Trust
noun
reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence.
confident expectation of something; hope.
verb (used with object)
to have trust or confidence in; rely or depend on.
to believe.
Trust in a relationship
Trusting someone means that you think they are reliable, you have confidence in them and you feel safe with them physically and emotionally. Trust is something that two people in a relationship can build together when they decide to trust each other.
I read this quote and It stuck with me it says ,"Trust is like paper once it's crumpled it's never straight."
Being able to trust is one of the most important parts of any relationship.
Trust is the foundation from which a strong connection can be built. Without it, it can be hard for relationships to grow and progress to a deeper level.
Building trust happens for differently, for some couples it's easier for others it's harder. Some couples trust is immediate others it happens over a matter of years.
Creating a healthy environment for building trust is important it enables an avenue for both parties to communicate freely without feeling misunderstood or judged.
You create a healthy environment by communicating openly.
A big part of building trust is being able to openly talk to your partner about the future of your relationship,talk about any worries, doubts and hopes openly, as this will help you negotiate your expectations and move forward together.
Identify what you have learnt from your past.
We tend to carry positive and negative experiences or lessons from previous relationships.We should be able to recognise the ways in which it may be affecting our behaviour is important in avoiding making the same mistakes over and over.
Be open about doubts. Many people feel guilty about having doubts in a relationship, but they’re a natural part of looking ahead long term. If you have doubts, don’t be afraid to talk to your partner about them. It's better to deal with a what if than wait and ask yourself what if
Talk about commitment. Commitment can be a tricky issue to talk about, but it’s necessary, set aside some time and give the conversation the attention it deserves. Think about what commitment would look like to you and ask your partner to do the same. We all come from different up bringing's and everyone has different opinions on commitment based on their experiences so talking is a good way of making sure your on the same page.
When Trust Is Broken And You Hit a Road Block
In my opinion Every relationship has its ups and downs.You just need to choose the one worth fighting for /Putting up with.Being able to deal with problems and move on is important. It shows how solid you are together.
Take a pause from the reality and Analyse how you’re feeling.
Think about how these feelings may be influencing your behaviour.
Being able to resolve or find peace with difficult emotions like anger or disappointment can be an important part of moving forward from conflict.
Think about your own part in what went wrong. While it can be tempting to blame our partners when there’s a disagreement or fight, we’ll usually be able to see there are things we could have done better too if we’re honest with ourselves. It’s not always easy, but try to recognise that every argument has two sides.
Talk about what happened. Take turns to communicate how you’re feeling about the issue and listen to what your partner has to say. It can be helpful to use ‘I’ phrases: ‘I feel...’, ‘I think...’, rather than ‘you’ phrases: ‘you always...’, ‘you seem to think...’. This way, you’re taking responsibility for your own feelings and your partner won’t feel like they’re being attacked.
However if you keep hitting the same road block and keep having the same disagreements you have 2 options, You can either
Stay and put up with the shit
Accept that things won't change and move on
Lastly it's important to Set Boundaries
Having clear boundaries together is a crucial part of starting to build trust. Boundaries help you define how much space you’re comfortable with in a relationship both emotionally or physically.
Define what your boundaries are. Think about what your ‘deal breakers’ would be and why they are important to you. Your partner may need to understand why you need these boundaries in place as well as some of the things that you’re willing to be more flexible on.
Talk about them. Set aside some time when you’re both feeling calm and relaxed. Accept the different views. It’s all about trying to reach sensible compromises. Meet somewhere in the middle.
Review them. It might sound a little business-like, but sitting back down every now and then to talk how you’re getting on can help to avoid slipping back into autopilot. It can be as simple as having another conversation every six months or so.
I hope this article has helped you.
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