GBV centers are a disgrace and clearly show how the people left in charge take the matter lightly. Dont get me wrong they do alot and help thousands of men and women annually with the work they do. However there is room for improvement.
Gender Based Violence ,needs to be an issue that is drilled into peoples conscious. So that the awareness is so loud . It sticks out like a sore thumb. If we did it with the ban of plastic bags we can do it.
If we were to begin creating awareness on the scale the issue deserves the first people to be stream lined would be those incharge of the current recovery centers offered to the public .
Online and offline campaigns to create awareness that it is not just a female issue and get more men involved in the discussion . 
We would also need to create institutions for The perpetrators to under go genuine  rehabilitation . and create more centers where survivors (not victim's) can come together and help eachother. 
Because the only people that understand the depth of the situation are people. Who have gone through it.
After all the best way to stop it from happening is to prevent it from happening.