People always get surprised when I say, "I am a mother to a daughter." they always insist I look too young.First of all I would like to thank God and my mom for the good genes. But they are right I had a child at 21 which some might consider young.
However,I have met women who had children while still getting their primary education and have listened to a variety of their stories. When they look back years down the line with with their children becoming teenagers. The one thing they can all agree on is that A child is always a blessing.
The smiles on their faces is priceless and it warms my heart.
I write to all you,fellow young mums to give you some of the lessons I have learnt, and some that have been shared with me.
The decision to keep a child can be a daunting decision .Especially if you had not planned for it! But once u decide to choose love it becomes a blissful experience. "All a child needs is love and the rest will be provided" that was the first piece of advice I got it was very simple and that's what I hold on to this day.
Sharing a body with someone for 9 months
(depending on gestation period) is the most beautiful gift you can experience. For once you are not alone. Someone knows how you feel .Someone shares with you your food,your laughter,your tears, your worry,your blood and most importantly you get to communicate with that person growing inside you .In those months you share your daily experiences with someone and they felt every emotion. That is where they first connected with you. This bond is what makes each child special.
You then get to feel the pain of birth and in that, you learn that There is nothing you wouldn't do for you child.You feel what your mother felt when she pushed you out into this world. In that you learn to treasure your mother and you learn to appreciate her more because you realise everything she has done for you is out of her love for you.
When you spend the next 6 months looking at your child and them looking at you ,helplessly depending on you for everything.The bond grows sometimes stress, frustration,worry and anxiety too but that warm smile your toothless bundle of joy gives you melts it all away and that is unconditional love.
Each milestone passing and you get to see your child's personality. You see yourself in them and you want to protect them as best as you can but you then realise that everyone has their path on this earth and there is only so much u can do as you hope for the best.
As a mother there is no handbook that equips you to be the best parent or no handbook that helps you deal with the emotional whirlwind you go through when you become a mother. Everything you do is out of instinct and with that we need to cut our mothers some slack motherhood isn't easy.
What is important is to know that although you have no idea of what you are doing Trust in God. Don't ask him why just believe that he has your best interest at heart. The lessons learnt from motherhood are lessons you cannot get anywhere else.
Each day that passes, passes quick soon you get a hang of it. Some days are harder than others. The most important thing is to surround yourself with people who support and uplift you. Avoid toxicity in your life become blind and deaf to those that are constantly hating. You will probably loose many friends or people you held dear to you along the way. But it is fine those that stick by your side even When you give them little reason to become like Gold.
The journey of motherhood is not easy and don't expect it to be. Live,Love,Learn and never stop dreaming because you now have someone who looks up to you and depends on you. Do what you need to do and don't settle for less than you deserve. Fulfil your dreams as you fulfil your child's grow together and I guarantee you when you look back at the journey you have been on you will be proud of yourself and your child will appreciate all you have done for them.
Lastly,Learn to love yourself and get to know yourself.Forgive yourself for your short comings and appreciate yourself for all your positive attributes
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